My 82 year old dad is in a group home. I stress myself out calling and going to see him, but the only time I hear from him is if he needs me to do something. I have 2 older sisters, but they are no help whatsoever so it falls to me and my husband. My dad can be very, very difficult to deal with. He expects us to be at his beck and call. We've told him time and time again we both work, have our own family and have our own health issues.