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Thoughts on why someone would want to marry a man in the later stages of Alzheimer's? Father was taken to another state by a woman where we later found out married him. By this point in dad's life he was in Stage 5-6 of Alzheimer's. The word Alzheimer's was never spoken. She always had an answer for why things started to happen the way they did. New homes, new cars, trust changes, POD on all of his checking accounts. New POA papers, rewritten trust, trust funds being placed in her name as beneficiary, life estate placed on properties that were to go to my brother and I. Then the big one, she had dad sell our family farmland. The actions of a loving new wife? I have no excuse to offer for my own inactions. Dad deserved better. I had moved away and was unaware of his changes until I went to see him and he had no idea who I was in relation to me being his daughter. I was told the disease had nothing to do with his actions. I feel betrayed.

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I really only have one question.
When you went to see Dad was he being well cared for?
To me, when his children were apparently not terribly active in his life, and in his care, while all of this water went flowing under the bridge, that is the crucial question.
You seem not so much concerned about Dad's well being as you are about his assets.
If your father is receiving kind, gentle, loving care, this may be the best investment he has ever made. If he is receiving kind and gentle care, you might just feel relieved to go on with your life as you were, knowing he is being loved, and knowing he doesn't remember you any longer.
If your father is being abused in your opinion, do contact APS at once.
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fightingbk Mar 2022
My father had passed away when I asked these questions. So, thanks for sharing your thoughts regarding our simple-minded thoughts regarding dad's estate.
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Thoughts on why someone would want to marry a man in the later stages of Alzheimer's? Precisely so she could rob him blind, that's why!! And someone 'told you the disease had nothing to do with his actions" yet when you went to see him, he had no idea you were his daughter.

A person in the late stages of Alzheimer's has no idea WHAT is going on! Which is why he didn't know who you were, and why the scammer he married was able to take such horrible advantage of him! I think you know the answers to your own questions.

If anyone 'betrayed' you, it certainly wasn't your father suffering from Alzheimer's, but the scammer her married.

Contact the police first, then an attorney.

Best of luck.
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If Dad's still alive, you need to contact the police regarding elder abuse. That "wife" has fleeced him of his assets and needs to be in jail.

If you have documentation that he's in late-stage Alzheimer's, I think you could convince a judge that he was not competent to marry (a contractual agreement), assign power of attorney, nor agree to the expenditures and selling his farmland.

The money is probably gone, but you should try to save your dad now. Consult an elder attorney immediately.
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If you can prove that your father suffered advanced Alzheimer's dementia during the marriage with that particular woman, the marriage contract will be declared void. If you can't prove that, it will become a complicated legal problem.
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You're asking why someone would want to marry a man in the later stages of Alzheimer's and also answered it.

For the money and the assets. That is why someone would marry a person with Alzheimer's or dementia.
When my father was in his 80's he took up with a woman in her early 60's. She was an indigent, mentally ill alcoholic with a long police record in several states. My father didn't have dementia and was in unbelievably good health. He wasn't rich, but he'd done well enough for himself. My whole family knew exactly what the relationship was for and saw right through it. Nothing anyone could do and we all lived nearby.
Then very suddenly he had a stroke. That's when POA kicks in and he kept these things in my name.
I put her in the street but she'd already done plenty of damage.
There was nothing you could have done. I would suggest that you see an elder law attorney and tell him what happened. You may be able to recover some of your father's estate at least, and possibly break the will if there is any documentation of Alzheimer's. Even if there isn't, it's worth a try and you should talk to a lawyer.
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The question is not why, but can there be anything done?
If you weren't aware of his condition, you might have a tough time proving he was not in his right mind when signing over POA and legal docs. Which by law states by sound mind, otherwise it's fraud.
Speak with a estate attorney and see if there's recourse you can take as this is not as uncommon as you might think.
Good luck.
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Please open your eyes - this woman knew with proper planning she could take over his "fortune" and got away with it - happens all the time. I have seen it too many times. My life was nearly taken when I was a poa and caretaker for someone for 28 years - a stranger conned her into getting $115,000 from her and got it and when I went to fight to get it back into her account and name only (I was successful), my life was threatened. It is a fact of life. think about it Did you fight this woman? Who won?
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If your facts are provable, you might get a judge to reverse the damage she has done because it's elder abuse and probably embezzlement. Contact Elder Law Lawyer and your local Congress person.
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You need to get an attorney fast. If he has Alzheimer’s and his doctor has the medical documentation of this it is illegal bring he is unable to make decisions. She would have had to go to court for that. You must educate yourself to protect his rights immediately and his safety too. Run don’t walk!!
I went to an attorney when my husband of 38 years was in early stages of dementia to find out right way to handle our assets and be sure he was taken care of in case something happened to me.
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She is defrauding your father. Report her to the police immediately.
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