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I am really sick of talking about this and dealing with my parents and compassionately lying to my dad who has Alzheimer's. They constantly criticize me, even though they wanted me to be POA. I don't want to be the responsible one anymore. I just want to get in my car and drive away. I think it would feel so good to go away.

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I know exactly what you are saying. Burnout. I am there with you.
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Set your boundaries and stick to them!!!!! You have a right to peace and sanity!!!
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I think a lot of our problem is that we have changed our role from being the child into being the caretaker and those dynamics are very difficult, if not
impossible, to reconcile. I cannot fulfill my child role because I am the caregiver and I cannot fulfill my caregiver role because I am the child. So
we feel defeated in both roles. I would suppose it is just as difficult for the
parent to have lost the child relationship because the child is now the caretaker. The parent does not have the disconnected caretaker because the
caretaker is their child. I do not have all the answers but I do know that
half of the solution is discovering the real problem. Hopefully this clue will
help us all come to a better relationship with our loved one.
Now I can trust Jesus to show me how to get this together. Blessings as
you all are trying so hard to make it work.
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Does anyone else here see the pattern of chaos, confusion, discontent, heartache etc...? We are not prepared as human beings to deal with aging parents...Bottom line...
Our parents were the last generation that needed to worry about this with their parents. This is new for all of us. Yes, we can thank modern medicine, technology etc for extending our lives but at what cost?
I have been following this message board, speaking to friends my age with parent who are still around...speaking to other people my age who had to walk down this road with an aging parent who has since passed...and I'm currently dealing with my own particularly dreadful situation with my mother.
I don't know about all of you...but I am fried. I am now paying out of pocket for counseling because I need yet another outlet to deal with all of this.
If I am learning anything, it is that I will not be this type of burden to my children. I've made that very clear to them now. I am doing my best to take care of myself...and hopefully, down the road, the transition for that part of my life will be easier than what I am going through now.
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CaregiverL Sep 2018
Me too...I tell my brother if I get like Mom, (dementia & 91, & needs help w everything, combative at times, etc) then take me on a cruise & throw me overboard the last night of the cruise. I don’t want ANYONE to have to wipe my tuchus...😰
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Just about there. After weeks of running my ass off trying to get paperwork together to get my mother on Medicaid and into a nursing home without any help or interest from my father he actually had the balls to suggest that my sister move into the spare bedroom (computer/junk room) after she fell and broke her ankle. My sister is a blight on humanity. This will NOT happen! She comes in I go out!
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Nolapam Sep 2018
It is a thankless job. My mom called me idiot and stupid and fights when I try to clean her. But her children are no where around but took all the money. Some are now visiting a few times a week for lunch but she has stopped talking or watching TV. The ones that do the most are the least favored. take care of yourself do it because mom will need more and more and so will dad. It is beyond a full time job.
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Apparently a BS letter from some lawyer is now on my way. I was told that my mother actually did go see one. My wife is telling me to stay calm, but I am really pissed off. I don't want to cooperate with anything. I should just quit as POA. I just don't know if my dad would continue to get proper care. I would love for the State to tell my mother that now they are in charge.
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anonymous434963 Aug 2018
Jumary, Whoa, my friend! As I tell my husband ALL the time: "Your wife is right!" Stay calm.....
Here's the thing ... your parents have been together for a long time, right? They've known each other better than anyone else.
If your dad gave you POA instead of his wife back when he was mentally competent, then he must have believed that she wasn't as able or willing to do what he would want as you would. The only way your mom can change this is to 1) get you to relinquish your POA --and your POA document may name who your successor POA will be or may specify that YOU can name your successor POA. Or 2) prove in court that you are acting against your father's best interests. Unless you are stealing from him or keeping him from receiving medical care, she doesn't have much of an argument. What can she say? "He's getting better care than I want the old man to have"?
Be calm. If she wants a new POA for herself, you'll at least be off the hook for her desires.
You say you have hired help for your dad that she doesn't think he needs. Is she afraid they'll run out of money? If so, maybe a visit to an Elder Law attorney for some advance planning would be helpful. Maybe that's what she's doing.
Relax. Have a good weekend.
The dreaded letter may be helpful. Probably, you'll be able to explain to her lawyer, in a c-a-l-m and rational way, your position. You may even find the lawyer will be an advocate for you with your mom. Toward that end, I wouldn't start the conversation by calling the letter "BS." Perhaps you can explain that your mom seems to be misunderstanding your dad's needs, and you're doing the best you can to honor your dad's wishes, which he evidently didn't entrust to her, for good reason.
If you want, perhaps you can contact the local Agency on Aging to have an independent assessment done to recommend whether or not he needs in-home care with constant monitoring. Could you and your mom agree to accept an outside professional's opinion?
You can legally walk away, leaving your dad's care to someone else. You can fight with your mom. Or you can try to be a steady partner for her in this effort. She's going through a bad time that she wasn't prepared for, too. You need to pick one of these choices and live with it. It would be good to talk with your wife or pastor or a therapist about it.
As a wise person once told me, "There's no right or wrong decision to be made in this--there's just a decision to be made." You make it, then you go on. You may in the future regret the decision, but you remember that you did the best you could at the time. That's the best we can do.
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I love my dad and feel a loyalty to him, and it's my mom who is making it impossible. I would like to walk away, but I just don't know if I can do it. Still, I do know I need help. I will call my doctor this week. Thanks
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This passed Saturday night, my mother called me at 10 PM telling me she needed to go to the emergency room because she found a "lump the size of a golf ball" in her groin area. I explained to her, this was not an emergency room situation...but it was a Dr's visit and I would call first thing on Monday.

I did go to her place and took a look...There was no lump to be found. She claimed "it went down". I gave her an ice packet, two tylenol and left. Previous to this, I hadn't seen her for a month. I was staying away because it's been so toxic...I am getting physically sick from it. I am in counseling and I was advised during the last session that this is what I need to do for my own sanity.

Her call for help was a play on my time and emotions and I despise her more now than I did before it happened.

The next time this happens, I am telling her I am not in the area...and that she is to call 911 and they can deal with her.
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LynninIowa Aug 2018
please tell me why you have not changed this situation ?
If you hire the ones your Mom has ( aides ) then why are they listening to your Mom and not your directions ?
If you are tired of this have you gotten depression medication ? You are important and if you have not done this , I hope you do .
Are you a sole heir ? Is that what keeps you in the mix of life you hate ?
I suggest you get a conservator to handle the money and the issues through your local social services ? Is that something that would work for you ? If not , why ? Just trying to help you stop the insanity .Nothing will change if you don't friend .
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My mother is furious because she says my dad is no longer a fall risk. This is ridiculous as he has fallen and been hospitalized twice in the past year, is in his electric scooter Hoverround all day, and move a lot in his sleep and tries to get up. I have to ensure he is safe. She says I am overreacting. In a way, it is a relief not dealing with her anymore. I will continue to help and protect my dad and ignore her objections.
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Ahmijoy Aug 2018
You have to ignore her. She thinks she’s in charge but she’s not. She sounds like an annoying mosquito who keeps buzzing around your head and trying to sting you. If the medical staff where your dad is say he’s a fall risk, that trumps your mother’s opinion.

But there js one thing I’m wondering about. If your dad is in a facility, are you maybe there too much? Do you trust the staff to take care of him? It sounds like you’re there all the time. Maybe you need to step back and trust the staff there. Just my opinion.
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My advice is that you kindly walk away... find some legal advice on how not remove yourself from being POA and go live your life in peace....
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AT1234 Aug 2018
As tragic as this is, it is the right answer. Personal experience here.
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So, I have 24 hour aids for my dad in the assisted living facility because he has alzheiemer's and is wheelchair bound. My mom feels bad for the AIDS and tells them they can sleep - on the job.
She also asks them to do chores for her. Last week, she told the aid to take some things from her apartment to her car, and she was going to stay with my dad. I don't know how long he was doing that, but during that time my mom left my dad alone and my wife happened to stop by and found him alone. This wasn't the first time he has left my dad, so I told his company to remove him from my dad's care. I don't know if they fired him or just reassigned him.
My mom is furious and says she doesn't want to see me. I am sort of relived but also hate all the conflict.
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Ahmijoy Aug 2018
Why is your mom “furious”? If she doesn’t want to see you, that’s her problem. Your dad is enough to handle. Can you explain why Dad is in Assisted Living and not Memory Care? If you already have, I apologize. It must cost you a fortune for his care right now. Are you paying for this out of your pocket? If so, kindly explain to your mother to butt the heck out. If she can’t be part of the solution, she shouldn’t be part of the problem either. Right now she is. The Aides are your responsibility. They answer to you, not her. She doesn’t tell them what to do and if she does, they need to be told not to follow her orders or you will go to their agency.
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This thought keeps coming to my mind, "I don't want to do this anymore." I guess that's when I'm not thinking I want to run away. It's not that I don't want to be there for my mother. It's that I don't want to have to constantly deal with the issues that come up because her assisted living facility is not what it should be as far as care goes. If I hadn't already paid the $2000 community fee, I think we would have been out of there by now. My mom has been there for two months.
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anonymous817805 Aug 2018
Well Sunnydayclouds, I just don't have any answers for you as I'm in the same situation. My father is 1,700 miles away, I / we don't have the money to get him to AZ, or to a different care center. I keep asking questions to the care center & to what is suppose to be the organization who will get me answers " with No Luck "? I'm at the edge of disaster, with no one to help. I wish you the best & if I can get an answer I'll surly let you know.
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Regarding respite care...I learned from a friend that assisted living facilities offer respite care. My friend needed a break from caring for her mother—a stroke victim who had been living with my friend for many years. She told the mother that she was going to take a vacation and there was nobody to care for her at home, and the only option was assisted living. The mom went for a couple of weeks while my friend took a much needed break. The mom liked it there and a few months later, decided to move in full time. Respite care daily fee in assisted living is a bit more costly than the per day charge of a long term contract. But it offers a way out for the caregiver who is desperate for relief. This would be an appropriate contribution from those siblings who can’t seem to do anything else. Maybe they can cough up some money to give the caregiver a break.
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rovana Sep 2018
Great idea for siblings who say they want to help.
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My recommendation is to try to find a caregiver support group in your area. I participated in one for many years, as I was at the end of my rope trying to care for a mean and nasty sibling who was self- destructive. I was living in a nightmare until I was referred to a local caregiver support group and woke up . In the group, you will be with others who share your experiences, and you’ll learn better techniques for dealing with burnout. You will learn how to take care of yourself—and that you MUST do so. You’ll be able to vent all your deep feelings and frustrations in a very supportive atmosphere. These people will REALLY understand you—and you, them. And you’ll feel way less alone in this journey. It is hard to believe, but we actually laughed quite a lot in that group. Please give it a try. I made some lasting friends from that group. Many of those we cared for have since died, but we bonded and formed enduring relationships. For everyone who wrote, even though I’ve never met you, I’m in your corner, and here’s a supportive hug.
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SusanNeedsHelp Aug 2018
Hi. Do you know the best way to find a caretaker support group? I'd love to meet, in person, with others going through similar experiences...
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About an hour ago, mine just informed me that she received the letter from the DMV regarding her license. Even though it was discussed by the gerontologist, her primary care and myself...She didn't hear it and now she is most likely going ballistic. I am removed enough from her right now that I won't feel her wrath. And I am also learning to new coping mechanisms for when I have to deal with her. Every single day....I mean every single day, it's something new with her. I must be well armored. lol (Oh...I like to ask the heavens above to shield me as well. It works).
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LynninIowa Aug 2018
please get her behavior help , this does not have to be this way .. you are also very sensitive and the more depression you have from overload , the more help you must get for yourself . Praying for the BEST motivation which is God Himself moving in your life .
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wow, by the length of a few of these posts some people have way more time on their hands than I do.
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disgustedtoo Aug 2018
For me, sometimes I do it over time, not all at once... but I can type fast too!
Retired, but have many things to do, mostly relating to managing everything for mom and prepping condo for sale! Not much of my own stuff gets done... there's always (hopefully) tomorrow...
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Amen to that. I have often had a full tank of gas (Sirius XM) & my credit card....away I go, but seriously, I ONLY come back because I love my dogs & cats & they love me and APPRECIATE ME!! Maybe you need to find a reason to keep coming back? It is truly exhausting and many friends who are not care-givers have no understanding and therefore are of no help. Siblings? HAHAHAHAHAHA - oy, I think I peed. So again, for me, it's my pets that keep me coming home. Many times I sit in my car, do a little screaming, listen to Sirius XM (worth every penny since Valium does nothing anymore) and remember my furry babies who need me.

God bless you. Cry a little. Scream a lot. Don't hesitate, medicate! And remember, we here on this forum do understand so vent away when you need to.
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sidelined Aug 2018
I just had to reply to this, as your sense of humor and mine are very close!!! I totally get the part about your fur babies “appreciating you”.... mine do too, and honestly I chose them and respect them more than my FIL.... so I get it!
Talking about full tank, Xm radio, and sitting in your car.... I thought you might appreciate my sanity time story.... it goes something like this....
so I leave the house to go to a friends small birthday get together (which I have to force myself to get in the mood).... run by Walmart first and while there got a text that the party had been pushed out an hour and a half. It starts pouring down rain, and I just live around the corner, hell no i’m Not going back home to wait... so I buy a can of pringles, some pepperoni and cheese wraps, a box of wine, (did not want to buy another wine bottle opener), I’m not picky, LOL, grab a magazine. I stop in the in store McDonald’s for a cup, and out to the car I go.... now I know drinking and driving are a no no, but I have to admit it was a pleasant hour and half, sitting there eating, reading and drinking. Took a short nap, was fine, on to the party I went.... some may say desperate and sad.... I say resourceful and sanity saving if only for an evening....
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Continuation for Jumary;

As for your depression, if limiting time you actually spend with them does not help, seek some outside counseling for yourself. It is hard to step away and not help, as you might feel guilt for not doing more. There is only so much a person can do, especially when any help is rejected or criticized. Sometimes just knowing and understanding how these conditions affect the person helps you to know it is not YOU who is the problem and that you cannot fix what is broken. Learn to tune some of this out - again, not easy because it can build up, but learning to distance yourself when you start to feel overwhelmed can help. By setting boundaries and only dealing with those things you CAN work on, it should alleviate some of the stress. If you are there to do something for them and they refuse or criticize, leave. Tell them you will be back when they are in a better mood.

Absolutely find time for yourself, doing things YOU like to do and spend quality time with your own wife and family. Excercise is good, but find time to do the things you have enjoyed doing prior to this changing your life! There is nothing in a POA document that says you have to sacrifice everything for the person/people you have agreed to be "responsible" for. If you have other family members, is it possible to enlist their help? Clearly this is an issue for many of us, so just make an effort and if it is rejected, do not belabor it and do not hang on to any ill will you feel about it. You cannot change your parents, other family members or acquaintances, so don't make yourself miserable trying!

Do come back and use this site to voice concerns, and solicit suggestions. There are so many who have gone through what you are going through, so you are not alone! Keep us updated on how things are going, tell us what alternatives you have tried and what worked. If something works for you, it might help someone else!

Something else I thought of and didn't post in the other message: If they live on their own and their bills, bank statements, etc still go to their home, contact all the places and have the address changed to your address. If possible, remove all bills, statements, checking accounts/checks, anything and everything you can get out! In my case I had my brother take mom out and "swept" the place clean because she kept digging out old stuff or got a bill for something that was overlooked (condo insurance only came once/year so I missed that one!) Some things did take a long time and a lot of effort (federal entities do not care what kind of POA you have, and so SS, IRS, VA and federal pension took a long time to deal with!) Once these things were gone (W2s would trigger her thinking someone died and left her money!! She was elated, but confused because "it doesn't say who died." Because it was my dad's pension, it said "Death Benefit", so she interpreted that as someone else dying and leaving her money!!!) The easiest (took two years for changing that pension to have me as rep, VA paperwork do over still pending) way to deal with it was to make all of it go away!!

Also, does either of them still drive? Do they have credit cards? These could lead to other issues, and should be dealt with, but that is for another post...
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Jumary;

I read through all the comments (and posted a few replies) - boy you really started something here!!! With all the people jumping on board, if ya'll remember this from Arlo Guthrie and Alice's Restaurant: "...And friends they may think it's a movement." In our case it will end with 'And that's what it is, the Alzheimer's Dementia Anti-Massacre Movement…' :-)

I did not glean a lot of information reading through everything about what it is you are doing for them. Clearly you are the designated POA. Are they living with you and your family, or you all with them? Are you providing daily care? It's hard to recommend anything without knowing this, but one thing I will say is being POA does NOT obligate you to provide hands-on care. You are their advocate, you can take over their financials, make many decisions for them, etc. If you have done this but they are criticizing what you do, then don't share any information with them about what you do. Take over what needs to be taken over and fluff them off. Change the subject. Check your watch and say OMG I'm late and skeedaddle! You should not have to really lie to your father - you can agree with whatever he says even if it is not true. This is known as 'therapeutic lies' or 'little white lies.' So long as it is not done to hurt anyone, do it. I know it is hard because I dislike lies of any kind, but I have learned to deal with it. You cannot argue with dementia - you will never win! Just go along with whatever he says and do what needs to be done without discussing it. For instance, our mother started asking to go to her mother's almost a year ago. At major holiday time, she queries what her mother is doing. Nana has been gone about 40 years! Rather than keep telling her that her mother is dead (we would have to repeat this all the time since her short term memory is gone!), we just go along, make excuses, defer visiting until another day. It is so sad, but you just have to go along with their "reality."

I took over mom's affairs well before we had to move her (mistakes paying bills, couldn't balance accounts, etc.) Two of us are POA, but I am the one who handles it all (her MC payments and issues, condo, pension, SS, accounts, trust, preparing condo for sale, contact for doctor, etc.) It sucks and takes way too much of my time, but someone has to do it. Now, if you are also having to provide hands-on care and/or living with them, that's a whole different game. If you've read most of the posts here, this can be a nightmare!! Of all who posted, I only noted one seemed truly happy and blessed to have cared for mom!! Certainly there are others, but it seems the larger percentage have issues caring for someone. Living together, if that is the case, should be stopped. If you are living in their home, move and get outside help for them. If they are living with you, explore any/all alternatives: find them an appropriate place and get them out.

If you are not living with them, do they need assistance with ADLs at this time? Do you provide that? If so, it is high time to find other resources for them. They may balk at aides coming to the home to help. Medicare sometimes will provide limited outside help, IF they agree to personal assistance, such as bathing. If they have limited income, Medicaid might provide help. If either was a veteran, there might be help from them, both assistance and financial.

Set your boundaries and limits and stick to them! Keep it to transport to appointments, picking up supplies and the like, but as for hands on, try to find an alternative. If they balk at anything you try to do, find alternatives - don't let them criticize you for what you try to do. If they refuse outside help, tell them they have to work better with you, accept outside assistance or they have to move to AL. ANY time they start criticizing or complaining, find the door and LEAVE!

Arrrrrgh, this character limit is soooo annoying.... TO BE CONTINUED
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Depression is turning out to a very difficult. It seems to come at me out of nowhere. A small comment or situation with my parents sets me off now. I also know I'm not very pleasant to be with, which is no fun for my wife. Telling myself to focus on making it step by step and exercising is helping, and I can't worry about how long this is going to last.
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I truley feel your pain. I just said the same thing yesterday as my dad called me names and my mom accused me of ignoring her even tho I'm taking care of them every day and basically giving up my life and neglecting my husband and my needs. It's exhausting and somehow not fair to feel the frustration and guilt !! There just aren't good answers out there. But, as I have been realizing lately, we can't live for their wishes. We have to get help. As a caregiver for my 90 and 91 year old parents with dimentia and other health concerns, I'm making the transition to not let them tell me what to do anymore. Not letting them lay the guilt trip on me. I'm taking control. Looking into home assistance and lining up a Memory Care facility. Don't feel bad and beat yourself up for feeling that way!! You need help when you feel that overwhelmed. I know. Going thru it and realizing I can't do it all. Youncan Wish you peace!!!
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Nolapam Aug 2018
Take care of yourself or you are no good to anyone. So strong of you to set boundaries and hold firm. Hang in there, u will be ok and so will they when u take care of yourself and your marriage.
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Hickmalj- My guilt has finally gone away. My mother's verbal abuse and temper tantrums (she's been like this all of my life...it's just gotten worse) put me in a place of releasing all guilt.
I will not be treated in this way. Like many others of us, I am only here for her to make sure she is safe...and that's it.
My communication is minimal and I've stopped the once a week visits because it was a nightmare every single time.
She now has PT coming in twice a week and as far as I am concerned, she is being taken care of. I am POA, I communicate with her Drs...have access to her financial info in case she needs help...But I will no longer be her punching bag. At 61 (me) enough is enough.
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SusanNeedsHelp Aug 2018
I totally understand where you are coming from. I've backed away from my father in the same way. I feel so much better...mostly...still have some guilt, but then I remember the horrible way he treats me..sometimes.. (Other times he is fine, but I can't deal with the yo yo rollercoaster). He always has treated me oddly and cruelly at times. He doesn't have dementia. Its always been this way.
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yes i think it would to but i feel Guilty for wanting to do it because then there’s no one here and no one understands the stress that we are under taking care of our folks my mother wants to say well I took care of you for the first 18 years I don’t understand that it’s different I’m constantly having to lie just to make her feel good she’s gonna drive me over the edge
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Hickmalj Aug 2018
Hang in there . I’ve had so many emotions the past several months . Guilt is a biggie. I have a 15 yr old at home , I’ve decided I’m gonna do what I can to get my folks safe and I want my daughter to know she’s number 1 to me . I’ll never get these last years back before she heads out on her on and I know I’ll regret it. My mom and I were never very close and she’s at a point now that she doesn’t think about anyone else’s life. I’m only in my early 50’s , I work in health care , I see these situations daily . I don’t want my health to suffer . I say prayers all day long looking for an answer I can find peace with . I wish I didn’t have to work and could stay with my mom but it’s not possible . I don’t think the guilt will ever go away .
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What a great forum, and some very helpful advice! Plus, just caring thoughts and comments are so beneficial to most of us in the caregiver role. I actually had a month while mom was in rehab, and instead of going to beach couple days like I really wanted, I ended up going to see her daily. I did what I felt was right but deep down I'm a little mad at myself for not just taking those couple days I needed so desperately!! And still do. Mom came home last Friday so going out of town now is impossible......I did learn a lesson. Which is take time for yourself when it's given to you.
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I will never contact a lawyer only if you want to lose all your money
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Riverdale Aug 2018
I know that in my situation a lawyer who is knowledgeable with elder care issues was very helpful with financial issues regarding my mother and future decisions. That same lawyer recommended another lawyer who deals solely with elder care issues for my friend whose husband suffered a stroke which has altered their life completely. Without that guidance there were many decisions that would have been very confusing. If you are able to handle all legal affairs without legal counsel you are very fortunate and I hope your future continues positively.
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Thank u. I agree they should be held accountable. I contacted state elder abuse and that was a waste of time. They said it was sibling rivalry and they don’t get in the middle. Anyone know best way to report elder financial abuse. Also looking for an attorney.
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My heart goes out to you! I'm the only one my Dad has & being poa I have to deal with it all (like you!) & I wish I could walk away from it! I know it's hurting me physically and mentally & believe it will sooner or later effect my health! I also don't know what to do & no one to help me?? A real distressed son.
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Hickmalj Aug 2018
So sorry . I have very little help also. I’m having to make decisions for my mom and step dad . A lot of guilt . We do need to take care of ourselves . We are still young , some if us still have teens at home . I have big decisions coming up , praying all the time for guidance in making the right choices and I know I’ll always wonder if I have made the best choice . Keep talking to people , keep searching for resources , it’s not easy finding help but you may come across someone or something that can help get you some relief . Prayers for you and your family and for us all !
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I took care of my mom for 10 years. My wonderful husband helped me every step of the way. He was also ill with kidney disease. He got a kidney almost 3 years ago and was fine. He worked full time and did help me a lot with her. She had dementia and wasn't always easy, but she was my mom and I loved her. Like someone else stated, when I just had to have a week away we hired people and went, usually twice a year. It helps so much, as you are refreshed when you get home. Mom died a week ago after being in hospice in our house. He and I loved her and was so glad we had done this for her. We really do miss her.
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anonymous444729 Aug 2018
oh I am sorry to hear it was just a week ago. My condolences go out to you. You are fortunate to have such a great husband for support. Sounds like you did a great job. Right now we have home Hospice for my mother. Sure is hard!
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If only I had the time. I have secretly wanted to get a storage unit and day by day move everything that I have into it in preparation for the day I get my life back. To get down to the point that I could load up those final things in under two hours and vanish into the wind. It's a wonderful idea but my small life is still filled with a disaster of things. I can take only the minimal of actions until this nightmare ends and each day I stare at my truck and wonder if I have enough money to even fill the tank with gas by the time this situation becomes a bad memory.
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A cruise for caregivers would be fantastic. Now we just need to find someone to pay for our tickets! Seriously though, I got shingles a few months ago and now I have a cold, which I rarely get. My wife thinks it is because of stress. I am going to try to exercise more now and get plenty of sleep. I don't want all this to make me sick. I think our generation is paying a surprising price for improved medical care and longevity. Our parents' parent did not live this long. I love my parents, but I never expected my life would become like this. I don't want to be worn out once that are no longer here. I want to enjoy my life.
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anonymous444729 Aug 2018
You said it. Hit the nail on the head. My parents spent decades being super healthy. fanatically so., I think their bodies are now outliving their brains. If my mother was in her right mind she would not want to do this to me. She actually had no clue how long I had been caring for her. Its been 8 years. She guessed 1.
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