I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Mom's bed is new. That's another tale of woe. She didn't like her old bed and wanted a new big bed. Then she wanted to return it and didn't like the headboard and wanted to keep the mattress pad off of her smaller bed. All that and she sleeps on the sofa most of the night. She has a nighttime ritual where she'll make up the sofa like a bed, then go to her bedroom and sit on the side of her real bed for about an hour. Then she'll get in bed to sleep an hour or two. Finally she'll get up and go to the sofa for the rest of the night. It's just a habit she has. And of course, she leaves both "beds" for me to either deal with or ignore. Double the work or double the ignoring.
I think you're okay if you enjoy it, or at the other extreme if, like my late aunt with cookery, you loathe it and unapologetically refuse to get involved. As with many things, it's us in the middle who feel we "ought" to do things we don't enjoy who are in trouble!
While all this was going on I was on tenterhooks because we'd already had so many tears before bedtime about clutter, but in the event she actually didn't deign to notice what I was doing. I don't know what had made the difference, why she couldn't be bothered to put up a fight. What do you suppose would happen if things just made their way magically, bit by bit, or rather box by box, out of your mother's house? - how would she react?
The bed is really difficult, too - we all like our beds how we like them, it's very hard to justify changing it willy-nilly, and very expensive I expect to buy properly fitting equivalents. How old is her bed? I'm just wondering if you'd get anywhere with that back-protecting theory about how it's absolutely crucial to change your mattress every seven years or whatever it is.
Men get to retire from their full-time work, and go onto enjoying things. A woman still cooks, clean, laundry day after day.... hey, when will we retire???
That could be the reason why some elder women don't bother with cleaning like they use to.... it's like enough already... I want to see a TV show all the way through, not in bits and pieces while I am ironing or preparing dinner !!
My sister would call it laziness, too. I'd call it indifference. I don't understand how people can be so utterly indifferent to their surroundings, but I'm pretty sure they are. And I'm absolutely sure they ain't going to change!
I had a conversation with the daughter of a mom with very rapidly advancing dementia, with a sudden onset brought on (I think) by a recent surgery, which threw her whole system out of whack. It was a knee replacement, but sometimes, with elders who are not quite into their dementia yet, all it takes is a traumatic event like surgery to tip the balance - which seems to be the case here. Daughter is one of those whiny, nagging types who wants everything to be about HER, and when we had breakfast with them this morning at a restaurant, she sat there and talked about her Mom in derogatory terms like she wasn't there. Her mom just sat there and looked at her. I pulled her aside privately later and explained that her mom can't help what's happening to her, but I think it fell on deaf ears. All she did was continue to complain about her mom forgetting how to turn the TV on and something about a window being opened and closed - I have to admit, I kind of tuned her out after a while, because she just doesn't "get it". Her mom is entering a facility soon, and I think the sooner the better, because this daughter is her caregiver until she does - and I don't think the level of care is at all what her mom needs right now. Breakfast with them was a real eye-opener and reminder to treat my own mom with kid gloves, so to speak. I'd hate to be in her mom's position, having my daughter sit there and talk about me in a mean fashion, like I'm not even there.
I bet your mom's glad to have you there instead of someone like that....
sundowners starts earlier and lasts an hour longer... lovely poor mom knows what's she's doing isn't quite right, but says she simply can't help it.
I agree with FF time to make other arrangements for Mom and start talking to your hubby it's not his fault you feel like sh*t. Why not take a sick day tomorrow and get better.
Yep, when it get's dark, my body thinks like yours. Hunker down time!! Gonna try and do something about that this winter... load up on vitamin D and force myself to keep moving.... least until 8:00 p.m.!!
The garage door opening is always in the other vehicle, along with the umbrella!!
Saddly it sounds like your Mom needs another layer of care... time to hire someone to be with her full time. Maybe your hubby is been seeing a pattern here and he's trying tough love to make you see the situation for what it is.
But I can understand the need for the time change, otherwise the elementary school kids who catch the bus at 7:15 a.m. would be standing in the dark waiting for the bus. I couldn't imagine trying to get a grade schooler all dress and fed, and out the front door while it still looked like midnight.
Personally, I think it's awful when it gets dark at 5:00 p.m.
That is without a doubt, a major whine in life, for me.
Gees, I'm not doing so well.
it looks like nobody is going to PM me for my latest off color jokes so ill try one here that the mods might let slide .
a rich man and poor man were discussing what they planned to get their wives for christmas . the rich guy said hed get his wife a diamond necklace and a maserati . he said if she didnt like the necklace she could use the maserati to return and exchange it . the poor guy said he planned to get his wife a pair of slippers and a sex toy . he figured if she didnt like the slippers she could then go frig herself ..
I noticed her going into her bedroom and looking at the clock. Then I heard her say something, so I went in to ask her what she said and she said she was looking for '9'. Also, she had turned from Lawrence Welk which is 3 here to channel 9, which is an advertisement channel. She said she's looking for 9. Well, turns out she was looking for 9:00 so she could go to bed.
This is the first time she's done this. Literally, in circles, looking for '9' tonight. I don't believe she knows about the time change but even if she did, that wouldn't be the 'problem', although I did changed it to 9 because I know there's a time change.