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My FIL, in his 60s, currently lives on his own in the basement of a home that my husband owns (long story). Apparently last night, he fell asleep at 6/7 pm, then woke up at 11 pm and thought that it was 11 am. He texted his sister to tell her he missed his haircut appointment (which was early this morning). She was asleep at this point and didn't answer. He called her a few hours later at 2 am, then at 4 am, thinking it was the middle of the day. His sister picked up at 4 to let him know it was actually 4 AM and not PM...and he kept thinking it was 4 PM "because it's winter and it gets dark early now." When he's convinced that it's actually the morning, he goes to his hair appointment and then is supposed to come over to my husband's and my house for lunch later. When he gets here he gets lost close to the house and keeps passing it, even though he's been here before, although only like 3 times because we just moved a couple months ago. He passes the house even as my husband is outside signaling to him (he doesn't see him)...My husband finally gets him in the house. At this point my husband and I have decided it would be a good idea for him to be taken to the hospital. He starts telling us what happened and how he got confused and I'm having trouble telling what is normal and what isn't, since my FIL is not totally with it as it is. My husband thinks it isn't normal though. My FIL then says that he thinks it's because he's living in the basement and this threw off his circadian rhythm because he can't see the sun come up or go down (?)...that he needs to be more active and have a schedule (meanwhile we are pretty sure he spends all of his time sitting on the couch watching TV, and probably drinking more often as well as of late, and he's clearly barely even looking outside).


My FIL has a history of at least 1 stroke and brain surgery in the past because of a tumor. Ever since then his family says he hasn't been quite the same (I wasn't around at this point). Recently he spent two weeks around Thanksgiving quarantining because of COVID. We saw him after Thanksgiving, on Tuesday, and my husband thinks he seemed like he was wasted and maybe slurring his words.


My husband has been in the hospital with him all day. Blood work all looks good. I think they have ruled out a stroke at this point but I'm not sure. They are waiting for results of a CAT scan but I am curious of people's experiences here with situations like these. I just think he is relatively young to be experiencing something like dementia...although with his brain health history I am not sure how it affects things. And if he is with it enough to recognize he thinks he needs more exercise, sunshine etc then why isn't he doing something as simple as going for a walk around the block? Maybe depression? I know he's not really concerned with COVID so I don't think that's a factor for him at least with not going outside. I guess I'm just thinking out loud here and seeing what other people have experienced.

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This is sudden? I don't think this sounds like dementia. This sounds as though there could be a UTI, a stroke, or something pretty dramatic is happening in the brain. Will await your update to us after his workup. He is in the right place, the hospital for a full neuro-psyc-physical workup. Sorry you are going through this.
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The line that caught my eye was where you said he was relatively young to be experiencing dementia. Although dementia usually starts at about 65 (according to what I read), it can start as early as in one's 30s.

I hope they figure out what is wrong with your father-in-law. There are meds that are supposed to be able to slow the progress of dementia, but if it's Alzheimer's or vascular, it will not reverse it.

I'm glad you found this forum because they are very supportive and it's a great place to think out loud!

Best of luck to you and your family.
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I agree with Alva that you should help him discount a UTI. Recently my female cousin, age 66, descended into a state of confusion and losing all sorts of weight. It turned out her thyroid meds where out of proportion to her body weight and was causing overdosing, which was causing the confusion, which was causing her to not be able to problem solve, and stay in this loop. Make sure any meds he is on he is taking correct dosages (don't assume -- you must see him take it and do not take his word for it due to confusion). I do tend to agree that no daylight would be confusing to the human body but you're correct that a normal person should be able to problem solve this. Between his history of brain issues and his drinking there are plenty of possible culprits.
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Oh mar1993, I am so sorry that your family is facing this.

May God be with all of you, especially your FIL and his medical team.

God bless and keep you, may HE give you all strength, wisdom and courage for this difficult journey.

Great big warm hug!🤗
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I'm sorry mar1993, I lost my brother to glioblastoma 20 years ago. I didn't reply to your original post because my first instinct was some kind of brain tumour and I didn't want to be alarmist😔 🤗
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Well that's some pretty awful news for you all to absorb, and I'm sorry for the pain this is causing your entire family. Mostly your FIL. My father was 91 when he died from a brain tumor himself, which eventually paralyzed him on his left side. My 47 y/o cousin has stage 4 brain cancer with an inoperable brain tumor which was partially removed 7 years ago. He too is paralyzed on one side of his body right now. My cousin was diagnosed with the brain tumor after he had a seizure in the shower one day; was perfectly fine until that point in time. Then everything changed dramatically. He continues to have seizures to this day, and has chosen to have no more chemo; to let nature take its course.

This will be a lot for your family to handle, with his ongoing care, I know. Hospice can be considered when the time is right; they did a lot to help my father and to make him comfortable and anxiety free towards the end.

Sending you a hug and a prayer, my friend, for strength and endurance during this difficult time.
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We got the news today that he actually has glioblastoma in his right frontal lobe. From what we understand, they can be pretty aggressive with his treatment since he's relatively young (?) and has no other significant health issues. Not sure what his particular prognosis would be. Trying to be positive but it doesn't look great. His mother actually passed away from glioblastoma in her 80s a few years back, so the family went through a lot with her then and they're anticipating a similar process here. A lot of taking turns between family members to provide 24/7 care. They're thinking of getting a nurse as well to help out, and they're currently figuring out the financial/medical power of attorney things. Its almost like they're all thinking, they know the drill 😔

And i was wrong before- he has had no previous strokes. He had a seizure in the past and another tumor which was not cancerous.

He will have surgery later this week to remove as much of the tumor as possible from what I understand.
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