I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I have since discovered that Parkinson's can cause this. I'm not sure if my aunt ever got that diagnosis, but I do remember her mentioning tests years before.
kwyattearp - your Mom reminds my of my MIL, who lived with us for several years. She was a very old school Southern woman, born and raised in the hills and had very distinctive ways about her, and her pronounciation of certain words could lead to some interesting situations. Like the time she had phlebitis in her leg and the doctor told her to rest and elevate it. So she perched herself in a rocker with a footstool all night - which was fine, until my daughter's slumber party guests started arriving, and she announced - loudly - to every parent that walked in the door, "Sorry I can't get up, I got the flee-bitis on my leg!"
I told my then-husband, "She's GOT to stop that....people are going to think we have fleas!" (Flee-bitis, as in "fleas are bitin' my leg!")
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2 different HHA from same agency 1 comes 2 times a wk other 1 time.?
Well the 1 timer was constantly late, on average 20 to 30 minutes. This went on for well ver a year. Mind you my Mom is her first client of the day.. So I ratted her out!
So now she tells agency that my Mom has become weaker and she is having trouble lifting her legs in tub from shower chair.. No *hit Einstein she's 94 with dementia... Do you think she'll get better?
I explained she just had increase of anxiety med and it kicks in around shower time..
*itch is just trying to get out of coming here at 8am..
Our psw is a sweet little old lady, literally. I know for a fact she is over 70 and she is petite. My mom's care is becoming more physical as she won't really help herself during transfers any more, so I am thinking we will soon need someone more physically capable. I hate to change as our last aide had mom on the floor more than once even though she was younger, sometimes common sense counts for more than strength.
As like any business they are going through changes and employees are jumping ship... They want them to work every other weekend instead of 1 every 6 wks..
It's affiliated with a hospital and you know how it is, got to keep ceo's happy with their FAT paychecks..
If a patient is going to fall, it can be more dangerous for the both of you to try and stop the fall. If they are going down, they should be carefully helped to the floor without grabbing their arms or using your own strength to prevent the fall. Slowly ease them to the floor as they fall into you. Even though you both may end up on the floor, no one is hurt. Then you can start from there.
It would be nice to have a big strong, strapping caregiver sweep up the elderly before the fall, but that would be rare, and may cost extra.
Yes, put sighed instead of signed!
This is ucr practice to write off these small balances.
UCR is usual, customary, and reasonable in the medical field.
My hubby just got out of the doghouse when he finally repaired the bathroom sink, after about 10 months, or last summer it was I had no sink since way back then.
But I understand, I live in that sort-of, kind-of fear mine will be doing something with the electrical if I don't watch him carefully.
Hope you are okay, and he still has all his parts, right?
Golly, it took me a year to grieve for my dog!
Then on top of that, my hubby broke a big toe or the top of his foot when his motorcycle dropped on his foot when he took a turn to fast to avoid a palm tree out here. And we all know how poorly men react to injury or illness. I want to run away.
Ahem... mom was on the oxygen machine for years. The first 2 years, not once, did Dad and I understand what that "No Smoking/Flames" icon was for. I just assumed it meant "No Smoking" in the vicinity. So, every time we had a power outage, we would only hook up the oxygen machine and the suction machine with the lampstand on the extension cord hooked up from the generator. Dad and I would light matches in the livingroom with mom there, and light up all these candles all over the livingroom. One day, as I was staring at the oxygen machine and the No Flames sign, I had a lightbulb moment! OMGoodness! We could have blown up with all that lighting of the candles with matches and then keeping the candles around dad, mom, TV, drawers, etc... It seems, Dad and I are like your hubby in not understanding about the oxygen.
I have been feeling out of sorts and the grief section on AC seems to deal more with hospice issues than grief issues. I was on the dysfunction thread,(the dysfunction in my life is in laws), but seem to have been obviously frozen out by the few people that dominate that thread. Maybe since the dysfunction is in-laws I shouldn't even be on there. Oh well. It brings back that old feeling of feeling unwanted at times. Maybe I am just overly sensitive with everything that has happened these last 2 years and Mom passing away. I am also dealing with so much stuff alone. I don't want to make my husband do too much with cleaning out Mom's home because of his heart condition so I do it alone most of the time with blurred vision. I worry about my husband's health. Sometimes I wonder if things will ever get better. Wonder if the weather will ever get nicer too. Thanks for letting me vent....now I will try to get on with things. I hope everyone has a better day. Sometimes it seems like every day is "April Fools".
Katie, sorry you are feeling frozen out on the dysfunction thread. I think that a lot of us read and sympathize with what others write there but don't feel as though we qualify enough to jump in. Most of the posters there share a long history and know each other's back stories so it sometimes seems like reading someone's private mail, I'm sure that you aren't being shunned deliberately!
Tacy, predictions for squalls and possibly heavy snow this weekend here too, ugh!
Shara, I wish I had known enough to push harder for a reason behind my mom's sudden decline 5 years ago. I just accepted that her body had grown tired and we were approaching the end and today we still seem to be in limbo. 5 years is a long time to be dying, I wonder how different things would be today if we had gotten treatment for the underlying cause then.
Actually the oxygen from the concentrator is not as dangerous as the liquid stuff in the tanks but still hazardous. I do take mine off before I put more wood on the fire!!!!
End of life is a hard world to be in and each one thinks that their problem is unique and should be at the top of everyones list but of course your own pain comes first.
There is a lot of love, hope and prayer as I found out when I was ill in the Fall, and people really do care.
I never know what to do when my mother goes through spells of being worse. I wonder if she is reaching the end or if I should try harder. The thing is that we don't know. We don't have a lab or test equipment around us, so we have to depend on others to let us know something. I hope your mother is feeling better soon.