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luckylu, the thing that crossed my mind as a good thing to do is to make a gift to your mother's favorite cause. If she likes dogs, donate some dog food in the pet store bin. If she liked horses, write a check to a horse rescue service. If she liked kids, donate money or clothes to the battered women's shelter. We all know what my mothers would have liked.
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Luckylu, A really nice idea, I thought, was to add a plaque to a special bench-maybe in a park or natural setting-you could visit the memorial bench and her grave separately. I love the idea that the bench provides a place to sit and reflect, for anyone who comes by. Reading your Mom's name, others will know she was loved!
Someone did this (who posts here), and she really loved her Mom, still loves her now that she is passed.
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Sendme that would be me and I was going to suggest that to you Lucky. My Mom's favorite park with a pond and ducks. We have her bench sitting right across from the pond. Its a beautiful place to sit and reflect on Mom and her life. We had her service there and the pastor said everytime you come and sit here your Mom will be with you and I do feel that when i am there. The anniversary of Mom's death is day after Mother's Day for me. I cannot believe its already been so long.
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Shiloh8, oh Gosh, that is just so Sad! I'm so sorry your siblings are suc A**wipes! I cannot understand how a kid can treat their Mom like that! But to blame you is so wrong! Life really sucks sometimes, especially when you are doing all of the work!
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Oh Gershun, I Love that! I know that when I pass a bench with a placard, I always think, hmm, what a great idea, or when I read it, I think about that persons life! Great idea!
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I put up a bench and plaque across the street from the house on the trail beside the woods where my son used to run. We planted some lilac shoots, (always had lilacs for my father's birthday in May) and an elderberry from the woods which has lovely red leaves in the fall. The next project is to encourage some wild roses to spread there. I see people reading the plaque, stopping and resting on the bench, and a few people have left a card or some flowers. It has been a great blessing to me.
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My mother's grave site is about 700 miles away so I will be unable to stop by and take her flowers. She enjoyed riding around looking at the countryside listening to her music. She found that calming. I may take a ride and listen to some of her music on mother's day. Maybe watch one of her favorite shows too. Spend the day doing things she would have enjoyed.
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Mom had a problem today. We went out to get her hearing aids changed and then went to the eye doctor. When at eye doctor, she said she was tired and when she got up to go back, but she started to feel like she was going to pass out and had to sit. Then she began feeling sick to her stomach. After she didn't feel better after sitting, we called ambulance. The ER was a zoo. It was so packed they were treating some people in the waiting room.she was put in a bed in the hall. Her np and temp was normal but they were checking her blood work, CT scan, EKG, and an X-ray. They decided to keep overnight. So we shall see if they can see what is going on with her.
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Shar your dear Mom is in my thoughts and prayers.
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Sharadale, I hope your Mom is feeling better.

I took my aunt to the ER less then three weeks ago when she blacked out and fell down a few stairs. The male nurse told me they have been busy lately with over 50 new cases of suspected flu everyday. It makes it difficult for staff and other patients with more serious life threatening illnesses to be taken care of when time is spent on taking care of all those flu cases.
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I took my mother to the eye doctor today and couldn't find a parking place anywhere. I went into the hospital parking lot that was two blocks away and there was not a single space. All of the parallel places on the roads themselves were filled. What is going on? Is there an epidemic? or is Wednesday morning when all the doctors tell patients to come in? I couldn't believe how packed it was. I finally got permission to park on a yellow curb, it was so bad. I thought about how nice it would be if employees started car-pooling and leaving some space for patients, but I know that won't happen in this area. People here commute several miles to work with one person in a vehicle -- often an SUV. What a waste.
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Ugh.. Now we have old poop questions coming up from a new AC member with no info!!!

Does AC think we need new/old topics to keep us here?
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Oh be fair assandache, poop has always been a popular topic here on AC! lol.
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I know poop is popular with the elderly? Lol

But the old questions popping up with no member info just erks me...

There are too many questions with no info..
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Just don't answer anything till the OP provides a background.
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Tacy, I'm probably the same age/generation of your mom. I endorse the idea of a therapist. You are trying to fix too much. It's not a good thing.
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Tacy, it has been one of those days. I am with you. My mother has been at her worst and the new $2500 waterproofing system didn't work at all. We had rain and the back porch still flooded like nothing had been done. Drat. I just want to take a bulldozer -- a big one -- and flatten this house. So sick of trying to fix things. The waterproofing company is coming again to figure out why it's not working.

Whatever happened to life? No one ever warns us of how bad it gets.
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Anyway, tacy, sometimes I think we just have to let other people do things. If we try to do everything, we just go crazy. And if we let people pressure us into doing more than we should, we just go crazy. There is more than one person on earth, so plenty of hands to pitch in.
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Ok I am exhausted! Mom called this am and told me not to come to the hospital because she was in a holding area still waiting on a room and there was no where for me to sit. She had already seen the doctor and had her Jed's and breakfast, so I decided to sleep some because as usual I didn't get much last night. I went back to bed after doing a few chores and slept for 3hours. When I woke up I called and found out 24 hours and no bed, no room! She was still in a holding area on a gurney bed!
So I went to the hospital loaded for bear and ran into the director of the ER and the director of nursing! They were told of the situation and she was immediately given a real bed and the director of nursing told everyone that Mom would got to the next available room. I took a few hours but I was able to leave her tonight with her in arm 347A.
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I bet if you hadn't gone down, she would still be on that gurney. Good job, Sharadale.
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Sharadale, that was VIP treatment!
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Boy, I thought that only happened in Canadian hospitals. I'm amazed you were able to sort it out, way to go!
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happens a lot in the UK too
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Sharadale, sometimes we really have to make some noise to wake others up. I am glad you got your Mom a room. I hope she is doing better now.

Light bulb over my head the last days. I am going to stop other people's dumb comments and behavior getting to me. No one got away with anything except showing their bad manners, greed etc. so I am moving on. Their problem, not mine. People like this who make other's heads shake have to live with themselves, I don't. From now on people like this get dismissed into my "Fool category" and shelved and forgotten. There is way too much to do and experience in life to dwell on people who say and do dumb things!
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Katie, AMEN!
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I just wanted to thank you all for your great ideas for Mother's Day.I love the bench idea and I would love to do that in her honor.In our local newspaper,there is a "Tribute" thing they run.I am planning on writing a tribute to my Mother but I'll have to get it down to 400 words or less which may be tricky.And I found some poems and articles.etc. Mother must've loved in her drawer I think I will sit by her grave and read with her on Mother's Day.Anyway,I just wanted to say thanks to you all.
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THIS BLOWS ,
ive been tracking in # 11 chip stone all winter and ive finally gotten sick enough of stepping on the stuff barefoot to do something about . got the old shop vacc out and im about half done but admittedly lost interest 35 sq ft of carpet -- ago .
i oughtta just gravel the whole dam floor .
theres a slim chance ill finish it today . its that monotonous !!
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LOL Cap, that's why you do a little bit of cleaning every week. Oh, and that's why women are always nagging you to scrape and kick your boots off at the door, so you aren't dragging that ish all over the house!
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Guess I won't complain about the straw I have been bringing in the house the last two days since the landscapers put it down Tuesday. It rained last night which helped settle it. That was short lived because now the wind is gusting and blowing it around. Picking up straw here and there is nothing compared to cleaning up or stepping on chip stone. Still ended up complaining about it though, I did!
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Well, at least you aren't stepping on Legos lol
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