My mom had a stroke 3 years ago and has been living with my husband and I. I will be returning to school as a teacher in about 10 days. In the past we have had an in home caregiver during the day to help her get to the bedside commode, get food, shower and transfer (she is paralyzed on right side.) She is now refusing to have a caregiver and thinks I should just get meals on wheels to bring food and "find some free services to come help her shower". I have told her that is not reasonable. How can I get some help to make her understand that what she is suggesting would be neglect on my part and show her that this is elder neglect? She is in her right mind, but seems to think wishing for something to be some way makes it so. I am at my wits end. Where can I turn?