How can I get her to stop driving?

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She had someone come and get her car and fix it, she leaves her house everyday around 4-5 pmmy mom does not believe her memory is getting worse, her doctor have warned her against driving, I had the car disabled for about 4 months.

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Tell her that there will always be a way for her to go where she wants to go when she wants to go - that will help greatly. The point is - you are taking something away from her. But you must provide her with an alternative with the same goal. You cannot take if you do not give. And, do something to make the car not start. And if she has a mechanic to call, let them know NOT to fix the car and why.
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Riley,
If you are being responsible enough to realize your parent can no longer drive because they are endangering their lives and the lives of others, it goes without saying you need to make sure they have other modes of transportation. Most of the time, if they cannot drive safely anymore, there is also a good chance they cannot live alone safely either. When I noticed Mom was having issues, I moved her in with me and I am now her personal chauffeur. Parents who still possess their mental capabilities but have lost driving privileges maybe due to bad eyesight should know about alternative options for senior transportation. But yes, please help them by posting all the available options in plain sight.
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I understand and agree with all of the above comments but one main issue seems to be ignored. People want the use of their cars so they can get to where they want to be, need to be, etc. No car, then what? The only sane way to get someone to give up their car is to find a means of getting them to where they want to go and where they need to be. That may mean driving them yourself or arranging for other transportation. Without that alternative "solution" to taking the keys away, you are dead in the water before you even start discussing taking the keys away. After all, HOW WOULD Y O U FEEL IF YOUR KEYS WERE TAKEN AWAY? Horrible, depressed, frightened, sad, etc. Take them away but first assure them of alternative transportation to meet their needs - AND BE SURE TO GET IT.
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Check out GoGoGrandparent - it's an automated hotline that let's folks use Uber and Lyft without a smartphone. My grandma was putting up a huge fuss about turning in the keys, but once she started using this for nights and long distance, she let her license expire without telling anyone and just kept using it.
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Check out GoGoGrandparent - it's an automated hotline that let's folks use Uber and Lyft without a smartphone. It worked pretty well for my grandma after she fell, she couldn't drive. And she's been using it ever since!
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jcmolvodan brings up a good point. At least with newer cars - the type with all the auto options on the actual key - the type that are hundreds of dollars to replace - they do make "drone" keys that look identical to the ignition key, but it will only lock/unlock the car - won't start the engine. Hmmmm...
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Replace her actual keys with fake keys and she will keep trying to use them until she realizes they are not going to work. Works every time!
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Take the keys away, saying you can't find the keys anywhere. If that is not successful, take the battery out of the car, so it won't start. Tell your Mum the car won't start, so she can't drive it anymore. Next step, take the car away out of her sight, she will forget about it after a while. All the best, Arlene Hutcheon
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Mu aunt forgot where she parked the car. Police drove her around with no luck. Police filed a report for her to visit DMV on such and such a date. She forgot, and they suspended her license. relative is retired fireman. He suggest I pull Mom's license before she gets into serious accident. They always accuse the little old lady, and for that reason, I sold moms car. I dont like lawsuits.
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You can also follow the same discussion on this thread: www.agingcare.com/questions/dad-wont-accept-hes-losing-his-memory-197167.htm?cpage=0&post=1&cm=604956&z=1#604956
It got kind of heated but I think we found the legal answers.
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