I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
But I do wish you all well.
M88
I just thought of something. Old age is hard because there are so many more bad things. When you're young, life is full of good things. You get older and people start treating you different and everyone starts dying. Then you lose your senses and ability to walk. ACK! Maybe I better quit being so positive and learn how to gripe all the time and be nasty.
Just being silly. sorry.
You think you got it all under control and BAM!!!
then i look at the obits every night and see a lot of people slightly younger than myself getting their cards punched -- so thinking about the future seems greedy and pointless too .
then i go to youtube and listen to " its my life " by bon jov'e .
today . thats what its all about ...
"IF it's going to be....
IT'S up to me."
I can't count the number of times just those few words helped me.My friend has a sign that says The Best Revenge Is Living Well...
Anyway,JessieBelle,I hope your "thing"went well.To all,take care
years ago i was buying my house on contract and wanted a bank mortgage to rid myself of the sketchy landowner .
i had a bank appraisal scheduled and was sitting here " negging " out . the place was so unfinished that you could see daylight between the electrical service box and the block wall .
i got right in my own a** . i told myself that i could sit here flipping out OR i could get some aluminum flashing and fix the discrepancies . i chose the latter and the bank appraisal and loan went great ..
defeatism is screwed by its own poor design ..
After that I tried to drive my car for the first time in 8 months! I was closely supervised of course by my front seat passenger. He was afraid i would not have the strength to press down the brake pedal. No problem with that but I did find the stearing quite heavy. Could not remember where the parking brake was but apart from that I did fine. I will have to be careful planning my trips so I don't take on more than I can manage but it is really progress and very uplifting
Reason I am asking was because this happened to me on Friday. I was only getting a skin tag removed so it was not a real personal thing but still..........I did say yes by the way. But I am just curious how others feel about this.
I was thinking about this before I got out of bed this morning....people see us in nothing but a little paper gown, they know our names, but we don't know their's. Same goes for our loved ones in nursing homes. People wipe our loved one's behinds, know all kinds of things about them, yet we don't know their names or only a first name. They know ours and often where we live, etc. Yesterday an incident happened at my home where a cable TV guy came up to the house with a loud device that sounded like a spaceship landing....he began messing around with the cable connector. I went out and asked what the heck is going on....I had not called them and was not having trouble with my TVs....was not even watching TV! He claimed it was a leak somewhere and against FCC regulations. He could not find the source of this leak and said he had to get in my house! Luckily 2 neighbors came over when they heard the loud device and stayed and verified he was legit. I allowed him to come as far as my kitchen while I tested the TVs. All ok. He then said the problem was in the garage. He finally supposedly fixed it. So I am at a disadvantage...what was this person's name that came into my house? All I know is that he was from the cable company. I have encountered this so many times where they know our names or our loved one's names, etc....but we only know the company they work for. And now the cable company can just appear out of nowhere and say they MUST get into your house because of a supposed leak and FCC regulations??? What if we have a loved one in a hospital bed by the TV that is "leaking"? Put him to work changing briefs? That might get rid of him fast!
As far as the medical students are concerned, I really don't care. They are usually in their third year so hopefully will be pretty competent. Any modesty I had has now fled so that is not a concern. My most hair raising experience was in the hospital I fondly refer to as the "death camp" A male Aide in his thirties covered in tatoos -a refugee from Eastern Europe who was probably highly educated and may even have been a Dr in his home country- asked the male RN who was supervising him cleaning up my sorry diarrhea covered body asked if it would be OK to ask me if it was alright for him to trim off the dried poop from my short and curlys. The RN replied "She's right there ask her" I was too ill to care while they completed this personal cosmetic treatment.
Later other nurses told me that many of the aides and housekeeping staff were in fact qualified medically in their home county but could not get a US license so took any job they could find in a hospital.
This was a University teaching Hospital and nearly discharged me feet first several time and would have succeeded had it not been for my ever vigilant husband who constantly questioned everything which caused a lot of problems. But I am still alive.
Advocate for your loved ones.
Nothing like listening to a menopausal traumatized woman babbling and bawling, snot running down their nose, go on and on about disimpacting their beloved mother and all the other horrors that go with Alzheimer's Disease of a loved one... I'm pretty sure I saw him cringe a few times. Poor fellow :)
Jesse, it's not so much as why certain people even bother, it's more like, why do WE even bother with people like them. Meh!
Just try to go to your happy place in your head. :)
i have an idea.........watch for your brother to come home. make a note. put on obvious place he can see it, not mom.
when he comes home, go hide. the note should/could say: hi, make yourself at home! i went out and not sure what time i will be back, there is _________ in the fridge. if mom gets hungry, you'll know what to do. you know what to do with her meds, so i'm not worried. went out with friends. be back before midnight, your sis, jessiebelle........... how's that!!!???!!!???!!!???
m88