Have her checked for a Urinary Tract infection. This is the most likely reason for this behavior. My mother would go out of her mind when she would have a urinary tract infection. Also, if she retained too much fluid (with afib) whe would go nuts as well. They had to restrain her and put her on Adivan until the infection got under control. It may seem overly simple, but Mother was sane, even though she had lost some of her brain power due to stroke. She did not become violent unless she had a UTI. Please don't ignore this.
yes, easy for all those to say you should not restrain her...for her own good! maybe they should be dealing with loved ones like this! anyway...why not lower her bed!!! you could keep the mattress as low to the floor as possible...that way you don't have to restrain her...she mite roll over....but just have soft cushion pads around the bed. my mother use to walk around the house all night and check doors! omg...the torture of not being able to sleep. that was going on for about two years...finally she had some type of seizure and was never able to walk on her own again. get her on meds...until she hits the next stage. goooooood luck...
My dad is the same as rosebush parents. Dad can't hear and mom demethia we found out putting her on the same side of the bed that she has slept on all there married life worked she now stays in bed we want her close to the bathroom but she was getting up all the time and wondering around at night. Now she says in bed
After retreading my post i sounded judgmental and I sincerely apologize for that. Please get your mom the help she deserves that doesn't inclue restraints.
You must enter into your mom's world. She is in a crowd, knows no one know she should be going some place but doesn't know how to ask or talk & surroundings she doesn't know. It's like panic but restrained on top of it all. Security is needed at all times. They need to feel someone is with them to be their rescue. Keep this in your mind. They will never enter our world & can't but we must do our best to know their world so read, read & read. Go to support groups where they have been where you are. Try diff grps. Read Understanding the Dementia Experience. Online. Bk 36 hr Day. Call Alz Assoc for support grps & what Alz has to offer in ways to help you. God bless you.
There are options besides restraining. I am schooled that a doctor would recommend restraining. Have you tried any medications to calm her? I think johnnyj had some great advice for you. When my mom was first diagnosed we lightly tied an extra long shoe lace to her arm and my dads while they were sleeping. Dad was hard of hearing and without hearing aids in heard nothing. When he felt his arm being tugged, he knew mom was getting up to go to the bathroom and he could then get up and help her. A bed alarm was useless for us cause dad could not hear it. I felt terrible tying them together but that was our only option at the time. I can't even imagine how confused your mom must feel and think being restrained on top of that confusion would just make it worse. Please seek new medical advice, the doctor you presently have may not have enough experience treating dementia. Your mom needs to feel safe and lived, not tied to a bed.
We have to keep my mother out of the kitchen because a cup of acalding hot coffee exploded and missed her face by inches. She left something on the stove and smoked up the entire house. One of the nurses suggested it was abuse, but I disagree. She is restrained for her and our safety
When my friend became un-cooperative in her memory care apartment and she wouldn't let them clean her up when she soiled herself, I took her to a geriatric ward in a hospital so they could find a drug or drug combination that would calm her down but not dope her up. They were able to find a good combination, but it took 3 1/2 weeks. Insurance covered the full cost of that. After that, the AL facility had no further problems seeing to her care. It was the skilled geriatric care that provided the answers, but she was declining fast and when her brain would no longer allow her to swallow food, she died soon after. She was in the final stages of fronto-temporal dementia and there was no stopping or delaying the inevitable.
It is against the law to restrain. And certainly not both arms. Must have room to move her hand and arm some. Also why is she not having physical therapy to help her to get stronger from stroke. Also occupational & speech therapy. She could be in rehab and have therapy.
With hospital restraints, she sleeps in hospital bed. We have a monitor in her room. She is unable to walk on her own because of a stroke. So by doctors recommendation she is restrained by her arms. So that she will not get out of bed and fall
she should be in a cot bed if they afraid of her falling of the bed.
Any doctor who recommended physical restraints is probably not well trained enough to be giving you reliable advice about your mom.