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But how do you avoid situations that a bad guy brings to your own home, that is a troubling scenario. I don't know how to defend myself from that. We would hope the rights to be safe in our own home aren't compromised.
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My mother is deteriorating at the speed of light. I don't think they (doctors) understand what's going on . She went from being forgetful three months ago to full-blown dementia but yet the doctor say she doesn't have Dementia or Alzheimer's . They took a blood test. What the hell is a blood test the woman can't remember what I said 2 minutes ago I have big calendars with everything written out for her she looks at it every 5 minutes she miss places everything she all of a sudden doesn't want to be left alone for five minutes I live out of state I come down here for long weekends twice a month just so I can get her to her doctors make sure she's eating right . I will be bringing her to my home for the summer I don't think she can be alone any longer she forgets literally before you finish the sentence and the doctor said the blood test shows no Dementia or Alzheimer's are you kidding with me I am 62 and we'll have to retire early to take care of her she doesn't eat right at all. what are the doctors talking about!!!!! I think I have a long road ahead . I'm so glad that I found this site.
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Huge question -- why do the doctors think blood tests will show dementia???? Dementia is shown with behavior and cognitive tests.
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... and brain scans that support the behavior and cognitive problems for some people with dementia.
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I'm sure the lab tests are to rule out other disease processes, but I don't understand him saying its Not Dementia from a blood test! That's weird! Time for a new Dr!
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Wouldn't it be wonderful if there was a blood or urine test for dementia? And that each type of dementia would have its own marker? That would make it all so simple.
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My mother criticizes because I lock the doors at night. She talks about how she and my father never did. I guess I grew up in a different time. I also know that we live in one of the most violent cities in the US and that it only takes one person walking uninvited into the house to make a nightmare. Much better to lock the doors, IMO. Determined bad guys could still get in, but why make it easier for them?
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Nightmare1954, Have the doctors tested for a UTI? A urinary tract infection often causes sudden behavioral changes in the elderly. This happened to my Mom many times. I would insist on a urinalysis. If she has a UTI they can get her antibiotics. If the doctor is testing for dementia or Alzheimers with a blood test...I would go to another doctor as this is not the way to detect those diseases.
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Still trying to remain positive! Have a friend who I have helped for many years through his wife's death, remarriage, loss of a career then helped him to find a business. He recently moved his account from me (I do some business for him) and said to me "you don't really need my business anyway?"). That really stung. Where I helped to set him up in a marketing program and someone in the program takes his business away from me..... "yes, I do need your business, I have bills to pay"..... Still didn't matter.... so I don't let business interfere with friendships but it does sting, especially after I spent a lot of time on it, its not about the money but principal. Oh well, live and let live....... still trying to remain positive with dad in the house. Making dinner last night and he had a meeting. Told him dinner was in a few minutes but he left anyway.... oh well, grilled pork, steamed veggies, baked sweet potato fries I think was better than greasy pizza. Wife and I had a nice quiet and able to talk to each other dinner...... There is the positive!
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tgengine, maybe Dad knew there would be some interesting appetizers and a glass of wine at his meeting and did not want to spoil his appetite!
Having a quiet dinner together as a couple probably made up for Dad's absence
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My mother has a new springtime schedule. I never know what to do anymore. Our old schedule is out the window and the new schedule is all over the place. I'm just playing it by ear, but feel so off balance.
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Gershun, going back to your post concering guns-says the kitty avatar hanging out the window pointing a gun! Lol, that is so funny. They don't make gun laws in Canada for cats now, do they?
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Jessebelle, Wait til the full moon is past, maybe Mom's schedule is off balance too. Day or so after tomorrow, let me know. I'm taking a full moon survey this time.

Midkid, I did not know you all were discussing Dh breakins over here when I just posted the neighbor's disturbance today (over on my favorite things thread).
I suggested we use a water hose instead of a gun.

My dH was also locked out this week, he did it, but I had to get out of the shower to let him in! Strange, he can pick the lock on the bathroom door anytime.
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ya know what goes
" click clack , click clack -- BANG - click clack , click clack " ?
an amish drive by shooting ..
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At 6am my husband wakes me to tell me he is in A-fib once again. Everything was going so well with the medication and now this. We were even making some plans to travel. Still having trouble getting my Mom's furniture sold...store did not call back.The stuff is nice and practically brand new. I am beginning to think life just isn't worth living if anything I look forward to is ruined. This is going to be an awful day of watching my husband as he is on Tikosyn. Of course it is a Saturday and the doctor's office is closed. Thanks All, for letting me whine. I feel just a little bit better.
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Oh Katie, I don't know why these things *always* happen after closing time on a Friday, but isn't that always the way? It would be so nice if they could crop up when you do have your regular doctor just a phone call away.

This is not the time to be dwelling on your mother's furniture, because you'll just end up getting mad and frustrated about everything that isn't going well - and you'll get into a tailspin over it. Call the store on Monday. Keep looking at travel brochures. Or get in a DVD that you and your husband can enjoy together. Hope you'll find a way to pass the time over the weekend, and I'll be thinking of you. Fingers tightly crossed the symptoms will wear off. Hugs to you.
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Re -- selling mom's furniture, which I am also currently doing. I had some estate auction people come look, most were very exp! The one that was more reasonable, had a warehouse/store which appealed, since all my sibs are far away (they would start all auctions at $1 which was not appealing). However once they had it in their warehouse, if it didn't sell in 90 days, they owned it! And guess what, 2 blks from me, this same company had an in home estate sale. During my morning run I saw them bringing in chairs tables boxes & boxes of stuff-- From their warehouse!! So this is how they made their money, if my mom's stuff didn't sell after 90 days, then they would sell it at another person's home, and keep the money. I am not going that direction, would rather just donate to those in need. Who knows, this company probably buys stuff from the charity store, to resell later.
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((hugs)) Katie
The longer I live the more I understand about the stereotypical behaviour of elders to talk about their failing health, seems if it isn't happening to us it involves our loved ones.
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Well, I've spent the morning reading up on end stage dementia trying to figure out where mom is at, then to lighten the mood (haha) I've been filing taxes. I had to keep going back over mom's again and again because I couldn't figure out where the discrepancy was, finally found a box I had skipped over. Errgh, I hate doing taxes. On a positive note, she gets a refund, at least she does if I have done everything right! I, on the other hand, will owe money, but I haven't got the fortitude to tackle that yet. Then I will cringe whenever I see those brown envelopes in the mail because I always think the gov't is going to audit us, lol.
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I hope we're done discussing the "break in"..wow, I did NOT mean to bring up so much chatter. I was truly just venting---and things are fine. Found out that another neighbor was also up, gun to the ready. Good to know that my great neighbors "have my back"...and good that hubby didn't get shot.

All for the want of one stupid 5 word text: "Yes, I am coming home tonight." If he had taken 3 seconds off FB (his newest addiction) he could have texted me and none of this ridiculousness need have happened. In the time he sat at the airport(s) he was on FB for almost 6 hours, arguing with anti-vaxxers and liberals. (Sigh) Not one break to email, call or text me.
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As far as selling furniture: if you live nearby and have a Facebook account you can try to do a search on Facebook for local yard sale groups. I belong to about eight of them and you can buy or sell. Many people look on Facebook sites to buy furniture so it doesn't s worth a try. Also there s a site called Offerup. It has a website, Offerup. and an app. Makes it pretty easy to sell locally. I just sold two things that I put on.
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eh facebook ,
i mowed my little orchard today , tilled one garden and set tomatoe plants . this morning i came close to texting my ex helper " heather " to come help ( for pay ) . then i got flashbacks of the cat and mouse game i played with her for 2 yers on the job . if id so much as blink my eyes she'd be scurrying around the house to play on her phone .
if im going to pay 12 bucks an hour for someone who acts like a 10 yr old -- i might as well hire a ten yr old .
i just done all the work myself . " principal " is a big deal to me ..
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I actually took some "me time tonight". Neighbor told me she was taking me out for dinner sometime soon, because she notices I never go anywhere except to see mom at the NH. Good point.

Decided to do some "me time" tonight and sat outside, burned some twigs and such in the firepit and just looked up at the sky with a drink in hand. Very nice.

This week has been rough. Why is it the death of an icon hits us so hard, even though we didn't know them personally? I know it seems silly, but Prince's music was the soundtrack of my youth, whether it was "appropriate" music or not - he gave voice to my youthful rebellion. His death was a personal blow. I'm probably alone in that here, since I don't think anyone else here was a fan....but boy, that was a hard one. It was like when Robin Williams died - all I could think was 'WHY???'
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Oh...and we are dealing with a freaking quarantine at the NH now. No confirmed cases of flu, but apparently several residents have had bouts of nausea, vomiting and diarrhea. Mom had some diarrhea tonight, so they're monitoring her. (sigh)
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when i think back to the mid 70 's i recall the limp wristed screeching of , like , the bee gees and the doobie brothers . i hope those creeps are dead . they were like fingernails on a chalkboard to me .
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Susan, OhNo! You have been through the ringer lately! And Yes, Prince's death is incredibly Sad! I Loved the Purple Rain cassette, abd had playing constantly it in my first little car, one of those tiny Honda Civic's, Man those were the days, and we had the world by the tail! I hope your Mom doesn't get the bug going around!

Katie, sometimes A-Fib can come and go, hopefully now that it's the weekend, and he can relax for these couple of days, his heart will convert back to normal rhythm! As others have said, forgot the furniture for now, it will sell in time! Keep your plans for a nice holiday away, you deserve it! HUGS!
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No Way Captain! I Loved the BEE GEE'S, and the DOOBIE BROTHERS! STAYIN ALIVE, STAYIN ALIVE, HA HA HA HA STAYIN ALIVE 😲😞😒😔😓 😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You hope they are dead captain..........Wow real nice. Why would you wish they were dead. If you don't like them, don't listen. You say a lot of pretty harsh things on here. I'm sure there are a lot of people on here who don't like them but I don't think anyone wishes you were dead.
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One of the BeeGees is dead. I think all the Doobies are still with us. Michael McDonald still looked handsome in the last picture I saw of him. He was a gray fox.
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I liked the Bee Gees (still do) but not so much the Doobies. Maurice and Robin Gibb passed, Barry is still living. Whether or not you liked their music, they were one of those prolific bands that wrote songs for every successful pop artist of their time. Their musicianship can't be denied... but to each their own on personal preference issues, of course. :-)
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