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Hey all you caregivers out there. Take heart, be strong, let a smile be your umbrella, the glass is half full, there is no obstacle too big..........just let me know if you are starting to feel nauseated yet? But you have to admit......trite positive statements can really make you sick when you are having a bad day.

But I do wish you all well.
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But do you really wish us well? or are you just saying that? :-D
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All I know is that I wanna be one of the 5 to 15 guests that will come over for BBQ chicken and ribs............just tell me, do I need a car, a bus, a train, an airplane??? hehehe................Have you called in "CirqueDuSoleil" so that they can do a presentation, having in mind this is a BBQ? Whoah!, too much fun. Not a whine post, a fun post!.............back to reality... mom is calling... forgot how to turn on TV, and yesterday...........OH WOW............I need to type another thread, or another entry. Doctor´s office will be the title...............aaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyy!!!
M88
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I'm always positive. Even when I feel depressed or mad, I think that I'll feel better in a minute or the next day. All things pass. Unfortunately, the good things pass just as quickly as the bad.

I just thought of something. Old age is hard because there are so many more bad things. When you're young, life is full of good things. You get older and people start treating you different and everyone starts dying. Then you lose your senses and ability to walk. ACK! Maybe I better quit being so positive and learn how to gripe all the time and be nasty.

Just being silly. sorry.
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It's hard to keep positive...

You think you got it all under control and BAM!!!
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i turned and walked away from the past bout 2 years ago when windows 9 destroyed 20 yrs of product and personal pics for me .
then i look at the obits every night and see a lot of people slightly younger than myself getting their cards punched -- so thinking about the future seems greedy and pointless too .
then i go to youtube and listen to " its my life " by bon jov'e .
today . thats what its all about ...
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I have a sign on my bathroom mirror(because that's my hideout)that says
"IF it's going to be....
IT'S up to me."
I can't count the number of times just those few words helped me.My friend has a sign that says The Best Revenge Is Living Well...
Anyway,JessieBelle,I hope your "thing"went well.To all,take care
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lol , lu
years ago i was buying my house on contract and wanted a bank mortgage to rid myself of the sketchy landowner .
i had a bank appraisal scheduled and was sitting here " negging " out . the place was so unfinished that you could see daylight between the electrical service box and the block wall .
i got right in my own a** . i told myself that i could sit here flipping out OR i could get some aluminum flashing and fix the discrepancies . i chose the latter and the bank appraisal and loan went great ..
defeatism is screwed by its own poor design ..
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Only a half whine the other half is positive. hubby paced of 1/4 so i could walk that far before my pulmonologist next visit. He said it was too far but see how far i can manage. With a challenge like that I did the whole 1/4 mile.
After that I tried to drive my car for the first time in 8 months! I was closely supervised of course by my front seat passenger. He was afraid i would not have the strength to press down the brake pedal. No problem with that but I did find the stearing quite heavy. Could not remember where the parking brake was but apart from that I did fine. I will have to be careful planning my trips so I don't take on more than I can manage but it is really progress and very uplifting
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You go, V!
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Jessie of course I wish you all well. For sure I do. :)
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Gershun,, today I would like to take that umbrella and stick it up someones butt. And that is as far as my whine is going today!! I normally optimistic but today I am just angry...( not at my hubs or mom)
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LOL Pam. Sorry you are angry.
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You guy's are a Riot today! PAMZ, UMBRELLA, HAHAHAHA! I'm feeling pretty positive myself! Whoot Whoot!
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Have any of you gone to a doctor's appt. and been asked if it was okay if a medical student sat in on your examination and how did you feel about it? Did you say yes?
Reason I am asking was because this happened to me on Friday. I was only getting a skin tag removed so it was not a real personal thing but still..........I did say yes by the way. But I am just curious how others feel about this.
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It wouldn't bother me. It would be like having a nurse or assistant in the room. If they were watching a procedure, I would be glad to be providing a little education. Hmm... maybe we should get someone to pay us for being a demo. (Just kidding.)
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In my case it was two male students in their early thirties I am guessing. I would not of said yes if I had been getting a pap smear or some such thing.:p
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I hate the "Doogie Howser surprise." When I make an appointment with my doctor of 15+ years, that's who I want to see. Not the summer intern. For every GP visit, I miss a couple of hours of work. I pay to park. And I pay $93 (if my yearly deductible has not yet been met). I wish they would explain the situation when I schedule my appointment -- and give me the option to not participate or re-schedule.
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Yes, this has happened many times, mostly at my dermatologist appointments but I have had it happen at the regular GP and also eye surgeon appointments. I let them stay but would feel strange if it happened at the gyno or mammogram.

I was thinking about this before I got out of bed this morning....people see us in nothing but a little paper gown, they know our names, but we don't know their's. Same goes for our loved ones in nursing homes. People wipe our loved one's behinds, know all kinds of things about them, yet we don't know their names or only a first name. They know ours and often where we live, etc. Yesterday an incident happened at my home where a cable TV guy came up to the house with a loud device that sounded like a spaceship landing....he began messing around with the cable connector. I went out and asked what the heck is going on....I had not called them and was not having trouble with my TVs....was not even watching TV! He claimed it was a leak somewhere and against FCC regulations. He could not find the source of this leak and said he had to get in my house! Luckily 2 neighbors came over when they heard the loud device and stayed and verified he was legit. I allowed him to come as far as my kitchen while I tested the TVs. All ok. He then said the problem was in the garage. He finally supposedly fixed it. So I am at a disadvantage...what was this person's name that came into my house? All I know is that he was from the cable company. I have encountered this so many times where they know our names or our loved one's names, etc....but we only know the company they work for. And now the cable company can just appear out of nowhere and say they MUST get into your house because of a supposed leak and FCC regulations??? What if we have a loved one in a hospital bed by the TV that is "leaking"? Put him to work changing briefs? That might get rid of him fast!
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Had "student day" foisted upon me 2x at the gyno, too. (Over the past several years.) Honestly, I'm not as cranky as I sound. I know that student rotation is a necessary part of medical education. My doctors did it back in the day, no doubt. But aye yi yi. The switcheroo makes me feel ripped off. We only get 5-10 minutes of a doctor's attention on a good day. I'm not comfortable with 3-8 minutes of a rank amateur, then 1-2 minutes with the pro. And for God's sake, don't make me state the reason for my visit twice and answer the laundry list of questions twice! Going forward, I'm going to ask about this when I make my appt. And call again the week or day of my appointment, to explain that I'm not willing to donate my appt to my doctor's latest understudy.
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I agreed to a student during a gyno procedure in the mistaken belief that I might get a more thorough exam and explanation. HAHA. Doc and intern breezed in, did the procedure and doc breezed out leaving student to finish up, so I got no talk from either of them. The poor student just shot me a guilty look on her way out the door.
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I guess thats how they learn but yeah.........when they were excising my skin tag I said "I guess doing stitches is one of the first things they teach you in medical school right? Ah........no actually, we practice on bananas. So.......should I change my name to banana now?
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When someone comes to the house claiming to be from a certain company demand to see a photo ID and call the company they are from to verify before you let them touch anything on your property and more so allow them into your house without prior warning.

As far as the medical students are concerned, I really don't care. They are usually in their third year so hopefully will be pretty competent. Any modesty I had has now fled so that is not a concern. My most hair raising experience was in the hospital I fondly refer to as the "death camp" A male Aide in his thirties covered in tatoos -a refugee from Eastern Europe who was probably highly educated and may even have been a Dr in his home country- asked the male RN who was supervising him cleaning up my sorry diarrhea covered body asked if it would be OK to ask me if it was alright for him to trim off the dried poop from my short and curlys. The RN replied "She's right there ask her" I was too ill to care while they completed this personal cosmetic treatment.
Later other nurses told me that many of the aides and housekeeping staff were in fact qualified medically in their home county but could not get a US license so took any job they could find in a hospital.
This was a University teaching Hospital and nearly discharged me feet first several time and would have succeeded had it not been for my ever vigilant husband who constantly questioned everything which caused a lot of problems. But I am still alive.
Advocate for your loved ones.
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I'm a prisoner in the house this week. My brother is visiting. He has been here three days, but has only been over here about 5 hours of it. He's supposed to be here right now, but he hasn't shown up yet. He can't stand to stay here for long, so comes in the door leaving. Can we all say narcissistic together? I don't know why he even bothers.
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Hmmm, I remember my last experience with a medical student. This was a few months after my mother passed. I went to a Psychologist hoping to work out "stuff". So I get the whole speech of do you mind him sitting in blah blah blah... nah, I didn't care, I sure bet he wished he'd of opted out tho!!

Nothing like listening to a menopausal traumatized woman babbling and bawling, snot running down their nose, go on and on about disimpacting their beloved mother and all the other horrors that go with Alzheimer's Disease of a loved one... I'm pretty sure I saw him cringe a few times. Poor fellow :)

Jesse, it's not so much as why certain people even bother, it's more like, why do WE even bother with people like them. Meh!
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Still waiting for brother to show up. I could call him, but don't want to. So I put on a plumber's hat and fixed a sink. Mom's in the front yard. She asked me to make a phone call for her. I told her she could do it and she got mad. I came back in and saw she had turned off the air conditioning before she went out. My room had gotten warm. SMH. I'm starting to think I'm the only one in the family that is worth the bullet to shoot.
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Oh Jessie, I'm sorry for you that you have to endure this. I know how you feel cause I lived through the same disregard my siblings had for the situation. Even now when its coming up on a year since my dear Mom passed and I still can't get my head around that. I could maybe understand it if my Mom had been demanding and a pain in the butt. She was anything but that.

Just try to go to your happy place in your head. :)
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To make it all worse, Mom got in my flower bed today and started digging the mulch out. She doesn't want it in there. I asked her to quit, but she said it was her yard and she didn't want it there. So flower bed destruction has begun.
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jb
i have an idea.........watch for your brother to come home. make a note. put on obvious place he can see it, not mom.
when he comes home, go hide. the note should/could say: hi, make yourself at home! i went out and not sure what time i will be back, there is _________ in the fridge. if mom gets hungry, you'll know what to do. you know what to do with her meds, so i'm not worried. went out with friends. be back before midnight, your sis, jessiebelle........... how's that!!!???!!!???!!!???
m88
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Whine here - my mother can't get into my car any more - it'd take a two person assist and prayers - but her wheelchair (it's a smaller transport type chair) fits. She can get into my husband's car....but her chair can't. Game changer for events and any outings....sigh.
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