I am the baby of 4 kids. For 20 years I've been caring for my mother. I'm 41 with 4 kids. 1 disabled kid and the youngest is 10. I'm also poor. My mom is manipulative. Though sickly, she seems to almost make up symptoms along the way. She refuses rehab yet she gives me hell about WORKING to get better. I am sick to hell of being called for the tiniest things or multiple pain med requests yet no effort to take regular meds and ANY rejection on my part is met with agitation, whining and a cut throat look and a guilt trip. Today I told her one of her friends told me I need to get out and care for myself too. Her reply: I don't know how you will do that. I can't even walk to the bathroom. WHAT???? She's weak but to what extent is she trying? Who says that? But this is her personality to ME ONLY. None of her other kids who don't even entertain caring for her. I stopped and wondered: Why is she so demanding of my time and life to care for her but she couldn't even stand to talk on the phone to her mother much less care for her? Why am I being held to a standard that she never remotely held herself too? Does anyone else wonder this if it applies to your parents?