My father is 78, he lives alone. He has had several falls, broken bones and just had an aortic blockage cleared. He drinks and we feel is addicted to pain and anxiety meds. He is also diabetic, has a pacemaker and liver disease. He is going back home soon after a short stay in a rehab facility after his last procedure. He refuses home health care and doesn't want anyone staying with him. My brothers and I help do his grocery shopping and clean his house. We check on him daily. Everytime he needs to go to emergency the staff looks at us like we're monsters for "letting" him live alone. We don't know what to do and don't want to be accused of neglect. He's very mentally stable and sharp so he is of sound mind. We feel stuck and frustrated.