My "mother" has always been mean and evil and is toxic to anyone who disagrees with her. I am the back up POA on her finances and the main POA on her health care and she is a horrible person who started accusing me of things and actually signed an EOOP on me so she would be able to stay in her assisted living even after she signed she wanted out of the assisted living and to return to her home. As her medical POA I would love to have her have a mental evaluation....but I believe that would only make her more lashing out and toxic. So would it be best to resign from all forms of POA for her and if so how would I resign?
What is an EEOOP?
You seem very angry and I'm sure you have every reason to be. But perhaps you should allow yourself a moment.
How could a mental evaluation make her worse? It might get her the medication she would need to settle down?
No doubt you need a break and to regroup. Remember as a POA you don't have to do hands on management of your mother. You don't even need to see her. Read it over carefully and see what your responsibilities actually are and if you can take a step back and still be there for if and when a medical POA is necessary.
Who is your backup on the medical POA? Would they be able to step in for awhile as for as hands on?
I sometimes think children or spouses shouldn't be POA but then WHO would in reality? It's not a cushy job is it?
I'm really sorry you are going through this. You have obviously been taking it way way too long. Take a break. Don't visit. Give the others a heads up. Give it a couple of weeks and then see how you feel.
Hugs