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I would not pay that comment any attention. Obviously it is no ones fault, unless you push him over.

Can you write notes to help with the communication?

It never ceased to amaze me what parents will say to manipulate their adult children. Maybe you can say, it might no be your fault, but you will be paying the consequences if you do fall dad. A nice rolator (sp?) can be purchased for less than $100, the doctor can order therapy to have it fitted for optimal results.

Best of luck, he sounds like a pickle.
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It IS your problem if Dad falls down, but it's not your fault. Some people need others to blame for EVERYTHING. My mother has always had 'trouble' communicating her thoughts, even before she was diagnosed with dementia. She likes to have people wheedle information out of her, begging her for clues and information. I'll call and know darn well something is wrong because of the way she sounds, ask her what's happening, and she'll say 'Nothing'. Or, she'll say "I don't know, I just feel blah." When Dad was alive, I'd have to get HIM on the phone and ask him what was wrong with mother. Nowadays, she lives in Memory Care (and Assisted Living before MC), so I can call over there to see what's going on. It's an extremely frustrating situation for sure, and I can empathize with you.
Perhaps if you provide more details about your dad we can give you some appropriate advice. Does he live alone at home? With you? In assisted living?
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Lovely244 Jul 2019
He lives in his own house with a family member
. Has balance issues. And had fallen down before.
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He doesn't fully understand what he is saying, so I would let it slide like the proverbial water off the duck's back.
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Your profile says that your your LO has dementia. I'd take into account that he may have trouble understanding and processing language. Maybe, he needs more assistance and it's his way of asking for it. It's difficult to prevent falls. I might ask for an assessment to see what he's really able to do and even ask for help making the home more safe, with regard to grab bars, ramps, etc.
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Lovely244 Jul 2019
No dementia issues. Has terrible hearing issues
Will not ge hearing aid. The brain does suffer with not understanding because he cant hear. There is major communication issues. I can not talk with him over phone anymore
He never calls anyone. He has no diseases except blood pressure being high
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Well, it WONT be your fault if he falls down. This seems like a guilt/manipulation tactic, but need a little more information as to what else is going on. Can you clarify the entire situation? There are many very smart folks who have experienced many elder issues on this forum, they can help if you will clarify.
Ie is he bed bound but tries to walk? Diseases? Etc.... thanks..
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Lovely244 Jul 2019
He is not bed bound and does walk but he is wobbly.
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