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I have six siblings and they all agreed upon me being mom's caregiver. My eldest sister who is POA and I have never gotten along. Now she is bound and determined to get me out of the house. She says she will no longer pay me and that I will have to leave. I was receiving $100 a week to stay with her. Needless to say I have no resources to leave the home and no where to go. (I quit a full time job and moved to take of our mother). I am lost, could someone please give me some advice?

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I too stood up and won!! Feels good, but we are still in the process. Yes, sibling POA accused me of financial exploitation, what a joke, I was investigated by APS, case closed very quickly once they saw the excellent care my mom is receiving. Then sis also has responsibility for preparing twice yearly reports of assets, has never prepared one. Removed all moms financial information from the house, etc... I called APS on her, an investigation was done, and then all moms accounts frozen because something was not right. Like sis used undue influence to change ownerships on moms accounts by taking mom to institutions to sign them over. They are wicked, cruel, and just plain criminals. If only they would stop to think about what they are doing and the possible repercussions. I think sis did this as one more effort to get me to give up, leave and say to heLL with this. She failed miserably and now has herself in more trouble than even I could dream up. And we are not to the bottom of it yet. All because she was more concerned about inheritance left for her than providing for moms needs which is what the POA is to guarantee for my mom. UGLY, UGLY!

No, SA be grateful you do not have siblings!
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Tell sis to come over and that you want to discuss. Have your bags packed and a written list of your daily duties, moms meds, etc. Then when she gets there, tell her you are leaving and walk out, let her manage from there.

Hopefully you can stay with a friend or another sibling while you get on your feet.

Don't go back until all sibs agree and present you with a legal employment contract.
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All of the siblings did agree to my being the caregiver. I know for a fact that % money orders made out to my mother @ $1000 a piece she signed and put into her personal account. When we called her on it about a month later she put in moms account. I have a feeling if nothing was ever said she would still have it. I wonder if we could get her booted on that alone?
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Yes, you could. POA can NEVER use their POA for personal benefit.
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She has to give you a 30 day notice if she can, then you'll have a hearing and depending on the state it can take a while for her to evict you and she has to evict you. Look for resources for caregivers where you live and talk to someone re: the issue at hand they can lead you in the right direction. Look under Elder Care/caregivers rights. Good Luck
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If this woman is taking money for her own benefit out of mom's account with no authority to do so then she's crossed the line and should be called on it, imo.

I hate the fact that your own sister would threaten you with the street. That is crazy to me, especially for some stupid, petty gripe she's got against you. This isn't about HER, it's about your MOM. She should pull her head out of her ass sometime in the near future if she's doing this out of no other reason than out of spite or pure malice. I don't know your sister, but if that's the game she's playing, I don't like her kind at all. She wouldn't be my sister another day. Some things just aren't forgivable and threatening you with homelessness to satisfy some grudge is the lowest of the low in my opinion.
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I think Judge Judy would say "Get your scrubs on girl and get over there and change Mom's diapers yourself"
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Anyone else seeing this head down the money track rather than the care track? Take the money out of the equation ... how's your mom doing? and who's helping?
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O my goodness just saw what you wrote about the $, all you have to do is report that to elder services, elder abuse, she will be booted for sure and if they find anything else she can be prosecuted, the laws re: elder abuse are strict in every state.
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Do not leave your Mothers home speak to an attorney a POA will give your sister a certain amount of control but your leaving your Mother can also be misinterpreted as abandonment take this into court so a legal guardian can be appointed as POA or legal guardian No One can use anyone's money Without accounting for its use this is one of the reasons ppl with a POA also become a court appointed legal guardian (which is what I did with my Mom)and if your Mothers assets are valued (which they will be by the courts) the LG will have to post a bond to protect them and each year will have to present for review an account of the use of any of her funds Any good general law attorney can help you with this find one you are comfortable with and is sympathetic to the situation the court will appoint an attorney for your Mother as well as one to act as temporary guardian to review anyone/everyone involved and report back to the judge with their findings and their opinion concerning the person best suited to be legal guardian this is much easier and quicker then most ppl think . But understand this if your concern is more for where you go or how you'll make a living if you're no longer "caring" for your Mom you shouldn't be caring for her to begin with ! Ask yourself did your Mother put a price tag on you when she was raising you? I didn't think so ! I think it s--ks when ppl put a price tag on care giving ! Money and care shouldn't even be used in the same sentence ! But you should know that a person appointed a legal guardian in some cases are/can be compensated for this through the persons income/assets that they are caring for .
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