I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
(((Way))) - let us know how you and DH are and who things are going. Such a stressful time!!!
Hugs to you.
DH sets it up . Lawyer and notary were coming to rehab this morning to have MIL and DH sign . DH drove the 200 miles last night after work , so he didn’t have to worry about traffic this morning .
Well MIL , starts having issues yesterday . This morning becomes nearly unresponsive AN HOUR before lawyer coming . So that was a no go .
DH ended up doing a MOLST form with the rehab doctor as next of kin . MIL with stage 4 CLL , DM type 2 , CKD , pelvic fractures , is now septic . She has a decub on her sacrum that started at home , that is infected . She should have gone to AL at least 6 months ago . Anyway she can’t fight this infection , organs shutting down too . I saw it coming , she’s been having increasing edema pretty much all over the last couple of weeks .
I feel sorry for DH , the relatives want to know why more isn’t being done . 🙄🙄🙄 She was in pain , moaning , she’s on morphine and we are just waiting …..
Update on the appliance fiasco. I am still without a functioning dishwasher. I contacted CAS (who I bought it from) After Sales and they are not helpful. I have started a claim through Visa at my bank, but they, of course, cannot guarantee success. I have decided to purchase another dishwasher and, if I don't get a refund on the Bosch I'll sell it or give it away, They sent the part to me, which is weird as I didn't order it. Seems like some sort of sick game. What happens if something else goes wrong? I wait another 6+weeks and have to write emails etc. No thank you. Never buying from either company again.
High of 44 today, Golden, we are colder than you, send down the warmth. 😆
Here the field is drying out and green is showing. Love leaving the balcony door open and hearing the birds. Here is it around 12 C (54 F) and clear blue skies - an awesome spring day.
We are in the 90s and set to have the earliest 100° day, measured far from my home that has already broke 100°, in recorded history. UGH!
Last night was the last night we will cool off into the 50s, meaning time for the AC.
Stay warm and safe.
The whine is that I'm so scared for my mom. She had a fall this weekend, her first one, and she's been so careful about using her walker. However she stepped on a scale and it tipped and so did she... She's bruised and has an L2 fracture in her back. She is in pain and managing with meds. Thank God they didn't admit her at the ER.
But they suggested motrin plus Tylenol and her platelets have been bouncing around (at 101 today, not too bad considering they skipped her nplate shot last week bc she shot up to 414!). Her sodium has also dipped again to 127, but her BUN level is now normal. It's like freaking whac a mole. Dehydration or normal sodium? They saw a 5.5 cm mass on her ovary during CT scan and nodule on thyroid (love those incidental findings) that they said she should follow up on and also reduced from her last bout with pneumonia but "persistent" spots suspicious for aspiration, so I feel like she should have another swallow study. They didn't give her antibiotics (which also caused her initial issue with platelets ) bc she didn't have a fever.
All this and all she wanted was some relief from the pain in her back and to make sure nothing was going to need surgery and no head injury!
It was a miracle that she went to the ER today to get the scans. She sees her hemotologist Wednesday to review her labs, I'll be away, and I'm worried about dad and managing with her. My brothers can be there if emergency.
It just sucks. I will enjoy myself hopefully these next couple of days but always in the back of my mind is the never ending worry and just feeling so bad for her she's trying so hard doing her pt visits and she's supposed to start pulmonary rehab next week (oh she uses supplemental oxygen too). The never ending parade of appointments it takes hours of preparation, the night before getting in the mindset, (you can't spring a same day appointment on her), getting up and ready (no mornings, she and my dad always worked nights and still on that schedule), and out the door to the car etc etc you all know. I'm very lucky she's still ok cognitively despite some heavy anxiety and we have a close relationship. It just pains me so to see her have so many issues and trying to manage it all. And fearing the future.
No responses needed it's just my whine and prayer that she could have just a couple of weeks where she could have other things to do. There's a lecture she wants to go to at the Council on Aging in a few weeks, that will be so good for her and I hope it's on a day she's feeling OK.
Oh, that chicken was very tender indeed. There was a little anger in that chicken parm last night. That's what made it just a bit spicy too.
Now you've got me thinking chicken parm tonight. I've got two chicken breasts in the fridge.
@golden23
Not me. I don't like cleaning, but I do it. I scrub the pans crazy when I'm mad. Might as well do something productive with the anger.
Daisy - that would work too. The best chicken parm I ever had was in a small out of the way restaurant in Assisi, Italy. I still remember it.
I'll be scrubbing more pots and pans in the near future. My voice mail suddenly started speaking in Chinese so I am chasing a fix which isn't straightforward. I have gone full circle with the dishwasher. Emailed Bosch Germany and they referred it back to the same guy in Bosch Canada who persists in addressing me as Mr B...... Shows that he doesn't read my emails as I sent him the correction. Apparently they have the part in stock but there is a glitch getting it to the repairman. The service manager is working on it. I will be updated. Yeah right. This is not rocket science!!!
OMG, you scrub the pots and pans too? It's nice to know someone else does this.
I've had my pots and pans through two marriages several moves and they usually see daily use. They look like they've never been used.
Speaking of appropriate use of anger, I emailed Bosch Canada on March 26 for an update as I have heard nothing about a repair. I have had no response to that. So I used my "energy" to hunt around the web and found that Bosch Canada service is rated at 1.5 stars out of 5. I think I would rate it lower than that. I also found a new phone number and email for contact. I used the email and from the automated response I think I got Bosch Germany. We will see what comes of that. I said since a repair in a reasonable time was obviously not possible, I wanted a replacement or a repair. I'm rethinking the replacement since service is so bad. Pity as I gather they make good dishwashers.
Just sometimes my anger gets the best of me, they will be fewer and farther between.
You weren't scammed by your mother's bullsh*t. Don't think of it like that because if you do then you're punishing yourself and you don't deserve that.
In this life you're either winning or learning. You learned that your mother likes to gaslight and engage in cute little manipulative mind games with you. So you decided to stop playing. Good for you, honey. You did good. You went to your mom's house and she's being normal because she knows you won't play her games anymore. Her gaslighting and mentally abusive tactics don't work on you anymore.
You should be celebrating this, not being angry about the past. You did good. Give yourself some credit for that.
I hope you're snow disappears quickly, when the weather gets warmer! Little better today, I gotta take Mom to the foot doctor this morning. Then rain or shine I'm taking a long fast walk, use my anger in a good way.
The anger you feel is justified. You were manipulated and used. And by your own mother - the person who should have cared for you. It's not a nice reality than many of us here have had to face. I think it is important to feel the anger and acknowledge the hurtful things to then be able to put them behind you. it's a process and takes a while. Sounds like you are getting through it. Well done!
I’m so sorry you’ve been treated badly .