I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Please send some warmer weather here.
Golden,
True, some mornings I sat on balcony wearing sweater.
But then we are not having many fires. Unfortunately too many all over Canada.
The Northeast feels like Florida this year , including the freaky rain storms and humidity .
As I mentioned in my other post, Alva and Golden are wise persons.
I like to whine about weather!
We are having cold summer!
Your wisdom rings true - no need to have distressing conversations.
Form done (out of sight). No need for future revisions.
Mother would NOT engage with this a year ago. Oh the tears... both M & D.. I said let's do that another day & quietly completed it to her known values out of sight.
Then it was updated when D was very ill. She wanted everything - Full resus, all tubes, all treatments.. so she could survive & look after him. Now he is a memory in our hearts 💙 & I have to complete that d@%n form again.
I have to decide.. to use the long & firmly held values & wishes my prior Mother had (do no harm, nothing futile, nothing painful, let nature take it's course) or the newer ideas of this new version of Mother, whatever they are on that day! 😑
Guess I will need to broach the subject.. tbc
Unfortunately, there are not many professionals anymore and shoddy work is the norm across all industries. Sad times for America and the future.
The attorney sent a botched up the letter to the nursing home. Instead of asking for my father's PRI, he asked them for my mother's. I pointed out to him that she's been dead for 14 months now. I asked that he correct this, and did not hear anything back. Not one damn word.
I already paid for his services, otherwise I would hire another attorney. Real shoddy work. It makes him and me look like idiots. I know a paralegal sent out the email and form letter but there should be some sort of oversight.
Just more stress and anxiety. I'm so tired of dealing with my father's crap. I wish he was gone already. It would be a relief. I don't need this.
Way - hope your plants have survived and you got rain,
My whine is that Rocky digs the dirt out of her little garden on the balcony that I made in an old roasting pan so I have to sweep. My only recourse is to keep it very wet. Then she doesn't dig, but I haven't managed to keep it that way. 🐈
On the plus side , rain coming tomorrow followed by more moderate temps .
I also just saw the Farmer’s almanac is predicting a cool Autumn this year in my area. I hope they are right . Some recent years it seems to stay summer too long .
Here we got up to 25C (77F) which is one of the warmer temps here this summer.
That must of been so upset to deal with! 💕💕
If this roommate doesn't have dementia, why is he sharing a room with your father who does? The NH should not have put them together and it's good that you're having your father moved to a different room as he should be.
Good for you giving it back to that guy. Even when they have dementia, there's nothing wrong with letting someone know you will not tolerate nasty, abusive behavior. The nurse doesn't have to take it either and should not. If this guy is that bad, he needs to be in a different kind of facility where his behavior can be dealt with.
Dad was happy to be moved to a quieter room with a very nice considerate room mate who realized Dad was dying .
I continue by saying that my father's roommate is a nasty nasty SOB and he does not have dementia, so no free pass. You should hear how he speaks to the nurses. He is a miserable human being. I hunted down the nurse and finally found her taking care of my father's SOB roommate.
I had no expectation that the nurse had to drop everything to take care of my father but I told her while she was in there that the plates needed to go back on which she said she would do when she was done. But the roommate seemed to think I wanted her to leave and started yelling at me. I all said that this needed to be addressed.
Anyway just before I left I went into my father's room to check how his room was. And of course roommate started to rip me a new one. And instead of keeping quiet and just leaving I started yelling right back. Pretty much told him who the f he thought he was talking to anyone this way. Called him a nasty miserable human being and just yelled right back.
It was bad. The head nursing came running in and had to break it up. I told her told her what she already knows but could not agree with, that the guy is a mean sadistic nasty piece of work. I have managed to keep on his good side for almost a year but today I lost it with him. No one, but no one, gets to talk to me this way.
I went back to the sitting room and the nurse stopped in to talk to me and I told her I am considering moving my father to another room. She said that was my right to do and the only thing she could do was make sure the what happened with the feet plates does not happen again. It's true, this never would have happened if they were on the chair. But as I said to her, if it wasn't this situation it would be something else. But I don't know if moving him is a good thing. He's been in that room for 2.5 years.
I went & bought one of those tins of fibre/fibre drinks. 2 x day. I'm telling myself it will improve my gut/brain chemicals, therefore reduce tempation to binge drinks/snacks on weekends. In reality.. ? The effects are not too bad 😂🍊💩🍊💩
I gained my 5 lbs back, I lost and been walking again. 😊 I know it doesn't make me very popular 😔 having the opposite issue of weight.
way - it's harder as you get older. unless you run marathons, The guideline is 80% of weight loss is diet and 20% exercise. But both exercise and diet are important especially in keeping the weight off.
Here to Daisy. I was looking forward to sitting out on the balcony, but not today! I am so glad we are out of the forested area - don't have tp ve concerned about being burnt down.