My father is an alcoholic and has been spending his money like crazy. He has racked up about 40,000 dollars in credit card debt that he won't pay. He also has not planned for his own funeral. My mother has had a stroke and desperately needs to go to a nursing home. I work and live in another state. My daughter is a PhD candidate and does not have time, and my father is drunk and hard of hearing and can't even take care of the cat much less my mother. What can I do to get him to stop spending money so that she can go to a nursing home? He has also been beating her and has been turned into the Adult Protective Services. They did nothing and the hospital knowing that he had been turned in to APS released her into his care. She was home 3 hours before she was back in the emergency room.