I have been caring for family members for 10 years with no help from my siblings. In fact, my sisters have made it more difficult. I always knew my family was a mess but something about this process has brought the dysfunction to a nuclear melt down level. Last week I asked my siblings to commit to a few days a month to stay with dad so I could return to work. They all said absolutely not and proceeded to criticize me, my children, my looks, you name it. My father just sat there. I was (and am) heartbroken but realize that I have to pull myself together. I honestly just wanted to pack my things and leave...let them figure it out. But I also know that I obligated myself to this task and it’s my responsibility to figure it out. So today I have a job interview. No guarantee I’ll get it but it’s a huge step to caring for myself and breaking the codependent role I’ve unwittingly taken on from childhood.
Does anyone have experience breaking out of the roles they play in a toxic family? Advice? Wisdom?