My mom is 92, post stroke, post hip fracture surgery, chf, vascular dementia, repeated bouts of pneumonia. In a nh for 2 years now.
She was ambulatory with a walker until last winter, when she spent a week in the hospital with sepsis from a chest tap (long story). Came back to nh with contracture of both legs and a compression fracture in her spine. PT, amazingly, got her up walking again. Not independent but can walk with supervision. No more PT, but she has a walking protocol that the aides do, walking her each day with a gait belt. My mother is a very contented sort, likes to watch Fox news and watch what's going on in the hallway. She has never been the social type, and now with aphasia, even less so.
There is an "exercise class" each day at 11 am. Mom is on Comfort Care and is allowed to sleep in if she pleases. Which she does...always did, likes to stay up late and watch tv.
My sister in law, who lives nearby and visits often, wants mom to go to exercise class. She talks to mom about and mom nods vigorously, yes, she wants to try it. (Mom is a people pleaser. Always has been).
Am I wrong to think that my mom should be able to do what she wants? Can anyone think of a nice way to get SIL to back off? Maybe I should just go to the "whine" thread?