Burnt, I wanted to comment on your response way below;
"An elder will insist on their adult children because that is their way of controlling the family's life".
Please everyone read the whole comment!
You are very insightful. While I'd love to believe many elders choose family over strangers because they love their family member, feel more comfortable with them, trust them & enjoy their company.. I totally get what you said & I have seen this controlling behaviour many many times.
I am still smoking mad whenever I let myself think back to the many times I was expected & manipulated into helping family because 'family helps family'.
*Family CONTROLS family* would be a more accurate assessment in many cases.
Like so many others here, I had to learn the lesson: Family will not ask/employ anyone else if you stay at their beck & call. It is only when you STOP they are forced to CHANGE.
"An elder will insist on their adult children because that is their way of controlling the family's life".
Please everyone read the whole comment!
You are very insightful. While I'd love to believe many elders choose family over strangers because they love their family member, feel more comfortable with them, trust them & enjoy their company.. I totally get what you said & I have seen this controlling behaviour many many times.
I am still smoking mad whenever I let myself think back to the many times I was expected & manipulated into helping family because 'family helps family'.
*Family CONTROLS family* would be a more accurate assessment in many cases.
Like so many others here, I had to learn the lesson: Family will not ask/employ anyone else if you stay at their beck & call. It is only when you STOP they are forced to CHANGE.