Difficult to get Mother to consent to nursing home. Any advice?

To follow up from beenthere60, my mum wasn't given the choice either. And that has worked out brilliantly. Good luck

So brother is staying on as her live in caregiver? That let's Wilhens off the hook, but what about the poor brother? He's already stated that he can't do it any more, it seems that he has somehow been guilted into recanting? I sincerely hope that he will be compensated for what he is doing, and that outside care will be arranged so that he can still have a life.

YOU are the one who gets to decide if she needs to live in an NH! She'll ALWAYS decline!

Good discussion continuing. Yes I am still concerned about my brother. He is on disability. He will not be compensated. He is trying to do this out of kindness but still gets frustrated. He also doesn't really like Florida so it's sort of rent free for him Because my mom's place is low income. They won't consider his income. Him and argue. But i think they have good moments too. I think she will soon be in a nursing home. Perhaps after another fall. Then my brother and I will tell social services that we can't take care of her like the previous entry from someone described. A nurse already comes twice a day to guve shots and my brother and mom don't like the intrusion but.. my boss at work recommended I call or company's EAP. See if they offer anything. Then I will try to get my mom involved in some outside activities through senior center excursions or something. I think it's all coming to a head as well very very soon.

That one part was suppose to say that him and my mom argue.

Yes yes unresign immediately!!! No you do not have to take care of your mom and lose your own life and earning power, and it is a huge mistake to do that. Very foolish, though motivated by the best of intentions. Don't hold on to a wrongheaded belief which will ruin your own life.