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He doesn’t remember that he does it & it’s difficult to cancel So far it has cost us a few thousand dollars if I don’t catch it right away He gets very angry when confronted says he’s not But I have stopped him before How do I stop these calls or control his actions He still wants his phone

You can't live this way. Cancel his phone if you can't be sure what he is going to do next. He will get angry and it will be unpleasant but if you cannot control his actions this is what you need to do.
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He can't have a normal phone anymore and it no longer matters whether he wants it or not. You will need to, at minimum, change is phone settings to only accept calls from numbers in his contacts. And you should review his contacts first! But seriously, he not safe to have a phone or to use one without supervision. That is the reality, whether he likes it or not. You'll need to be the bad guy, unfortunately. Another option is to simply block all calls and have them forwarded to you until you can be sure that it is safe to cancel it. It is tricky because I know accounts, etc, are often tied to cell numbers, but you need to move all of those things to your phone eventually anyway.
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You can get a phone with parental controls that limits his calls to numbers you've approved, like family members.
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No more confronting him, that’s not working or helping either of you. He’s lost the ability to make sound decisions, that puts you in charge now, but it can be done without confrontation. Either install blocks on his phone or change the phone out entirely to one better suited to the situation, such as one with no internet access, and only contacts that you program into it. Give family and friends firm instructions not to aid in altering what you’ve set up in his best interests. Don’t acknowledge the changes other than to say this is his phone now. I’m sorry it’s gotten so difficult and wish you much peace
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We took mom's phone away. It was over a year before she finally stopped talking about it, but this past Christmas she asked my kids if they got her a phone for Christmas. I had hoped she wouldn't circle back to that again as it has now been over a year since she brought it up. At least we don't have to apologize to the FBI anymore for mom's swatting escapades. She was very, very unpleasant about it, but we made it clear to all family members that mom was not to ever have a phone again. In your case you might just need to cancel the phone plan or get him a locked down one and see about getting him medicated if he is overly stressed out.
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I replaced my Mom's phone with a Raz Mobility phone. It looks like a smart phone. It is controlled by your smart phone with an app and is easy. He doesn't have to have a keypad, so he can't dial out unapproved numbers. Contacts all have large pictures so he just presses them to call. There's no internet, no texting. You control when he can call out. It has a 911 funtion that can be live or not.

My Mom was calling all sorts of customer support numbers complaining about her appliances that she was forgetting how to operate. She'd be having service calls, getting multiple new tv remotes, calling neighbors to do tasks because I wasn't doing them fast enough, etc. She of course doesn't like the lack of her control but that's too bad -- it made everyone else's life easier in caring for her.

When your husband is unaware, lose his phone and then replace it with a different one, like the Raz.
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I believe you can have his phone set to certain numbers. Check with your carrier.
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