I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Last night we grilled steak, which he claims to love. Ate about 25% of the very small portion I served him. I saved the rest and he's getting it back tonight, while my partner and I enjoy something "too spicy" for him.
Mom has a home care nurse right now who has been awesome about getting things set up for us that Mom needs. She's even going to check into the possibility of getting respite care through the county Commission on Aging. Their website says they only allow 1 hour of free respite per week, but the nurse thinks more is available if you make a donation. She knows someone getting TWENTY HOURS a week. OMG. Angels would sing and monkeys may just fly out of my butt if that were even remotely possible. (pardon the expression, but that tells you just how impossibly wonderful that would be....)
Anyway, Mom seemed far more fatigued today than she should have been, all things considered. She got to a point today where she didn't even want to walk to the bathroom, because she was too tired, just wanted to lay down. (I knew where that was headed...) and just as I thought, she laid there playing cricket with her feet because she had to pee...and popped back up 10 minutes later to go to the bathroom. Her O2 level was lower than it should be too, so I called the homecare agency and ended up talking to a different nurse, because ours wasn't available. She proceeded to explain congestive heart failure to me in the most basic terms (yes I get it, the heart is a muscle, gets enlarged when it works too hard, etc). Then she went on to ask how old Mom is (almost 75) and to tell me that I should take care of myself because I have the same genes and will likely DIE of this same disease, and I should enjoy every moment I have with Mom, because her mother died at age 76 of the same thing.
Um...gee thanks, Lady. I KNOW my mother is not a well woman. I KNOW she could have something serious go wrong at any moment and pass away. I KNOW how tenuous her hold on life is right now. But do you have to be so blunt about it? Didn't really need to hear that tonight. Kind of cast a pall over what was a fairly decent day - guess who's tired, stressed and depressed NOW?
Spent all day today watching it rain and write mom's obituary. I hope she like's it.
Sorry about your shaking FF. you will feel the pain when you get the bill for your ambulance ride. We now have a $150 copay on our Medicare PPO for that and it is only a few miles down the road. hope the xrays look good but don't tell Mom and Dad. That shoulder has to stop you driving for at least the next year and maybe they will get the message. M.ake sure you tell them how bad the vertigo is too
I am on the phone with 911 and within minutes they were at the house.. of course my sig other claims he is fine so he declines going to the ER... the paramedics are now tending to me because I can barely stand from the vertigo and shaking like a leaf... since I have heart issues they didn't want to take any chances so I had my first ride in an ambulance... I felt like I was on an episode of "Emergency".
Sig other has had similar episodes of blacking out when he uses Ambian for sleep... hope this time he finally realizes he can't take that stuff.
This afternoon had a new set of x-rays taken for my broken shoulder... ouch that was pretty painful. Keeping my fingers crossed that it is healing correctly... will see Orthopedist on Thursday.
Good heavens, I've been to the ER for myself as many times as my Dad and here he is 93.
its only begun . pears , apples and cherries are right around the corner . i think my peach trees will bear strongly this year . it isnt a joke to me , ive always felt secure with 2 yrs sterile food stored back , not to mention my rainwater supply .
i have plans of surviving whatever transpires , fk the naive risk takers .
Yep, he was spoiled by his Mother, and probably by his late wife.
I was now very aware of why he had come calling on Sunday BUT some things can never be forgiven and that is one step too far (well about 51 years too far to be fair). I even kept my cool. I said no I couldn't possibly as a) we were moving to a 2 bed bungalow and b) there wouldn't be room and c) I wouldn't have him in the same house as my mother and definitely not in the same house as me under any circumstance.
The phone went very silent and I could feel guilt (not warranted guilt but nevertheless guilt) creeping up my spine. Then this so sympathetic voice said I do understand he did tell us there was a problem that might result in you saying no.
I became composed and said very quietly back he stole a lot of money from my mum and broke her heart with his lies and his deeds, it is unforgivable ...from me he stole something irreplaceable and I feel exactly the same way so please before you even attempt to say how forgiveness reaps its own reward be warned that thus far I have remained calm - My answer is a very firm no. She thanked me for the call and hung up - I am now quite wobbly but holding on by the fingernails albeit they are scraping down the walls and staying proud that I didn't buckle.
I like to think our loved ones ARE looking down from the other side, but what they're thinking is, "Enjoy your life and I'll enjoy mine here until I see you again." There is no blame or bad thoughts for people they loved.
You are probably right about controlling those emotions. I think its either the antidepressant or God is carrying me right now. I don't know if you've heard of that Footprints in the Sand poem about someone asking God how come in the hardest times of his life there was only one set of footprints in the sand and God replied its because it was during those times I was carrying you.
Either way I would probably be in a facility right now if God and the antidepressant wasn't helping me.
You sound like a kindred spirit Jeanette. Its comforting to know I'm not going through this alone. ((((( hugs))))
Some people in life feel more guilty at just about everything. Sheesh, I know I do. Heck if I don't take my dogs for some sort of fun time a few times a week I feel guilty. Guilt should be my middle name and I've been this way all my life. Some describe it as being tenderhearted and it's a good quality to have. Ha, it's a bad quality to have if it's interfering with your life. Go on and live your life now. Grieve and heal at the same time and push those thoughts from your head. I understand though...I really do. (((hugs)))
I know this is properly a stupid thought but I sometimes think my Mom is looking down from heaven and thinking Donna (my real name) is not as sad for me as I thought she would be. Which is definitely not the case. I am devastated but almost in a detached way. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?