I feel like I walk on eggshells here. He is so frail but if things don't go his way, he goes into a total meltdown. The worst was last spring when I 'tried' get the car keys from him. That ended up with police, handcuffs, and 5 days in the hospital. I try so hard not to get him upset because I can't believe that's healthy for him. He is treated with medication for anxiety and dementia. I have conservatorship and guardianship and he hasn't done well with that. Now we're dealing with his 'control' issues in giving up control of the money. Once again today I see he cashed his pension check. He has no need for more cash in his house (he pays cash for everything and we have allowed him his own checking account) but he already has a lot of cash. If I try to take control if it, he will end up in a full-blown meltdown again. I have reached out to my attorney for advice and made sure he knows, once again, that I have no idea where the incoming money is going. He puts some of it in his account, and cashes the rest. I have plenty in my conservatorship account.