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Right now my funds were cut off from unemployment. I am trying to find a job after finishing medical transcription school without much luck. Although I love my parents very much and wouldn't hurt them for anything in the world, I can't afford personal grooming products (hair color, hair cut, etc), my meds or doctor's appts. My car is not running so can't go anywhere and am pretty much stuck in the house every day. Also, the neighbors are so damn nosey and with they would look in the mirror because we need no more drama here. No reason to get too excited.

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I'm in the same boat. I had to walk out and check into a hotel to take a break. It would be so different if mom was just "nice", but she's not. She's verbally abusive, disrespectful, do things to deliberately go against her health like drinking, and given up on God. I just can't. Lord, help me I want to be there to assist and care, but I can no longer do it under these circumstances. It's taking too much out of me. I been doing this for 15 months and its been h*ll every step of the way.

God bless you and keep you. All the care givers my soul prays for you. Here's a hug although we need more. I wish you peace and strength
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txcamper: you are definitely my no. #1 ! Thank you , Jay ♥
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This is a portion of the Alabama State Health Laws:

Article 1. General Provisions.
§ 22-13-1. Plan for care of indigents; designation of cancer units.
It shall be the duty of the State Board of Health, with the assistance of the Committee on Cancer Control of the Medical Association of the State of Alabama, to formulate a plan for the care and treatment of indigent persons suffering from cancer and to establish and designate standard requirements for the organization, equipment and conduct of cancer units or departments in general or private hospitals or private clinics of this state. The designation of cancer units shall follow the survey of the needs and facilities for treatment of cancer found available in different localities in the state.

*Seems like you could take that info and find out where to get treatment and how to qualify.

Here's where you apply for free or low cost health care insurance, if that is something that you need:

https://insurealabama.adph.state.al.us/

I'm sorry that I've been unable to come up with anything useful for you up to now. I'm tapped out.

Sorry I missed where you were deaf when I was writing about being a veteran. Something you wrote about in a prior post made me think that you were. And even then, I didn't make the connection in my response to you. Sometimes it takes me a while to write these out and I forget things in the meanwhile.
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lol , well , i am a member of many rc sites , if you are not related to this hobby , it does n;t work like that , it is a hobby , look in to it " RCAirplanes" , and i do have planes for sale , don;t rely on it , lol , and to say that if someone says they are deaf, and been deaf all their life , NO way would any military branch take them in , i tried when i was 18 or 19 yrs old , and was denied because of my deafness , they said i couldn't hear a bullet coming ....and ,, i tried the health dept. here , they said that kind of help has to be children , its the kids that get medicaid and other , such as wic ..... sad....
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I think you should turn that considerable talent for making a plane out of balsa into income - you could make money at that and pull yourself up from your apparent destitute financial situation.

Why don't you contact model plane associations, and volunteer to teach a class? Or post an ad in a model plane magazine or on similar website and offer your services. You have a talent; make the most of it.
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Ok, if you are saying that you are a veteran, have you tried to get help through the veterans website? Have you been to a veteran's hospital?

Most large counties have a hospital that is well known as the County Hospital, that sees indigent patients as well as the well-insured and everyone in between. The county Health Department may be able to help you out with medical care. The website was cut off my post regarding the low cost Cymbalta, but there should be enough information there for you to know that they can help.

Sometimes, it just seems like the load is too heavy to bear and we find it easier to just give up. That is the time pull yourself up by your bootstraps and try again. Ask a neighbor or friend for help if you need someone to advocate for you due to the fact that you are deaf. Good luck.
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it just really came as a shock to me ,that i have been through 3 hospitals and can't get any help , even talk to doc. when i carry the witch to the doc. ,and i just get shooed out , it just came as heart breaking that i thought when i got older and needed medical attention , that my country would be there for me after all the many years i dedicated my time , hard work and tax dollars too , i am deaf and have been deaf all my 50* years , i think i put up a hell of a fight , but , i am tired now , ty
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Caesna, I'm just wondering how you got treatment at Flowers Hospital (when your ID was stolen) - the doctors there must have seen you for your medical identity to be entered into the databases and eventually be stolen.

Just wondering and trying to fit all the pieces of this puzzle together.

https://www.agingcare.com/articles/medical-identity-theft-184291.htm?cpage=1#reply
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You can also see if you qualify under the Hill Burton Act:

http://www.hrsa.gov/gethealthcare/affordable/hillburton/.

I haven't researched to determine if this is impacted by the Affordable Care Act, but the Hill Burton Act was created as I understand it to, in part, provide services for the indigent since the HB hospitals would be getting assistance to build hospitals.

Check out local hospitals that have religious affiliations; in our area, one of the Catholic owned hospitals provides care to the indigent.
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Cessna, I think you have more resources within you than you recognize.

Anyone who can build a Cessna from a pile of balsa wood is someone who is very creative and determined. Let those very positive traits be your guide, think positively and you might find that solutions others are suggesting are more realistic than you think.
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nobama care ! no thank you ! i don't meet the requirements , thank God ! lol,,,
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Ceasna, that is one of the reasons Obamacare [Affordable Care Act] was put into law, to give people a chance to obtain health insurance.... if you have very little money, you can find health insurance with the Federal/State government covering what you cannot pay. Go to healthcare . gov and start researching.
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With no insurance , or medicaid , and NO-Money , we are screwed ! no doctor will see me , i am in deep need of surgery now !
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I agree with txcamper that a visit to the doctor for each of you is in order. I'm assuming from the ages you mention that this is spousal caregiving. Both of you may do better with medical care or maybe you'll have to go your separate ways. This is no way to live for either one of you. But often, medication and therapy can help make things tolerable so please try this first.

Let us know how you are coping,
Carol
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ok , i will be on this , it said i am good ,,,now , i need a doc. ! :To follow up results :......
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Patient Assistance Programs for Cymbalta

Patient assistance programs (PAPs) are usually sponsored by pharmaceutical companies and provide free or discounted medicines to low income or uninsured and under-insured people who meet specific guidelines. Eligibility requirements vary for each program.

Provider: Lilly Cares Patient Assistance Program

Elligibility requirements:
1.Must have no prescription coverage
2.At or below 300% of FPL
3.Must be under 65 years of age

Applicable drugs:
◾Cymbalta (duloxetine) Capsule; Delayed Release

More information please phone: 800-545-6962
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no , no , no ,, wrong again ! you just shoot out a wild anwser thinking you know , when you don't ,, i did not say i could pay for a rental storage ! , i said store my stuff , idont have the money for a rental storage , and their a clinic here , but it cost so much up front , and again , look up the price for cymbalta , generic is 50+ dollars ....
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There are alternatives to the high dollar drugs. I do understand that doctors will sometimes prescribe them, but if you let him/her know that there is a funding issue, they will generally go with something less expensive.

Also I feel that if you have the $$ to put stuff in storage, you have the money to pay out a doctor bill instead. Some people don't really want help, they are so far gone that they don't think there is any. Most counties have medical help for the indigent. I did a Google search for my county and surprise! Found out that there is a lot of services for the indigent and that they will pay for doctor visits and 3 prescriptions/month if you qualify for their assistance.

Good luck.
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well , for one , doctors don't see people with no Money , and even if so , depression meds or high dollar , and emergency room is your only hope ! , which i was treated for depression/anxiety and given a prescription that cost over 200 dollars , sorry you late ! , been there - done that ! and east sounds better ! js
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Ceasna182, you are both a little young for general age related decline. Are there specific health issues that you are dealing with? Are you caring for a spouse or relative or other? Are there family members who could relieve you for a bit? You haven't really asked a question, just made a statement.

I'm sorry that you feel this way. Talk to your doctor regarding the demon witch and see if there is a medication that can help with the personality issues.

Definitely look into depression meds for yourself. There are some wonderful aids out there that can help pull you out of that black hole.

Caregivers who are at the ends of their rope do need help before things go south. Let the doctors know and see if they have any ideas.
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it has put me to the point of depression and anxiety , i want out and have no-where to go , i want to put my stuff in storage and leave , i can't handle the caregiver bulls%&t any more , i'm to the end of my rope , going on 7 years of the crap , now , i got health problems and i get no help ! Dear God : please show me a road out of here and deliver me from this dreadful life of everyday pain and suffering at the hands of this demon witch ! i am 54 yrs old and she is 52,i want out !!!! even if i have to live on the streets ! its that bad ! ect... ect....ect .....
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Nosy neighbors could be a resource.You'd be surprised how many people are just waiting for an opportunity to "help" because it makes "them" feel good.Take advantage of the situation. Get to know them.You might even learn to like them!
Let them know you're stuck because your car isn't working.They may offer you a ride to wherever you need to go.They may offer you an hour's sitting with your mom so you get out.
Med's and Doc Appt:
Call your state rep's office. Find out about the insurance offered to those will low income.
Your meds and Doc appts. shouldn't be a problem as most state insurances ( low or no cost) will pay for them.Some drug companies will furnish you needed drugs for free if you qualify.
Need money until you find a job?
Put an add in a free paper offering to decipher "Medicalize" for elder's and other's who wonder what the doc is trying to tell them.
Can you take in a vacationer's pet for a week?
Holidays pay very well and cash.Put up a flyer in the vet's office or tell neighbor you do that sort of thing and they pass the word.
Think out of the box.
Hair dye? The newest trend in hair and make-up is natural.
No money for haircut? Put it up \; it's a classic look and never goes out of style.I looked it up on youtube and learned to cut my own hair.Now I cut everyone's hair!
BTW: youtube video's available on diagnosing and fixing your own car with junk parts.
Good luck!
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195Austin thank you for your input. But my mother has assets- that's one of the problems and I have even looked into her insurance that she has and they won't pay for me to do home health care for her. One of my degree's is nursing so I am well qualified to take care of her. I am slowly getting depressed. RuthAM
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Ruth does your Mom have assets -you are POA so you could use her money for her care-if she has no assets could you apply for Medicaid -that is what it is for -a this point maybe it is time to place her so you can work-which is important because you need to think about your old age and you will need SS someday for yourself-many elders think they need to hang on to their money so they can leave it to their children and do not consider how hard it is for their children to give up heir lives to care for them-look into taking CNA classes so you can get paid for taking care of her-think about placement it may be the best over all.
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I've tried countless times to get pay for taking care of my mother but every agency I have went to has told me that sense I am power of attorney it would be a conflict of interest. I don't get it I have four degrees been offered jobs and have turned them down so I can stay home and take care of mom. Why can't I get paid for taking care of her it is a hard and endless job mentally and physically. Don't get me wrong I love my mother and I will never put her in a nursing home but I am a grown woman and I shouldn't have to ask her for money. It's a little down grading.
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One last thing, check with your county and see if IHSS (In Home Support Service funds are available to you.) You can be paid by the county to care for your parents. I am in California, and found out the "client" has to be on Medical in order for you to get paid. So, I lost out on that one, dad is Medicare with a supplemental. Your county should also have an agency directed towards elder care that can help you. Here it is called Area Agency on Aging.
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I lost my job in 2010 and the unemployment benefits have long run out. I kind of gave up looking after my dad moved in a year ago. You can try the job boards at the local college, your county should have a job and career center. The information can be accessed at home. Honestly, I think these days, it's who you know. If you have a connection through your doctor's office or even through your parents doctors, check it out. An employment agency might be helpful too. I can get out, but very rarely by myself as my dad wants to go everytime the car goes. He will sit in the car as he is not mobile and then complain because I took too long or has to know what I was looking at. I don't even enjoy shopping anymore, it sucks. If I I go by myself, I get a smart aleck "well, go have fun" remark and then I feel guilty. After a year of getting his health issues under control, there are no more forseeable doctor appointments, and that makes him upset. Believe me, I understand your position! Please try to take care of YOU first and foremost! I know there are organizations that help you out with grooming needs, you deserve a "girls day." If you can get your parents to go to an adult day care, even for a few hours a week, go for it! My dad is on week four, only goes 3x a week for 4 hours each time. He doesn't like it ( just all these old people that sleep and do puzzles,) and thinks I am making him do it, like everything else that affects him. He is 85! My dad is on the martyr boat, I jumped ship a long time ago. Please take care of yourself, be brave! We are all rooting for you!!
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I dont know where you live, but I know in some states there is compensation for caregivers who take care of family in the home. You would have to get in contact with a county social worker though. I can relate to how you feel, I work in the home care field, and its not easy work, and I live at home too...and know how difficult is it to deal with your parents basically 24-7. Things will get better eventually. Just keep looking for jobs, craigslist, care is also a good website! Hope things get better for you! :)
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My husband was addicted to doc visits on the way home from an appointment he would be planning the next one to the same doc because he had not asked all his questions when he was there -I finally just cut back when I found out we had gone to over 100 doc visits in 9 months some were 6 in one week and at times 3 in one day-now after the fact I let him get away with too much nonsense for years I did get a little smarter over the years and before he died he did get to see a stronger me.
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MY MOM'S MIDDLE NAME IS "COMPLAIN." SHE IS ABOUT THE MOST NEGATIVE PERSON IN THE WORLD. I HAVE SERIOUS HEALTH ISSUES MYSELF, BUT I KEEP GOING FOR HER. SHE THINKS NO ONE'S PAIN IS GREATER OR NEVER WILL BE GREATER THAN HERS. I HAVE TO LEAVE NOTES TO TELL HER I'M TAKING A NAP AND DO NOT DISTURB ME. IF I GO OUT THE DOOR, SHE WANTS TO KNOW WHERE I'M GOING AND FOR WHAT. I AM 53 YEARS OLD AND ENVY PEOPLE THAT CAN JUST LEAVE THE HOUSE WITHOUT DISCUSSING IT WITH THEIR MOTHER.

ALSO, THE ENDLESS DOCTOR APPOINTMENTS ARE TOO MUCH. THE ONLY TIME I LEAVE THE HOUSE IS TO TAKE HER TO THE APPOINTMENT OR PICK UP PRESCRIPTIONS AT WALGREENS. I MAKE UP ALL HER MEDICINES, ETC. NOT MUCH HELP FROM A SIBLING WHO LIVES RIGHT NEXT DOOR.
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