I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Today it was a bathroom rug about the size of a small furnace filter... I only went to Target, looked at every single rug and there wasn't anything in that size, so I got the next best thing. Mom said it was too big, but Dad said the size was perfect, he will make it work, or switch out another bath rug some place else.
Mom said for me to go to Sears... told her if Target didn't have that size, no place else would have that size. If Dad was still driving, the both of them would go to Kohl's, then to Target, then to Sears, then to Penneys, then to Bed, Bath and Beyond, to search for that certain size rugs. I hate shopping, so the thought of going to all those other stores makes me want to go running screaming into the night.
Now Mom wants to use the old bath rug in the guest room bath.... HELLO... the non-skid backing is now hard, the rug is dangerously slippery.... then Mom said she will use the old rug in the basement.... NO, THROW IT OUT. Really now, those news rugs are only $9.99, my parents could easily afford a dozen of them without a blink of an eye.... [sigh].
We should be leaving here to take an adventure in 30 minutes. Mom was up pretty much all night long... I finally just stayed up at 6:30... what's the point of even trying to sleep when she's in pace mode? none, no point whatsoever. Good thing Josh was here to help me pick her butt up at 4:30 a.m. and get her back into bed... BUT, guess where my son is? Yup, in bed sleeping. I've made breakfast, fed 3 dogs, got mom to the bathroom and washed up, went to wallyworld for depends, more ensure and other necessities... woke him up an hour ago and he said he was awake and getting up. I have half a mind to just leave him here with mom and the carer, take my pibble and enjoy my afternoon away. I really should do that too... but I won't. sigh.
z3mel, you're probably developing a nervous stomach dealing with your dad. I've got one now as well. Nerve wracking (at times) is such an understatement. If my mom was to go near anything electrical... nope, no way... just would not happen!... no wonder you have a nervous stomach. Nothing cute about any of this, at all.
At times I wish they'd place my mom on hospice just so they could help me keep her nutrition up. I keep thinking if she would eat more she'd get better or walk better without falling... going to buy her a soft shelled hat this week. It's a must have these days.
took my son to see dad and his gorgeous view of the Brownsville Timbers. The 8x10 gloss laminated pic plus his obit is still pinned to the giant fur tree. There are still some remnants of his ashes/bones that circled the tree... plus, the 4 bouquet of flowers I brought for all the siblings... well, you can still see the remnants hanging in the tree. They've been logging big time up there and it's changes so much since we left dad... his tree is untouched plus someone hung a green dog collar?...LOL, just what dad wanted, a dog buddy to play with amongst the timbers :) I loved it.
I have one important thing to mention. I hope to God I NEVER whine again about being lonely or missing people. We are more than fine. No longer will I deal with self entitled, selfish, their way or no way people. Never ever again.
The biggest happy of my day has been that Mama seems a lot better today...the nurse thinks...and I do too...that she has had a really bad sinus infection on top of just coming off a bad virus, so maybe that has been what was going on. It is hard to say...but for now she is comfortable and drinking her ensure so once again, it is one day at a time.
I've seen a smile a few times and that means the world to me. And now we have had the sunshine for three days in a row and that in and of itself is so uplifting....
crack - y ( heather ) has finally stopped asking me to look at her truck . until she learns some respect for machinery and learns to drive ( gas , brake , honk ) i wont attempt to help her keep a vehicle going . if i see brake dust a half inch thick on someones front rotors i wont be working on or even going near their brakes cause theyre an accident waiting to happen .
im using different muscles now laying stone and my shoulders feel like theyve been beaten with a lead pipe tonight . i have pain pills but if i eat em ill be hovering a foot above the bed tonight instead of sleeping . ' jellin ' like a class " d " felon ..
Yes, still enjoying my son, haha, he reminded me another reason I moved so far away... I seriously think I could live alone forever with just my animals. I could. Less stress, less work and more love n appreciation :)
Van went into and back out of the shop with a list of about 5 things to check over or fix, for $50. Can't complain about that! I thought for sure the serpentine belt needed to be replaced again - fortunately, it was just chirping like a cricket and needed a little spritz to make it stop. Belt is completely fine and the noise is gone. Oil changed, door lock button fixed (again), brake light fixed, antenna spritzed so it will go up/down without getting stuck, all fluids checked/topped off and brakes/tires checked for my trip.
Meeting myself coming and going this week trying to get everything done, but glad the van work is at least out of the way and didn't cost me an arm and a leg.
Jeanette, I hope you're enjoying the time with your son (or did enjoy, if he's already gone).
A few days ago mom developed a tiny sore on her upper gums... her teeth were bothering her. I've been putting campho stuff on it several times a day but it doesn't seem to be helping. This means her top teeth are out and feeding her is a challenge. She drinks 3 - 4 ensure's a day so I'm hoping she won't doesn't lose too much body mass. PB n J's, oatmeal, jello and anything she can gum is what she's eating... and ice cream. Hope this heals up soon... it's not helping at all !
Oh, I can add another whine... any sort of change in our routine changes mom's behavior as well. Everything goes whacko even more. Now add the extra stuff to do since we have a guest here and ... well, visits are nice but it's nice when things go back to that some ole routine. It's peaceful LOL!!
Now for my whine of the day -- I have a day full of tasks that need to be done, some for me, some for my mother. And I thought about how much harder I work now than ever before. Then I thought about the old rhyme, "A man works til set of sun, but a woman's work is never done." I thought how true it is. People at my age are normally slowing down. For me it seems to just get more and more. Golden years, my foot!
yahoo mail is on its face this am and i cant communicate with crack - y .
On the other hand, at least it will be fun spending the morning with them.
I have known abour the luminosity brain games for a while but it popped up on my screen last night so I decided to give it a try. Boy what a shock. My scores were in the teenage range which i would have expected to be the highest rather than the lowest. Part of the problem is that I am on a laptop and can't move the curser fast enough but that is no excuse for being unable to remember all the patterns. Ah well onward and upwards, brain training is in my future when things are slow on A/C
my mother didnt care to do much cooking but she was a great educator . as a kid i used to fantacize about being their hero in a post apolocolyptic setting or something similar . its been an honor to be each of thems closest companion at or near their end of life .
they will live on for generations hopefully . both my sons have been taught their frugality and ability to innovate . most of the females in the family consider mom and aunt to be backwards and ignorant . they are dead wrong and as unaccomplished as you would expect from such narrowmindedness .
I understand your needing respite care in order for you to get some rest...I think all of us understand that here....Please let us know more information and welcome here.... (((hugs)))