My Dad has vascular dementia. What else can be expected?

Sounds like dad is probably ready for hospice. Ask his doctor if it's time to have him evaluated. I'm sorry.

Can't we keep at home instead hospice..he is 81years old and my mom wants to be there during his last stage. Once they reach last stage when they give up does it take day or weeks or months of year..
It's hard to see him this stage..

Lillylu, hospice will come into your home to help. The easiest way to get their service is to have your father's doctor request it. Look around tomorrow for recommended hospice services and schedule an evaluation. Hospice is covered completely by Medicare.

Thanks for sharing but my dad don't live in US to cover by Medicare..

I don't know how hospice works where you are, but it is worth checking into. I agree that keeping him home would be best if that is feasible.

Usually by the time they are sleeping 20 hours a day that is final stage.

Final stage means ?Is it days or months or years..
It is feasible for him staying at home we have a person taking care of him 24/7.
I feel staying at home during final stage is better than dropping him at hospice...
Thanks again

Lillylu, wherever you are, I think you should investigate what hospice services are available in your area/country. If there is one thing I've learned in my 62 years, it is to not assume that I know things about a subject I haven't researched myself. Don't go by what you might have heard from others. Hospice is certainly not a place to "drop" someone. In some places hospice will come to your home. In places where there is a hospice facility, often a family member can stay round the clock.

Stress causes most people to think in a rigid and linear fashion. At this point, you might want to take a step back and evaluate the therapies your father is currently receiving and if they are appropriate. I'm talking about the feeding tube mostly. Did your father express a desire to be kept alive at all costs?

I don't think he wants to live at this condition...

Lillylu, if you do check into hospice please share what you learn and tell us what country you are in. We learn from each other!

In the US, most hospice service is provided at home, or if the person is already in a nursing home or assisted living facility, then there. There are some really nice hospice houses but the minority go there.

"Final stage" is not years. It could be a few days to a few months. A hospice nurse might be able to give you a closer estimate. My husband was on hospice 5 weeks, in our home. Nobody can give you an exact date, of course.

Lillylu, it's terribly hard to stand by while a loved one goes through the final stages of an illness, at times it's unbearable. It can feel like an eternity. When they loose the ability to communicate we can't know what is in their minds but unless your Dad looks like he is in pain he is probably in a peaceful state. It is normal to want to know how much longer he has, it's even normal to wish his time would come soon. No one can tell you exactly how long he has but there are signs to look for. If you google "end of life signs" there is some good info on that. You might get some idea of how long it will be.

It may not seem like much but sitting with him and holding his hand could help to ease your stress and it might help him. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.

As of now he is in hospital with care and taking him home where we have facility with one person round the clock who takes care of him prettymuch he is like hospice service that we have(dad lives in India)

Since last night he is suffering with very bad cough. Not even a single minute slept all night.
It's hard to see him

I was holding his hands all night and day.trying to spend as much as I can.
Thanks to all of you to support me & my dad

Twice he pulled his tube so we started giving fluids thru oral but he is not cooperating and 18 hrs of heavy cough. Sunday afternoon doctors started to put the tube again but he was not co-operating with doctors they gave up after trying for 20 minutes
And put the IV.. Now doctors said I have to give a content for tomorrow to take him into operation theatre..
Feeling sad and at the same time I don't want him to suffer anymore...,

I meant consent *

What would the surgery be for?

They would be giving anesthesia to insert the tube

Thinking of you today Lillylu and keeping you in my prayers.

Looking at his suffer from last 2 days was sad.....

Question on pulse,82 years old and his pulse around 180,170,160
Should I worry about it
Thanks in advance

The cough could just be congestion. At the end of life, people sometimes develop congestion and a sound when breathing that has been described as a "death rattle". People who are in active stage of dying are not hungry or thirsty. They can live longer with a feeding tube, but to what end? If there is no hope of improvement, then you are just putting off the inevitable. So terribly sorry, but it's true, no one lives forever. My recommendation would be to make him comfortable, give him pain medication, keep his mouth moist (oxygen is so drying) and be with him. The hearing is the last sense to go, so sing to him, talk to him, play soft music. Whatever comfort you desire.

Sorry, I have no clue about the pulse question. Ask his doctor or a nurse.

Thanks a lot for your support

Current status on Thursday May 28-
No change + all the medication has been stopped since 4 days +rattle cough+urine is tea color + sleep around 23 to 23 1/2 hrs + pulse rate around 175 to 183..
Can't take any more this suffer & Looking at his suffer.
Today my mom decided to take him home & I m praying some miracle happened and let him go peace fully at home with all kids..
In hospital staying in one room feels like we are waiting for his death to happen but if we take home he can go peacefully...
That's what I explained my mom and made her to take decision...
Please pray for my dad to have a peace end at home..

Lillyly, your dad and your family are in my thoughts every day.

Friday :-First day dad was home and felt happily...
It was hard but home is-home
Continuous in saline going on

Lilly, are you saying that your dad passed and that you are crying? We all feel for you, my dear. Be comforted by good memories.

He did not die! We moved from hospital to home during his last stage. We thought he might like to be home then a hospital...
Thanks for all ur support

One last question since morning I see dark color or urine..,
Thanks in advance

Dark color urine ***