My "whine moment today." What's yours?

Early,
That is horrible! Somebody over served that man. You poor dear.

Pam,
Ugh!!!! And yet, I am not surprise! Will we ever learn? China is not safe for us! Don't mean to affend anyone! But "Gross!"

Sounds awful, EB.

I would have showered too because I am a germ freak.

Garden,, I recently say a picture of a plant in China making surgical face masks. People were sitting on the dirty floor cutting apart the paper masks that were coming out of the machines. And this is what we are wearing!

Got a good report from Mass General and the PA for my mother. Decided to get take out at a lovely restaurant for the three of us. Took a walk into the restaurant and only two people were having dinner. I asked if I could sit in the back of the dining area with my mother and niece and it was ok. Felt very safe, chef made up pureed food for my mom, haddock and potatoes and for dessert a dark chocolate moose. The waitress was attentive and very nice. We were just finishing up our dessert when suddenly out of nowhere a man came over and sat down without a mask. I told him we all need to put our masks on and he said I am not worried about it and I said I am. He told us he saw my mother across the room and was drawn to her, told her he loved her, kissed her hand and cheek and his nose was running right onto my mothers hand. I was in shock so was my niece and when she gets nervous she laughs all she did was laugh. I told her not to encourage the man, was so drunk he could hardly stand up, he was about 50 years old. I felt sorry for him he was crying and tears rolling down his face. I did not have the heart to turn him away and then he started swearing the F word about himself and started getting loud , we got nervous and wanted to ask him to leave but felt intimated and said nothing. Dear mom gladly put her hand out to the man. I told her never do that with Covid again. I finally spoke up and said I had to pay the bill and get going. He left at that moment with no problem. The manager put him in a taxi for home. We reported it to the manager, he felt bad, said he should have monitored better. Now I will never take my mother out for dinner to a restaurant until this thing is over and we get the vaccine. The man was totally drunk. I even handed him a napkin to wipe his nose and he declined. I wonder why we attract such individuals. We were minding our own business way in the back. Heavens knows how he found us .Bad bad decision on my part. Hope my mom and the rest of us don't get Covid. It has almost been a year since my mother dined out. Got home we all took showers. Mom gave us a very hard time and told us she already took a bath today, explained about the nose dripping and then she was ok with it. I sprayed her down with an alcohol base at the restaurant. Mom is in her bed cozy and warm.

NHWM, good information on Dollar Store products.   I can't remember the exact issues of what I read, but it was to the effect of some Dollar Store versions (with Dollar in the name but some differences) were Chinese owned, and that products COULD be of questionable safety.   Doesn't surprise me.  

Good point on not getting vitamins from them.  Years ago I bought some lotions, including those made by well known manufacturers, but I've thrown them all out.  Why take a chance?  

Some many years ago when Carl Levin and John Kerry were still in the Senate, a hearing was held on Chinese products and contamination.    Photos were posted that someone had taken of a Chinese plant where some type of personal product manufacturing was taking place.  

I don't recall if it was vitamins, medicine (I think it was this) or whatever else, but it was horrifying.  The place was a dump, with broken windows, overgrown grass and weeds.   I found it difficult that anyone could be forced to work in such an environment, let alone that anything possible useful could be manufactured there and sent overseas for inclusion in meds.  

That's what I started asking pharmacists about the source of the meds I bought.   I finally found an honest one who told me if products were from China, and searched around to find ones that weren't.   It wasn't easy.

I assume you also known about Johnson & Johnson and its baby powder which should never be used in a woman's personal areas.

Boo hoo... Saints lost 😞 to the Eagles today. We still in the playoffs, though.

GA,

Thanks for the info. That’s fascinating. I don’t wear shades of red at my age, 65. When I was younger I loved shades of red. Now I wear neutral shades.

I never knew about lead in cosmetics. I always check to make sure there is no animal testing on any cosmetic products that I buy but was totally unaware of possible lead contaminants.

I remember the warning about old baby cribs that had lead paint.

Lead is toxic, so it absolutely has no place in cosmetics.

It’s really interesting that you brought this up. I was reading an article on items to never buy in a dollar store.

One thing on the list was cosmetics because their origin of manufacturing is often unknown, and they could contain products not good for our skin.

Same with dog treats, dogs were dying from these treats.

Also, lead paint on children’s toys are dangerous.

I tend to buy lipstick from drugstores, not dollar stores.

There are other safe things to buy from the dollar store but it is wise to steer away from anything that could contaminate our skin.

The other thing the article mentioned was not to buy vitamins from dollar stores.

Dollar stores are everywhere these days!

People like saving money but we do have to be cautious about what we buy.

NHWM, I hope you're checking lipstick components to make sure there's no lead in them?   Several years ago the Enviromental Working Group posted on lead in women's lipsticks.   It was sickening to think that for years I might have been absorbing lead through eating.   

"Lead can contaminate the mineral pigments that color lipsticks – particularly red lipsticks. In 2012, the Food and Drug Administration tested several hundred lipsticks from 20 popular brands. FDA scientists found lead in every one."

https://www.ewg.org/enviroblog/2017/02/pucker-dose-lead

I'm wondering if this could reach the widespread concern arising from children who've absorbed lead from paint.  Granted, our brains aren't as vulnerable as those of children, but who wants lead in their bodies anyway?

Gee, where have I heard "nobody get's it" before. I'll have to scratch my head and think about that one -:)

Earlybird,

You just stick to your plan on still having a good day - in fact, better yet...make it a great day!!!

(((hugs)))

Brother called and asked if I was sleeping at 12:30 pm, I told him of course not and I would talk to him later.
Cousin this morning commented on me still in my pajamas. I did not respond but cut the conversation short. Don't people have a clue of some sort. Niece said to me nobody gets it. I plan on having a good day still.

It's actually freeing in a way wearing a mask. I was putting lipstick on today and suddenly thought why am I bothering. I've got lipstick stains on the inside of my mask now too.

I've always taken really good care of my skin and usually wear a bit of mascara and lipstick but I guess it's just for myself now and I suppose it always should be just for me so I'll keep on doing it, mask or no mask.👄

NHWM,
Your MIL has a good point about the new and improved products. LOL!

I am so with you on the lip stick! I use to wear a coco brown lip stick that looked good with my dark red hair and I haven't seen it in yrs!! Do you know how hard it is to find a lip stick that looks good on someone with fair skin, bright blue eyes and dark red hair? VERY HARD!!! That was my favorite color. I have other coco colors, but they are to dark or to light! I guess, it really doesn't matter because we all wear masks. I miss wearing lip stick. I think my lips is one of my best features, but my eyes are the best feature because people think I wear contacts. No one ever believes that my eye color is real! Ha ha

Shell and FF,

My MIL used to make me giggle about certain marketing techniques.

Yes, we all have our ‘favorite’ products. My MIL would see a commercial claiming the product was, ‘new and improved.’

She would say, “If it’s ‘new and improved’ what was it before, ‘old and lousy’?

I thought she was so cute and funny but she had a point with her comment!

Some things don’t need improvement! They were fine as they were!

You know what I hate? If my favorite lipstick color has been discontinued. Or they change the name and I can’t find it.

Guess that’s one advantage of wearing a mask! Hahaha, I haven’t worn lipstick in nine months!

FF,
I hate when companies change their products and/or they 86 your favorite thing. Like your favorite chocolates and still charge you the same price.

I went into Bath & Bodyworks yesterday to pick up a Christmas present for a friend and thought I would pick up two bottles of my favorite lotion, however, they 86 it. Ugh! Not to mention they only had one bottle of Twisted Pepper, which I bought for my friend!

My whine of the day.... Whitman's Sampler box of candy. Bought a couple of boxes the other day and much to my surprise the company had changed the variety and amount of the two layers of candy.

Missing now are a lot of pieces, all of which were my favorites such as the chocolate covered cherry... the two chocolate covered crispy peanut butter bars... the second round chocolate with peanuts.... the second chocolate covered individual peanuts, and others. Bummer !! And the box is the same price but with less candy.

If you are buying a box, check the underside of the box which will show you what pieces are now in that box. I didn't do that because I never thought the company would change the variety :(

That discussion reminds me of when my boys were students living in shared housing - after grumbling for a while about inconsiderate housemates who not only used up all the TP they never seemed to buy any the oldest figured out that the solution was to carry his own private roll to the bathroom, that tip got passed along to his brother.

Regarding items set at gravestones in a cemetery. My sig-other works in a small cemetery, it's his something to keep busy after retirement job.

He has told me that people will place trinkets at the gravestones only to later have the crows fly off with the items. Fresh flowers become a salad bar for the deer, so the next day one needs to clean up what is left of the flower arrangements. Larger items become a treasure hunt for raccoons and other critters who roam the cemetery at night. Items get dragged all over the cemetery but there is no way to know what gravesites the items came from.

One big problem is whenever there is a storm which has a lot of wind. Items get blown around. Heavy rain storms, items get washed away. Lot of clean up after storms, all items go into a trash bin.

Just food for thought.

Xray, this is a big pet peeve of mine. I was the one who replaced the roll once I took over the caregiving and household and now if I use the last piece I leave it and I really don't care. I also took a package of toilet paper and put it away secretly for myself and mom. Family told me not to worry they will use leaves if we run out ha ha, I would love to see that.

Replacing the toilet paper roll used to be my job, until Covid-times messed with that.
Evolving chores, and my dH seeking new heights at which to control someone, or something, he made the mistake of trying to control me. 😊 And knowing he had to find new places to store two months supplies of T.P., I was understanding and patient when he put the supply up wayyy too high for me to reach.

It became his, all his job. I would even help, or change a roll if I could find it, or reach it, or even use the step-stool to climb up. Naw, just not worth it! Lol.

So, he was not this way prior to Covid. But the stress has gotten to him, or maybe it is normal aging?

It was at first embarrassing to be calling out from inside the bathroom.......
"Honey, can you please bring me some T.P.?"

Don't get me wrong, I do love him. And letting him be in control of the toilet paper is the least I can do to help out with his anxieties about it. 🚽🧻️🧻️🧻️🧻️🧻️🧻️🧻️


Lol Jodi! If I hid a roll just for me, I would forget where I hid it......

Worried,

While I totally get how disconcerting blowing raspberries is during a pandemic, I have to admit that it gave me a good chuckle!!! Thank you!

As for the TP, maybe you could hide a roll just for you, then when someone starts hollering for TP, you can just blow raspberries at them! Lol

I my try that myself!!

Jodi I can so relate to that LOL! Only it’s not my hubby, he always replaces the roll. It’s my kids, almost always my OLDEST who will be 13 on Christmas Eve who always uses the last roll and doesn’t replace it! My hubby uses the master bathroom which is torn up and going to be updated soon, all that works is the toilet, the kids & I use the hallway bathroom. Every time I go to use the bathroom and see the empty roll, I get so frustrated! The kids know where the TP is kept and neither of them replace the roll! So it always ME who gets stuck replacing it!

My whine moment today. My 8 year old has started blowing raspberries! All day he did. And yesterday too. And the day before. He started doing it Tuesday while we were out running errands. He did it again while running errands yesterday. Clearly this is NOT the time to be blowing raspberries in public! Every time he did, I nearly lost it! Thank God there was never anyone close enough to hear him but d*mn! In today’s climate I am sure at the very least I would get yelled at if someone heard him blowing raspberries. Every time he did it, I wondered if we were either about yelled at or kicked out the store! I really don’t know what has gotten in to him. This morning during “distance learning” he was doing it repeatedly and I tell ya, I am sick of hearing it!

My "Whine moment " tonight is why is it so freaking hard for my hubby to put a new roll of TP on the holder??? Lol

Ladies (sorry Gents), I know I am not the only one feeling this right now!

It's so frustrating to use the bathroom/Loo only to find nothing but an empty cardboard roll staring you in the face!

C'mon dude!!! Don't leave me hanging! It only takes 20 seconds!!

Just saying!!

Well I guess I should be happy that I still have toilet paper !

NHWM,

Thanks!! At least I no longer have to wait for my brother to fix her phone account ever again!! This means I am 100% responsible for her now. I'm good with that!!

Golden,
I moved from Colorado to Montana 4 years ago. I will tell ya that I prefer Montana winters over Colorado!! May sound crazy, but where I live, we still get snow, but our temps don't get down to the 25 below 0 that Denver gets.
I haven't used the crampons, but I have considered buying snowshoes to go to the mailbox! Lol

Need - thx I am careful. I probably should get some crampons (spiked dealies) for my boots. I can always drive to the mailbox even if it isn't far. I do that when it is very cold. I am used to driving in snow and ice. I went out this evening and scraped the driveway so it should all melt the next few days hopefully. There is only a little built up snow on one side. It can stay.

Golden,

Be careful!

My daughter is going to have to get used to snow!

She seems to be enjoying the distinct seasons.

Colorado is quite a change from Louisiana!

(((((jodi)))))

My whine is that it is lovely and warm these days but the sidewalks are too slippery to go for a walk. I so wanted to go for a walk. I went to get the mail yesterday and ended up walking on the road as the sidewalks aren't safe.

Jodi,

I won’t say, “awesome,” okay? That line has been taken by your brother! Hahaha 🤣

I will simply say, terrific! Or wonderful!

Glad you got it taken care of. I am sorry that your brother didn’t show his appreciation like he could have done.

Saying ‘thank you’ really does go a long way. Maybe one day, he will realize this and properly show appreciation.

Just an update on a previous post!

After 2 and a half hours on the phone with Xfinity, I was finally able to set up my Aunts phone account under my name.
I should be able to call her tomorrow!

Even though my brother was supposed to take care of the mess he made, I figured 2 weeks was long enough!!!

All he had to say was "Awesome " via text.
Not even a simple Thank You!

I guess his time is more valuable than mine!! Total sarcasm!!!

Josaphina,
Welcome to the Forum. Here you will get such wonderful support from most of the caregivers on this site.

Worried & Early,
It just shows us that people will steal anything and from anywhere. What low lives to steal from a grave site or steal some lady's purse in a store. And Early, I can't blame you for not shopping at Macy's anymore, I wouldn't shop there anymore either. Early, I am sorry that you had your purse stolen.

I am sorry Worried that someone did that to your family.