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Dad's eyesight is bad- cannot read a book now. Neuropathy in hands cannot do some dexterous medicine things or cut veg. Has digestion upset regularly due to medical procedure in '20. These contribute to his mood swings. But he was similar when i was growing up. But this is becoming too much stress and strain on me. Been cargiving since 2017, also have a job. I'm considering moving out, sis lived here too and we constantly argued. I'm not sure what to do about him or leave him to my sister, (but she doesn't want to stay) he says he'll take care of himself. Don't know it i should leave for my mental health or continue to endure emotional abuse? What do other people do?

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I would have Office off Aging or APS come in an evaluate him. Maybe they can help you find resources so you can leave knowing he is now on their radar.
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He does not have to change. You do. How many more years of abuse are you willing to take?
I have not seen or spoken to an abusive father in over 17 years. Feels great.
Hope the same for you.
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Audiobooks. Blister packs. Prepared veg. You don't mention a single problem that can't be overcome by using widely available products and services, not to mention acting on medical and nutritionists' advice.

So, yes - unless there are bigger reasons why your father can't live alone, I think you should move out and work with your sister to help your Dad get a proper, independent support structure in place.

Has your father ever lived alone?
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Have discussed your moving out with Dad?

If so, what are his plans?

Basically, if he is not sufficiently independant to live alone, or arrange (& pay for) home help, he needs another plan.

If you want to help him find that plan, do so. If not, point him towards his Doctor for professionals to help instead.
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