I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
57, I would just take a wild guess and say it's some of both. Boredom and Alz. Then toss in a bit of "let's make her guilty and look sad", topped off with a bit of..."yawn", Easter decorations, why do I need those"? If they could only realize just how much of a fun time they could have while being in there... especially if they're still mobile and sort of cognizant.
A question then a whine. After work drove home grabbed dads Easter decorations (forgot the daffodils I bought yesterday) and zoomed back to his AL for a very short visit before dinner. Was surprised he was sitting in living room waved hi and told him I had some items for his room.
Put the decorations up and did my usual sweep of his room and bathroom to see how much stuff was moved around and turned the news on TV so he could watch after dinner. Chatted with the activities director who said Dad hasn't been participating in many activities lately and has been sleeping a lot. Said dad will eat breakfast as he does get up early compared to others, goes and naps, eats lunch then can sleep away the afternoon.
I then though about this as when I greeted him today I really did not get much of an acknowledgement but I did take him to his room and showed him the decor and he did smile and ask if I was eating dinner. I have color photocopies of my sisters cats as an aide says he likes looking at then.
When I stopped in for a longer visit Tuesday I didn't get much of that smile acknowledgement from him either but we went back to his room for awhile and he was ok.
So is this a transition in his Alz?
I called my sister (mistake) she said he is probably bored and why don't I take him for a short 15 minute car ride. I told her she can drive up here and do that herself. Need a helmet to protect myself from my sisters comments.
Off to find my corkscrew for some needed wine.........
What a chaotic day. Bather arrived at noon, nurse at 12:30, carer at 1:00. Suppository deposited by 1:30, bather gone by 2:00, nurse gone 1:45, carer gone at 4:00. AND NO POOPIES yet i feel so alone ... just.... waiting...for the volcano
make that a double scotch
I feel like posting a note on the door that reads:
TO SAVE YOU TIME, PLEASE NOTE :
I do not need new windows
I do not need a new front door
I do not need new gutters
I do not need a new roof
I do not need my driveway sealed/replaced
I do not need my house number painted on the curb
I do not need any trees cut
I do not need 20 lbs of frozen food
Jessie I can tell you what it will be like in ten years you will have trouble carrying two gallons of milk and only be able to lift three dinner plates back into the cupboard. At 63 I was still working a full time job and had several horses. I could carry 2 five gallon buckets of water, lift a 50 lb bage of feed and haul hay bails around. Not anymore. Now I need someone to clean house and plow the driveway. Grocery shopping leaves me needing a nap. It's called old age and i refuse to subscribe to that. Carry one Jessie.
CM were you standing under that pole with your pitchfork? Poor guy must have been terrified he'd never father another child. They don't climb poles reound here anymore they have advanced to an elevator with a platform on top that lifts them up easily. We are so advanced they even have a little cover to keep the rain out.
Has Mum got over the daffodils, I guess yours are almost over by now. We had another three inches of snow three nights ago. This has been the winter that never ends but we already have daylight saving and spring starts at the end of the week.
Mom is doing ok, though I worry, and well looked after in the facility for rehab which will make it easier, I hope, to get through my husband's procedure if I am not worried sick about how she is being treated in rehab....I cannot believe how much better this place is compared to the last 2 she was in. I wish I would have sent her to this place for rehab instead of the calamitous, (is that a word?), place she was in last summer and feel guilty about that. Though this place seems much better, I am in there each day assessing how she is doing, speaking with staff, etc. It is still strange not having her here. My routine is completely disrupted as I was on some sort of autopilot going through each day. I guess I will use this time to start some early spring cleaning.
Susan, things are getting so scary with our environment and I am constantly suspicious as to what is being covered up and what is in our food and water. At least they told you about the water to be sure no one in the community drinks it.
I have trust issues and wonder if many things don't get covered up more than we all know. I look at how things seem today and think that if we all knew that these things would occur in the future and had a crystal ball back in the 60's and 70's that we would have shouted "that can't happen!!" But here we are and there are cameras everywhere, we are constantly being tracked by our devices, food is making people gain weight like never before, TV subject matter is strange and gloomy compared to back then, etc. etc. The hoodies people wear also remind me of the dark ages back in history when everyone wore hoods....These times seems to be like some sort of modern dark age.....
At least we can be proud of all that we do each day, the surprises and problems we handle, and know that we are stronger for doing this even though it doesn't seem like it at times and that this strength we are gaining will benefit us in the long run in this crazy world!
Elderly people do not need as much food as WE would like them to have.
Hope you told the fellow it's only safe to come down if your internet is working properly, if not, stay up there!
Those important discoveries .... are our lifesavers. We can only do so much!
Oh, I've not read my email in 2 months.... I stopped all notifications on everything. If it is that important they should know my cell number. I'm going back to the cave days. HA! Even cooked dinner over the firepit. I love the smell of smokey hair.
On the plus side, I did make the important discovery that I can go to our nearest village store and the house won't necessarily burn down, nor will mother die because I've turned my back for fifteen minutes. It is a breakthrough, just not one I feel like being grateful for.
On the minus side, mother's dystonia is tightening its grip, literally, and by Saturday I needed real help - i.e. the forum - with dealing with the accusations that I was hurting her intentionally. Not a fun weekend. I missed you all much more than you missed me, believe me!
I guess the one best thing to do is look to see what the primary problem is and tackle the primary. (Pardon me. I'm just thinking out loud now.)
You know, cougars might have the right idea.
We can't drink our water here, due to toxins in the water from a chemical plant that buried their toxic waste here in the 70's when they pulled out of town and shut their factory down. It leached through their "retaining wall" and into our water supply. Our river and wells are polluted with it. So we (and everyone else in town) buy our water elsewhere or have it delivered. I have a cooler that holds 5-gallon jugs. So far, I've been able to hoist the jugs up onto the cooler with minimal effort - until tonight. I don't know what happened tonight, but when I went to pick up that darn jug, my arms just quit working, and I dropped it from chest-height, onto my lower leg. I already have circulation and edema problems (read: blood clot risk) in my legs - so what do I do? I go and drop a 40-lb jug of water on it. Instantly saw visions of myself after Mom passes, being alone in the house and doing something like this, and ending up on the floor, unable to reach the phone. I guess at that point, I'll be a candidate for an emergency alert pendant or something. (sigh) My arms still feel kind of weak and shaky, but I think that's more from adrenaline than anything else. I can use my fingers and all that (I'm typing...), so nothing serious wrong, but sure was a wake up call for the future...and not a nice one.
Weed through it. IF anyone comes on this website they are in some sort of trouble.
However, what bugged me was mom telling me how nice it was of him to make her something! Like it was some HUGE deal or something. I don't mean to be petty and I am happy that that tiny offering made her so very happy, but it also bugs me that he can do so little and he gets so much credit. I know that she gives me a lot of credit too and for that I am thankful.
"I have decided I no longer want to be an adult. If anyone needs me, I will be in my blanket fort, coloring".
Gonna print this, tape it to the fridge, and make me a blanket fort.
I bet there is at least one poor little bird that has the misfortune of getting seasick.
My whine for the whole of last week was no broadband, no email, no nothing. Not so much a whine as screaming hysteria. But I'm all better now, sob sniffle...