I want to chase my sister in law and the sons to move out of my husband's house? Any suggestions?

You have a husband problem not a SIL. I must ask, why did you move on & marry him if this situation is so unacceptable? It is your husbands house so he needs to be the one to deal with his sister & evict her. You had to have know, when you married him, that the situation wasn’t going to change over night. Encourage your husband to take his house back. She’s been there for years so he will have to formally evict her if she won’t leave on her own.

It is his house, just his name on the mortgage/paperwork? Then he can call the shots but this sounds cultural to me.. Is he afraid of his sister? If SIL wants the master, move her sons in with her in the bigger room, and you take the other. That (creepy factor) may make her move her butt. But as she has been living there with her sons for years I think she feels it is "her house", and she is going to dig in hard. No one messes with the mama figure. So don't ask, don't tell, just move them all into the bigger room. And don't move out,, you will never get back in. How old are you and hubs? HOw old are the sons, and do they work,, does she? What did he think was going to happen,, she would just go quietly into the street?

Your husband bought a house and paid off all the mortgage.

A few years ago, your SIL's husband abandoned her and she turned to her brother for help. She moved with her sons into her brother's house, where they were all overcrowded but managing.

Three months ago, you married your husband and moved into the same house where they were all living, along with another brother (where did he come from? Did he live there too before she moved in?). This house still belongs to your husband.

The brother moved out and has gone to live somewhere else.

Your SIL thinks that your husband and you should go and live somewhere else too, so that you have privacy as a married couple and she and her sons can continue to live in the family home.

As an alternative, she suggests that you and your husband can move in with your parents.

Hmm. And what about the fact that the house belongs to your husband? Is she going to buy the house from him? Will she pay him rent?

Why can't your husband work this problem out with his sister? It shouldn't really be up to you.

We can't make this stuff up folks...or can we?

How did you get married to this man not knowing what his living situation was? That doesn't make sense to me..............

yup... it is confusing, and it is all in the family... This wonderful man has a home. He is single, and his sister and her kids need a place to stay... Now his sister and her family is safe. wonderful man finds a wonderful gal. They date, and they get married. Gal doesn't know man's living conditions.. All Gal knows is he is wonderful, and has a home, and later after they are married, that he has extended to his sister and her kids, his extra space in his home.. Now the sister doesn't want to be forced out of her wonderful brother's house, because they have no place to go... ?!?.... YES, it is confusing. They must work out living conditions and chores, and a schedule of sorts...perhaps rent to sister and her kids... Happy New Year... Hope they can work it out... It's going to be cold, and wouldn't want to hear that the kids were kicked out... But sister and her kids could share a room, and let the wonderful man live in his wonderful bedroom with his wonderful wife. Hopefully wonderful man will get a Living Trust very soon.to help determine what will happen to his home and etc.

I wouldn't have married him until he straightened the problem out.

Cali and Countrymouse have me so tickled. And I have to say, the time to work all of this out was BEFORE the marriage, not now. It sounds as though your husband is now feeling trapped between his loved sister and his new wife. You are right to beel sorry for him. And you are right that he married YOU, not her. I think that your husband will have to make this decision. Dependent on what he decides to do you may have some decisions of your own to make. So very sorry that this is happening and I hope it gets better. And to all the "regulars" out here, Happy New Year. I hope for the Health of all of us; with that we can handle the rest of it! Al.

I think the OP gave up and went to bed... Happy New Year y'all!

Okay, this is terribly confusing to me! Sorry, I don’t even know where to begin.