I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Oh, that chicken was very tender indeed. There was a little anger in that chicken parm last night. That's what made it just a bit spicy too.
The whine is that I'm so scared for my mom. She had a fall this weekend, her first one, and she's been so careful about using her walker. However she stepped on a scale and it tipped and so did she... She's bruised and has an L2 fracture in her back. She is in pain and managing with meds. Thank God they didn't admit her at the ER.
But they suggested motrin plus Tylenol and her platelets have been bouncing around (at 101 today, not too bad considering they skipped her nplate shot last week bc she shot up to 414!). Her sodium has also dipped again to 127, but her BUN level is now normal. It's like freaking whac a mole. Dehydration or normal sodium? They saw a 5.5 cm mass on her ovary during CT scan and nodule on thyroid (love those incidental findings) that they said she should follow up on and also reduced from her last bout with pneumonia but "persistent" spots suspicious for aspiration, so I feel like she should have another swallow study. They didn't give her antibiotics (which also caused her initial issue with platelets ) bc she didn't have a fever.
All this and all she wanted was some relief from the pain in her back and to make sure nothing was going to need surgery and no head injury!
It was a miracle that she went to the ER today to get the scans. She sees her hemotologist Wednesday to review her labs, I'll be away, and I'm worried about dad and managing with her. My brothers can be there if emergency.
It just sucks. I will enjoy myself hopefully these next couple of days but always in the back of my mind is the never ending worry and just feeling so bad for her she's trying so hard doing her pt visits and she's supposed to start pulmonary rehab next week (oh she uses supplemental oxygen too). The never ending parade of appointments it takes hours of preparation, the night before getting in the mindset, (you can't spring a same day appointment on her), getting up and ready (no mornings, she and my dad always worked nights and still on that schedule), and out the door to the car etc etc you all know. I'm very lucky she's still ok cognitively despite some heavy anxiety and we have a close relationship. It just pains me so to see her have so many issues and trying to manage it all. And fearing the future.
No responses needed it's just my whine and prayer that she could have just a couple of weeks where she could have other things to do. There's a lecture she wants to go to at the Council on Aging in a few weeks, that will be so good for her and I hope it's on a day she's feeling OK.
We are in the 90s and set to have the earliest 100° day, measured far from my home that has already broke 100°, in recorded history. UGH!
Last night was the last night we will cool off into the 50s, meaning time for the AC.
Stay warm and safe.
Here the field is drying out and green is showing. Love leaving the balcony door open and hearing the birds. Here is it around 12 C (54 F) and clear blue skies - an awesome spring day.
High of 44 today, Golden, we are colder than you, send down the warmth. 😆
Update on the appliance fiasco. I am still without a functioning dishwasher. I contacted CAS (who I bought it from) After Sales and they are not helpful. I have started a claim through Visa at my bank, but they, of course, cannot guarantee success. I have decided to purchase another dishwasher and, if I don't get a refund on the Bosch I'll sell it or give it away, They sent the part to me, which is weird as I didn't order it. Seems like some sort of sick game. What happens if something else goes wrong? I wait another 6+weeks and have to write emails etc. No thank you. Never buying from either company again.
DH sets it up . Lawyer and notary were coming to rehab this morning to have MIL and DH sign . DH drove the 200 miles last night after work , so he didn’t have to worry about traffic this morning .
Well MIL , starts having issues yesterday . This morning becomes nearly unresponsive AN HOUR before lawyer coming . So that was a no go .
DH ended up doing a MOLST form with the rehab doctor as next of kin . MIL with stage 4 CLL , DM type 2 , CKD , pelvic fractures , is now septic . She has a decub on her sacrum that started at home , that is infected . She should have gone to AL at least 6 months ago . Anyway she can’t fight this infection , organs shutting down too . I saw it coming , she’s been having increasing edema pretty much all over the last couple of weeks .
I feel sorry for DH , the relatives want to know why more isn’t being done . 🙄🙄🙄 She was in pain , moaning , she’s on morphine and we are just waiting …..
Hugs to you.
(((Way))) - let us know how you and DH are and who things are going. Such a stressful time!!!
You knew this time would come.
It is hard, will be hard.
My thoughts to you.
Even those with the most fighting of spirits & the firmest grasp on control can arrive at such a time & place. The time when Mother Nature nods her wise head & takes over.
(I use Mother Nature, but please insert your own faith or belief, or medical diagnosis terms).
Over the last 3 days , DH’s phone has been blowing up because MIL’s partner with dementia ( who should not live alone , but does ) has been giving out DH’s phone number ( as well as my son’s number , apparently by mistake to one person as well ). They want to know what’s going on because partner told some people 3 days ago that MIL had already passed and then after that told others she was still alive .
The other part of this that can’t be made up is MIL’s sister is upset that MIL had prearranged to donate her body to the local medical school . She did not like that she won’t be cremated for at least a year , maybe longer. This btw was the only end of life paperwork MIL prepared, many years ago . 🙄
MIL’s brother said to buy an urn and not to tell his sister it’s empty . 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
I don’t even know what to say to that .
And one of MIL’s friends has already told DH where the “ big party” should be .
MIL told everyone for years that she wants a big party ( not a funeral ) after her death .
Apparently it’s expected, as others have called to invite themselves .
DH fell asleep alittle bit ago in our hotel room . I silenced his phone . He needs a break from this circus .
I’m going to have to wake DH up from his nap or he won’t sleep tonight . 🤔🤔
The "big party" Oh, goodness gracious. That's all he needs. Condolences for whatever loss you and DH are feeling. I imagine relief figures largely in this too.
Let him sleep. I am sure he needs it. I am glad for the both of you that the "parent care" phase of your lives is ending. I hope there will be nothing too complicated to take care of in the next few days/weeks/months.
As always - do something good for you. You deserve it. 💛
Just saw you have to wake DH up so he will sleep tonight. Makes sense!
May The Lord give you strength, wisdom and guidance for the final steps.
Wishing you and DH rest and peace and hopefully some happy memories in time. She seemed to have a joie de vivre that endeared her to many. Of course, they didn’t feel the weight of responsibility that others placed on DH. A bittersweet passing.