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My dad has Vascular dementia and since last one week he got hospitalized.
Current stage :-
1.Feeding thru tube
2.on oxygen
3.he does not recognize any one
4.completely on bed
5. Urine also thru pipe
6.sleep at least 20 hrs

Not sure what else to be expected from him And what would the life expectancy and I don't want him to suffer any more. Don't know what stage he is in & after reading online figure out its last stage. Feel so sad looking at this stage and not sure what they think day & night.

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Sounds like dad is probably ready for hospice. Ask his doctor if it's time to have him evaluated. I'm sorry.
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Lillylu, hospice will come into your home to help. The easiest way to get their service is to have your father's doctor request it. Look around tomorrow for recommended hospice services and schedule an evaluation. Hospice is covered completely by Medicare.
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Final stage means ?Is it days or months or years..
It is feasible for him staying at home we have a person taking care of him 24/7.
I feel staying at home during final stage is better than dropping him at hospice...
Thanks again
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Lillylu, wherever you are, I think you should investigate what hospice services are available in your area/country. If there is one thing I've learned in my 62 years, it is to not assume that I know things about a subject I haven't researched myself. Don't go by what you might have heard from others. Hospice is certainly not a place to "drop" someone. In some places hospice will come to your home. In places where there is a hospice facility, often a family member can stay round the clock.

Stress causes most people to think in a rigid and linear fashion. At this point, you might want to take a step back and evaluate the therapies your father is currently receiving and if they are appropriate. I'm talking about the feeding tube mostly. Did your father express a desire to be kept alive at all costs?
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"Final stage" is not years. It could be a few days to a few months. A hospice nurse might be able to give you a closer estimate. My husband was on hospice 5 weeks, in our home. Nobody can give you an exact date, of course.
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Lillylu, it's terribly hard to stand by while a loved one goes through the final stages of an illness, at times it's unbearable. It can feel like an eternity. When they loose the ability to communicate we can't know what is in their minds but unless your Dad looks like he is in pain he is probably in a peaceful state. It is normal to want to know how much longer he has, it's even normal to wish his time would come soon. No one can tell you exactly how long he has but there are signs to look for. If you google "end of life signs" there is some good info on that. You might get some idea of how long it will be.

It may not seem like much but sitting with him and holding his hand could help to ease your stress and it might help him. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
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I was holding his hands all night and day.trying to spend as much as I can.
Thanks to all of you to support me & my dad
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Twice he pulled his tube so we started giving fluids thru oral but he is not cooperating and 18 hrs of heavy cough. Sunday afternoon doctors started to put the tube again but he was not co-operating with doctors they gave up after trying for 20 minutes
And put the IV.. Now doctors said I have to give a content for tomorrow to take him into operation theatre..
Feeling sad and at the same time I don't want him to suffer anymore...,
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Looking at his suffer from last 2 days was sad.....
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Question on pulse,82 years old and his pulse around 180,170,160
Should I worry about it
Thanks in advance
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