I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
But actually come to think of it the administrative staff were the opposite so that explains that. Its a real kick in the pants though getting a call day after your Mom passes saying get your stuff out of here.
I've learned a lot these past years about what I hope doesn't happen to me when I get older. I pray I die of a massive heart attack instantly so I won't have to linger and get treated like yesterdays garbage one day.
I feel like people are so selfish and uncaring in situations when they should be the opposite.I have always tried to treat people the way I would like to be treated. You know do unto others. I guess I am very naive.
I have to laugh though. The day after my Mom died they wanted her room clear or else they said they would put her belongings in storage and charge us $75 a day.
They didn't even send us a condolence card or anything.
I had thought they were real nice, kind people but at the end of the day I guess its still a business. Shew out one old lady and put another one in. Kind of like an assembly line.
I came face to face with my cell not much room for even a book
Of course you have the kitchen too - gee thanks and I stared
8 cupboards sink oven hob fridge freezer washing machine who cares?
And the garden is yours gee thanks and I sat aghast
Overgrown trees and thigh high grass
You have a garage for your car gee thanks and I reeled
Full of mowers and tools and stuff that had spilled
You can put your stuff in the loft gee thanks and I froze
With webs spiders and junk ..not the place I would have chose
I can give you a hand next Tuesday week - and I smiled in shock
Knowing she'd turn up in her best jeans or frock
Mind you you'll be sorted by then - and I looked to the skies
I had to or Id have hit her straight 'tween the eyes
So I am now less than or perhaps Im not at all
I used to be someone - a lass who stood tall
But you've shown me my place and handed me my lot
But don't ever think that I am a total idiot
I will survive I will trust me in that
She will be safe you can bet your hat on that
But there will come a time when I want my space
And when that time comes you wont be welcome in my place.
For now is when I need you to stand by my side
To support me even if you dont like what I decide
But you couldnt do that could you so go...leave me alone
If I need you I'll call you but dont wait for the ring of the phone
I still do it from time to time. As much paperwork as he kept and as much as he wrote *everything* down, I'm still missing a large amount of much-needed info.
My mom used to love sparkly things and crafting them. Hanging on the back porch are several ornaments made of glass. In the early evening when things are starting to cool down you can see hundreds of 1 inch square light reflection dancing throughout the yard, they are everywhere.... makes my heart warm feeling that it's her coming for a visit. You see, they've been here but up until a week ago I simply didn't notice them like I do now.
I do have a new whine. I hate cleaning my mother's bathroom. I have to do that again today. There is the walk-in shower with shower chair. Then there's the safety frame around the toilet. I have to move this to do that and move that to do this. It's a tiny bathroom, so you have to squunch up to get things clean. And all the tile and plumbing is old, so it never feels clean. And I never can figure out why there is so much mildew and why the paint is peeling off. Ooooh, I hate cleaning her bathroom. (In fact, I hate cleaning the house because it is so cluttered and never feels clean, no matter what.)
CM, truer words were never spoken.
All my worldly possessions with the exception of my bed, about 20 books, my computer desk and computer and a few kitchen gadgets are in storage.
But I have my own bedroom.
I slept on a 40-year-old mattress for over 2 years before splurging and buying myself a new bed.
But I have my own bedroom.
I share said bedroom with a washer and dryer which were put where the closet in the room used to be - so I have no closet.
But I have my own bedroom.
I can't close the door at night for fear Mom will fall and I won't hear her call out. So I deal with the noise of the tv when she gets up at night and her shuffling and banging her way to the bathroom - which wakes me.
But I have my own bedroom.
When I bought my new bed, I downsized from a full to a twin to make more space in my bedroom/laundry room - so now I feel like a child in a wee little bed.
But I have my own bedroom.
I stare at the titty pink walls at night, hating the color but not having time to paint them.
But I have my own bedroom.
Right? lol
Isn't it funny how people think if you've got your own bedroom you're fine? Presumably it's because at least then you can sit behind a closed door and gibber. I used to go around thinking "what am I, the help?" - I didn't know it was possible to get lower than an au pair in the domestic hierarchy.
Hugs to you and can I borrow your gorilla when you are done for my FIL and MIL?
I have recently told several people they are parked in a NO PARKING ZONE which is blocking the handicap ramps to stores and post offices. Oh they just want to run in and drop off their mail but they block the ramp. Bunch of lazy a** people that need to walk off some calories! I am going to be one of those people that gets stabbed or shot for opening my mouth and angering someone when I speak my mind standing up for the handicap.
Susan - In one state my mother received medicaid based on age alone. When we moved to another state she had to apply to that state for their medicaid and was turned down due to her income being to high. She was turned down THREE times, three different types of applications. It was so frustrating and Counsel On Aging was "helping" us too. We finally received the correct help from someone that understood the medicaid programs. I guess what I am saying is don't give up too quickly especially if your mother is evaluated for and shows signs of dementia. It may put your mother in a different category which would qualify her.
Aide started Monday.....grrrr.
To late for me to even whine. I have to get some sleep, try anyway. My mother's endoscopy procedure is this morning. Her PCP has just decreased her BP medicine since I dropped off her BP readings to his office. They were getting too low and she was becoming unresponsive. When you add low blood sugars you have one scared person...me. Who needs some sleep now.
Hope - I adore Colorado I wanna come too and as for shark swimming right now I am not bothered about the cage let em eat me - it's an eco way to go!
Sorry if I sound like Tony Robbins but one thing I learned during the time I took care of my Mom was that I am strong even though I never thought I was but now that I know I am I notice my family treats me with a little more respect than they used to and when they try to pull all their old s**t that they used to pull I just don't let it go anymore. I call them on it. If I have to burn some bridges along the way to get respect then so be it.