These are following things I am dealing with
1-Body being rigid
2-OCD about going home
3-Not Eating
4-Not Taking a shower
5-Urinary incontinence
6-Thinking TV is talking to her personally
7-Unable to change clothes
8-Seeing things that isn't there (Charles Bonnet syndrome)
All of these things are faced each day by family members that have a loved one that has dementia.
Is mom on Hospice? If not you might want to contact a Hospice in your area and see if mom is eligible.
They can help with many of the things you mention.
Here are a few things that will help you:
*Realize you can not do this alone. You will have to have caregivers help you.
*You can not leave mom by herself.
*She will decline, there is no way that this will improve.
*You need to care for yourself.
decide now what your "break point" is. Mine was SAFETY. If was no longer going to be safe for my Husband to keep him at home, I would have had to place him in Memory Care. If it was no longer safe for Me to care for him at home I would have had to place him.
*Having to place someone in Memory Care is NOT a failure, it is a realization that you have done the best that you could do and in order to keep doing the best your loved one needs a higher level of care.
*Not everyone can be a caregiver. Some are better care managers and leave the hands on caregiving to others.