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Linda can you put Mom's chair on the roof of hubby's car. Won't look too cool if he has purchased a mid life convertible.
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Linda22, I hear you, one time I took mom to ER in my own car, man was it like heck getting her in, took forever and I wrenched my wrists awful. When we finally get to the ER, 2 strong young male aides could not manage to get her out! And said they were going to call for an ambulance! From the ER's own parking bay, 20 feet from the sliding doors. OMG. they finally did get her out but not without me remembering in reverse how I got her in there. Something that all my (rotten) sibs take for granted "oh that's no trouble to drive mom to ER, piece of cake" is in fact, dangerous and I would call ambulance from home if I had it to do over again. And let the bill for $2000 go on her small checking account, the sibs can complain all they want, but SOMEBODY has to do this stuff.
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Veronica, I'm not strong enough to schlep the chair onto the roof. I've been adapting by replacing eating out with rides.
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Jessie how about buying some giant rubber snakes and put them in the flower bed, add a few rats too.
On one episode of "Call the Midwife" Sister Monica Jean had cleared out a flower bed and carefully planted dandelions!
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Katie, I'm wondering how the neighbours knew he was legit? I don't want to make you paranoid, but the whole thing sounds really strange to me. If I were you I would call the cable company to check up on this.
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I would get the rubber snakes ready for the people that claim to be the cable guy, the gas company guy.............they can look "legit"..........and they are not. We NEED to be paranoid........sorry. Once inside the house, that person has full control................................................................
M88
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ive been thinking about getting " behind the grill " police lights for my work truck . i have fake home security cameras and security yard signs but here is such a thing as a crackhead whos too ignorant to see these items . theres a strong chance that i could pull up my driveway and interrupt a burglary . police lights mean one thing -- armed to the teeth and would quite enjoy blowing you away ..
i think it would tip the scales and send the crackheads running for the forest - sans - vehicle ..
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word travels in this rural landscape . im afraid somebody will come and try to get my bratwursts ..
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HAHAHA, cap´n, you made me LOL with the SANS VEHICLE 2 posts ago..........hahahahaaaaaa!!! M88 hahaa...
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Linda, I assume neither of you have a station wagon or SUV? If you did, you could get a portable ramp that the wheelchair could be rolled up on and collapsed in the cargo bay. But I guess that would still leave the issue of transferring from the wheelchair into a seat, so that might not be an option.

Can she transfer with a slide board?

For doctor appointments, you might be able to get one of the paratransit vehicles through the local public transit company, but that doesn't provide for those "just pleasure" family rides.
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My mom can't ride in my car either. She just went ahead and transfer ownership of her sedan to me. She can get in and out of that.
I have a Toyota Solara Convertible and absolutely love it. Living here in Florida, I got to drive with the top down quite a bit. I looked for a long time to find it and enjoy it so much. However, now I don't drive it that often and have to pay registration and insurance in a vehicle that I don't need and rarely drive. I could easily sell it in its current condition for about $10,000. The reasonable part of me says, sell it, put the money in the bank, and save money on insurance and expenses.
The other part of me says, this is the only thing you have ever done for yourself and even if you only drive it once a week, it is worth it for the enjoyment it gives you. You deserve to keep this car.
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Sharadale, Everyone deserves an escape vehicle of their own.
Imo.
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Sheradale, KEEP YOUR CAR! It's worth every penny to have a little pleasure in your life! My husband has a 89 corvette convertible he bought after we were 1st married, and the thing still looks brand new. He keeps it in the garage, and only drives it on nice days, we used to take a drive vacation in it every summer, but, now with the Old Man here rarely drives it at all, but we've had some beautiful weather here these past few days, so I notice he's been running his errands in it, which I'm super happy about, because it lifts his spirits and gives him a little enjoyment in the drudgery. Since we've had it for nearly 30 years, he hopes to be buried in it. We gotta keep Some pleasure in our lives, and to look forward to! We have many road trips planned in our head in that thing! We got to keep future tripping to stay sane! 😉
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Sharadale, I concur - keep your car. When I moved in with mom, I started helping her pay her bills and stay on top of things. Without my financial help, she wouldn't have been able to buy groceries, even. It came to a point where we were driving her vehicle more than mine, because she was uncomfortable in mine, and eventually, she needed the handicap lift to get into her van. So I ended up getting rid of mine. I really regret it, because now, even after she's in the nursing home, I'm stuck driving a big ol' handicap conversion van - and when this one dies, I'll have to get another one, because Mom still needs to be transported, and believe it or not, the conversion vans are cheaper than the handicap mini vans if you buy one used.
I'm ok with it for now...but I sure would like to have a regular vehicle to drive again.
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Keep the car!!! Keep the car if you can. I find that I have to do things for myself to keep my spirits up. I do a lot for others-husband, house, cats, mom, etc.. My husband is always encouraging me to get manicures because he knows I love it and because I don't because I hate to spend the money on something frivolous. I say keep the cute car!!!
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The other night I was tucked up in bed, exhausted after two long bouts of babysitting---12 hours in total. Finally fell asleep about midnight. (I live alone most of the time as my hubby travels about 25 days a month). I lock the house up tight!! @1 am I awakened by someone banging on the doors--first the front, the back, ringing the doorbells and shouting. My heart is jumping out of my chest, I can't load the stupid gun as my hubby won't tell me where the ammo is--I look outside and see a strange car and the door pounding continues....then I see the outline of my hubby in the backdoor light. I go to the door and open the blinds and he is yelling "Love of Heaven!! I have been calling you for a half hour and banging on the windows and doors!!!" I let him in and went back to bed. I was so upset I never went back to sleep.
He had been on a trip, caught and early flight, DIDN'T tell me, even though I had texted him early that day and ASKED HIM if he was possibly coming home or did I needs to cancel his drs appt. He never said. (I must state here that he spent 6 hours on FB while in the various airports, so he certainly COULD have called.) The car was a rental, I had dropped HIS car off to get some bodywork done.
He actually yelled at me for "not hearing him" and "locking myself in the house".
MUCH later, he sort of apologized but now has "forbidden me" from locking the outside glass door. Seriously?? I am alone 90% of the time and this is common sense. I told him he couldn't boss me and went about my business.
Wow. Is he going to be a pain in the rear when he retires next year.
BTW, I sleep with earplugs because he is nearly deaf and the TV has to be on FULL volume and even downstairs in my room I can hear it. Also, he called ONCE on the landline and ONCE on my cell phone. At 12:52.
Oh, joy. A deaf, angry husband. My kids think he is showing signs of dementia...I don't even want to go there.
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Midkid, I won't comment on your husband (you can lose friends doing that, I find) - just confirm that it's not *your* fault he didn't think to mention *when asked* that he might get the earlier flight option. I'm not saying a word about his communication skills, thinking ahead, problem-solving abilities or anything like that.
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I'm just glad you couldn't find the ammo...you Americans and your gun culture (shaking my head)!
Uhm, I get why you wear the earplugs when he is at home, but why are you wearing them when he is away?
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cwillie ,
in the usa we use gunfire to stir our drinks , clean plaque off our teeth , summon a waiter , etc . we cant imagine life without guns ..
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Captain I remember that poor man who used his revolver to make a hole in his bedroom wall to hang a picture and didn't realise his wife was standing the other side of it. The jury took a charitable view, as I recall.
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Thanks all---
Didn't mean to stir any pots, I was just so mad. No place else to B$#C*!

I sleep with earplugs and have for years. Just habit. If I had suspected he was coming home, I wouldn't have locked the glass privacy door.

It's just telling about the lack of communication we are experiencing and the monster I have coddled and created in this man.

It wasn't my fault. If it were, I would have said so if it was. He just thinks I can read his mind.

And we own a SHOTGUN, which I cannot load, hold, aim nor shoot. I hate guns. When Obama was re-elected my hubby bought this stupid thing. Just because he could. I did tell him "If you'd have bought me the handgun you want me to own I am pretty sure I would have shot through the door at you".

BTW--my backyard neighbor (ex-cop) heard all the ruckus and was standing on his back deck, gun raised and aimed to shoot. He literally has my back. (Hubby is 6'5" tall and weighs 300 lbs. He looks quite scary in the moonlight.
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he he ,
ive an uncle in texas . hes a renowned maniac but one time he was visiting indiana and him and i drank beer while i built a barrel stove with a . 22 rifle . watch and learn old man . i probably punched 30 ea 1/4 inch holes . if you dont want the bullet to exit the other side you just lay a couple hunks of firewood inside the 55 gallon barrel .
so , he went back to texas with some " hoosier " stories ..
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Hey, I'm pretty pro gun for a Canadian, growing up on the farm we always had a rifle and shotgun hanging over the back door. If you're gonna get serious about self defence a shotgun is a good choice, my brother used to say the chuck chink sound of ratcheting a round into the chamber would make any burglar c#&p their pants.
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i have a 5 yr old pill felony that i havent fixed yet so all i have right now is an air rifle . its . 22 cal and evidently a little slower than a rifle where feet per second is concerned .
since the squirrels want to compete with me for my house i just knock em all out of the sky . the slow . 22 pellet travels slow and " heavy " . it spins em like errant lawnmower blades out of the tree .
not a garage invader ? tell it to saint peter , personally i dont give a shat .
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I shouldn't say anything but I will. I live in Canada and am sooo glad we have the gun laws we do. Yes, I know that the criminals can always get a hold of guns. But I've heard and I'm sure you all have heard the stories. Here in Vancouver theres a big drug dealer war going on and the other day the stupid thugs shot up the wrong house. Not that any house would be the right one but in this case there was an innocent family in there innocently watching t.v.

Then of course we've all heard the stories about bullets getting caught in the chamber when Daddy thinks he has unloaded it properly and next thing he knows his son shot his brother accidentally cause of course he thought the gun was unloaded. I don't know...........:(
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im not a pro gun nut . ive seen mature people mishandle firearms . the problem with usa efforts right now is were taking weapons rights away from good people who only ran afoul of the law once or twice , but criminals and street thugs dont abide by laws so they are still armed .
senator tallion sent me an email yesterday . she wants citizen support for weed decriminalization . i wrote back and told her that shes a bit late in this effort . we need solutions for hard drug addiction , underemployment and poverty right now .
well we send clueless rich kids to DC to represent us . what do we expect ?
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whoa ,
just stepped out the backdoor to pee and had the opportunity to give a racoon a " lead " immunization .
these critters have done damage to my house .
it ON ..
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Gingerly stepping on thin ice to say, if there is someone breaking into my home and I can tell it is not anyone I wanted breaking in, I would be so scared, I would probably just run and hide. And that really bothers me that I feel so weak, that I would not be able to defend myself or confront the bad guy. And I also know trying to call 911 at such a time, we'll have to assume I have a phone within reach...but the police wouldn't arrive fast enough. So, perhaps I will take self-defence classes, but then again what good are karate chops against a bad guy with a gun? If the bad guys have guns, then maybe, so should the good people, if they want to defend themselves. Because the police can't get be everywhere all the time, and I value my life.
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Mallory, get a baseball bat!☺
I don't like racoons or possums either, but I don't think I'd shoot one, you can get traps for them I hear!
We don't own guns, but I'm all for the rights to bear arms, for protection!
We've been very lucky, we've never had a break in, or intrusion! Fingers crossed!
One time, while I was recovering from having just had a hysterectomy, our next door neighbor unknowingly let a friend come to stay with him. It seems that this FRIEND had had a domestic altercation with girlfriend the night before, where a gun was involved, though he did not shoot her, just threatened her. Well, the police were called, as this guys car was parked out front, and my entire neighborhood, as well as the nearby elementary school was on lockdown, and cordoned off. There were helicopters in the air, a full on man hunt! Swat teams with dogs, were all over my neighborhood, and it was all over the news, BREAKING NEWS STORY. From the helicopter news coverage, I could tell it was right next door. A SWAT police officer came to my door, saying to lock all doors and windows, close my drapes and stay away from the windows. My husband had gone to work, but I called him to come back, but the streets were closed off. A TV news reporter interviewed my husband at the corner, and he told the news guy "my wife is home recovering from a major surgery, she's scared to death, and she's all MESSED UP ON PAIN MEDS!" So then I see my husband on TV news, And What He Said about Me, I was so embarrassed, Mortified, and So Pissed Off at Him!!! The police received authorization from the home owner to search the house, as he was at work too, and they found out that the perpetrator guy was hiding in the attic, and then they dropped tear gas down into my neighbors roof vents. I'm watching all of this unfold on the news, via helicopter coverage. It was intense! The guy came out, coughing and barfing and tears running down his face, it was insane! Then the fire department had to come out with big bloweres to air out the neighbors house. So that's my Crazy, Scary Neighborhood story! Lol!!! We've never had another strange or scary incidence since though! I still haven't forgiven my husband for telling the News guy all of that though! Grr, what a DumbA**!!!

MIDKID, my husband does the same sort of thing, blames Me for things that are So Clearly His Fault! Husband's are from Mars! Grr!!!
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good gun control -
take aim ,
breathe in ,
SQUEEZE trigger .
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