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My Husband would like me to place my mother, I am not ready for that. My mother is not easy to handle, but we have been doing well. I left my job to care for our child, and in 2017 my mother moved in with us when my father passed away and she was no longer able to stay in her apartment.


My husband wants her out, he wants his space, and has even pulled the he pays the bills card on me. How can I explain to my husband that I want to enjoy all the time my mother has left. I have tried to tell him this but he just does not get it. I do understand dementia is a handful, and thanks to the fact my husband is able to support us on his own income is helpful cause it allows me stay home. I wish for our child to get to know his grandmother in a place she is comfortable with not in a nursing home, he did not have the chance to know his grandfather I do not want to rob him of that.


My mother and our son to get along wonderfully, and my mother loves having him around. I do understand that this was not meant to be a forever thing, but I am not ready to send my mother away. I use to work in a Medicaid SNF I know the horrors that go on. My husband downplays the quality of care they are capable of provide. I could not live with myself if I did that to her knowing full well how they operate.


My family told me to tell him if he wants her out then he has to pay for her placement to a better quality place, but in truth MC is not really the best wherever you go and the cost associated with private care is insane. By no means am I burnt out. I used to do this for a living so I am better equipped to handle it. My husband is the one that is burned out. He wants his home back. My husband is not much of a people person and have never really meshed with my family.


Am I being unreasonable for wanting to spend as much time as humanly possible with my mom and child? Having both of them around has been pure joy for me. Sure she is complicated show me a person with dementia that is not. I understand his feelings, but I do not think it is fair to have him tell me when it is time to place my mother. I get it he just wants it to be the three of us, but that is not how things are right now. I have told him we still have many years together we can make up for lost time, please find some enjoyment. Our son has a chance to spend time with his last living grandparent do not rob that from him.


He was not pleased by this, I get it might be heavy handed but that is what he is doing. I have seen it many times I know many families say their loved ones are doing great in MC, and sure some are. Though they are not around all day. My mother, hell no one deserves to die in such a place if the a family member is able to and willing to put in the work at home. I get it I can do this because of him, but even still that should not give him a reason to tell me how to care for my mother.


Please advise what should I say or do, we have tried to talk it out and he is hard stuck on this.

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To the admins, would you consider shutting this thread down to further comments please? Things have gotten uglier & uglier & the OP hasn't been back since the weekend. 133 comments should be enough to answer her original question.
Thanks for considering it.
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Geaton777 Feb 2022
I second that motion.
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@PeggySue2020
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and everyone else condemning this woman.

stop monopolizing this thread, you have done nothing but come up with theories without any facts about this woman and others, me included. You don't even know her but act like you do.

You bash everyone that has a different opinion from yours. What is your problem. You can't stand it that there are people that are not like you?

You have accused this woman of being a terrible wife and now an irresponsible mother too. You have predicted her doom of a future, rofl. Where do you get these ideas? You found "clues" from the little she has told you? So not only are you experts here but detectives also.

And once and for all, do women all a favor, get out of the stone ages, with your antiquated ideas about the roles of men and women What kind of marriages do you have? No wonder you come on here, it's not to give advise and help, it's to judge, criticize and condemn.

You come from a place of no reasoning. How do I know? The clues.

Go ahead and lash out at me again. Get something that I wrote and twist it to your satisfaction and use it against me. Go on I know you want to have the last word :)
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lealonnie1 Feb 2022
Who are you?
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I have a suggestion, and it may be an awful one. Neither is willing to budge. So I question how your home is set up - are you all forced to be together under unpleasant circumstances? You may have no choice except to find another home where there are totally separate areas of the house - one for your mother and you to spend time and one for you an your husband and family to spend time. You can' mix oil with water. Living with someone who has dementia is mixing oil and water - it can't be done - and no one should force a mental patient into a normal home. Disaster will strike sooner or later. Don't do it.
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Riley2166 Feb 2022
I was involved in a terrible situation. I was married for 22 years intil my husband passed. In the beginning years his son lived with us and it was sheer hell for many reasons and nothing would solve the problems until he left. The fact was the husband loved and and he loved his son but the marriage would only last if the son left the home - otherwise it would be destroyed. Thank god the son was old enough to leave and the marriage was saved. Sometimes this has to happen when someone has dementia. You make a choice - dementia patient or normal person - and live with the outcome.
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I will be 89 and have seen far too much in this life. One thing I learned the hard way is that once mental issues set in (like in your mother and the elderly) the things they can do and are capable of usually affect everyone around them - to the negative end. That is when, no matter how much you love them, you move them to facility - before they an affect others and destroy them. Just be sure to visit them if you can handle that without emotional harm to yourselves. They are mentally off now - not you - and people deserve peace. This is why there are homes for them - they are no longer "normal" and will never be again.
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Bravo
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Oh, and to the person who keeps quoting 1Timothy, it also says this:

 2:9In like manner, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefastness and sobriety; not with braided hair, and gold or pearls or costly raiment; 2:10but (which becometh women professing godliness) through good works. 2:11Let a woman learn in quietness with all subjection. 2:12But I permit not a woman to teach, nor to have dominion over a man, but to be in quietness. 2:13For Adam was first formed, then Eve; 2:14and Adam was not beguiled, but the woman being beguiled hath fallen into transgression.

1stTimothy, the OP clearly isn't even fazed by the prospect of divorce, which is a huge sin that Paul continually harps on. Why then would she be interested in your religious take?
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2ndTimothy Feb 2022
PeggySue2020,

I mentioned one scripture as an example of what me and my beautiful wife and family stand on - one of many scriptures. I am not interested in your baiting and use of scripture to further whatever agenda you have. Set your targets on someone else - like yourself.
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I haven't been following this post except for reading this particular one. Sounds like your husband had been having a hard time for a while and he's just now letting it show. Only he can really understand his reasoning behind wanting your Mother out of the house. Maybe it's financial, maybe he feels that you spend too much time caring for her needs and not his, maybe he's feeling left out. Maybe he wants out!! It needs to be talked out and soon. Please explore other housing options for your Mother. Maybe look at smaller Board and Care homes that have 3 or 4 seniors living there. A smaller setting might give her more one to one care. She could thrive in a smaller setting versus getting lost in a larger facility. Once that happens, you and your son can visit her often and be the happy family instead of stressed Caregivers. Dementia doesn't get better. Perhaps it's better to protect your son from that dark side.
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BurntCaregiver Feb 2022
cactusflower,

You're one of the few people on this thread that actually makes sense and offers a real solution that could work for the poster and her family.
There are just some threads you can't stop reading. It's like seeing a car accident. No one wants to see it, but you can't look away and this thread is something. It's a ten car pile-up on the highway in blizzard conditions at night and involves a tractor-trailer.
Once the scripture quoting starts that's when you know it's going to get good. I did the AM care for my own 84 year old mother and she's watching the Perry Mason re-runs. I'm watching the fight LOL.
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This needs to be said again and everyone should read this, full of reason, kindness and compassion: by 2ndTimothy

Stuckinthemid,

I can relate and understand to what you are feeling, but most of the people that visit this forum aren't going to come close to understanding.

You love your husband, son, and mother --- and want the best for each of them. You have witnessed more negative things as a caregiver in private facilities than you probably care to remember or write about.

I am married too with a family, and I take the lead on caring for my mother -- it's rare that men like me will even provide care for a parent -- especially almost 9 years of care that I am still providing.

I am the breadwinner and fortunate to work from home. My wife understands how I feel about caring for my mother, and she supports my decision to do so, and helps when I am busy on a work project, etc.

As a man of faith, I stand on scriptures such as 1 Timothy 5:3, and my wife is a woman of faith as well, so she is fully supportive. We work together to find balance, make time to vacation, and have our date nights covered with paid help. We make it work.

You stated that you have discussed the care of your mother with your husband, but I would encourage you and your husband to sit down with a marriage counselor and put it all on the table. It is good to have a neutral and unbiased party involved with marital issues.

Ultimately, either direction you go in will be emotionally challenging for you. Don't listen to the majority of people on this site who will attempt to make you feel guilty or wrong as a wife and mother. Do what you can live with for the rest of your life.

I admire the fact that you explained your feelings to your husband on how close you are to your mother, and desires to care for her -- sorry that his position appeared to change over time.

Praying for you to make the best decisions for your entire family.
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MargaretMcKen Feb 2022
I looked up 1 Timothy chapter 5 verse 3, the first time it was cited, on February 6th. It says ‘Honor widows that are widows indeed’. A very short verse, that’s it. It goes on in verse 5 with ‘now she that is a widow indeed, and desolate, trusteth in God, and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day’. And verse 6 continues ‘But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth’.

I doubt if many of our posters would agree that ‘honor’ depends on being ‘desolate..night and day’. Or that pleasure means that she ‘is dead while she liveth’.

The letter to Timothy is one of Paul’s many letters. Paul never met Jesus in the flesh, wrote nearly half the New Testament, and is well known for verses verging on misogyny (like women not cutting their hair). Do you actually read the Bible? Do you really believe this? Does it help anyone?

PS are you male or female? this post sounds like male, profile sounds like female. I'm not sure that Paul would have approved of gender change, though apparently he did do a DIY circumcision on his servant.
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Hi Rovana. I wanted to direct reply as to your observation that oOP has not been clear about how bad the dementia is, but she does leave clues.

She admits Mom is a "handful." It's clear the husband thinks otherwise, but she thinks that because she is the carer and a RN and loves mom, that she is the only source to decide when enough is enough.

She's like the frog in the pot, with the pot being on the stove since 2017.

I'm really worried about how the grandmother and her issues, and her marital problems, and said issues, will affect their 3-year-old.

She has, realistically, one year to fix this situation. Most children--and especially those in this family's income bracket--have the advantage of pre-K. Denying a child that advantage because of his "special relationship" with a demented grandmother does not seem in this son's interest.
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HE is employed and pays the bills. Perhaps he works long hours to avoid spending time where he no longer feels at home, with a wife that puts her wants first. Why should HE pick up the tab for your mother to have care? Sounds like YOUR family has little regard for you and your mother. No $ coming from them because you can be mother’s caregiving hostage. Caregivers are frequently the target of dementia rage. I hope you’re prepared to handle your son’s heartbreak when she starts accusing him of theft or abuse during the paranoid stage. My kids were old enough to comprehend but, believe me, the accusations cut them deeply.

Can you give them the opportunity to get away from her? What about designated space for her within your house? It’s very difficult to set boundaries with dementia. Perhaps an apt within your house. Or choose MC close by. As your son ages he’ll become more involved with his friends, with less interest in his elders. Be careful not to create an unhealthy scenario where they only have each other.

Now ask yourself this: If you divorce, where will you and your mother live? If she dies in a year or two, do you expect your son and husband will take you back?

And, finally, my mother is 97. My 1st husband died at 33. Never count on making up for lost time.
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bundleofjoy Feb 2022
"Never count on making up for lost time."

i'll remember that, and try to use every moment.
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OP's husband can't expect OP to move her mom out instantly. Processes for alternative living take time. But he has to trust her to actually follow up on it.

OP gives serious mixed messages about how willing she will be to do that.

Like for one, she doesn't like the apartment idea because it'll "only solve the space issue" as opposed to time. If she means she's going to go sleep with mommy and distrust the free aides she's applying for (she after all is an RN and they are not), then the process is almost moot, and definitely not a compromise.

By next year, OP's child should be in a pre-K program and her mother Somewhere Else that OP is not sleeping over at, or prioritizing visits to over her child's pre-K education. If OP feels the arrangement is crummy, then she should return to work so that she pays for the help herself.
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bthestoic1 Feb 2022
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Stuckinthemid,

I can relate and understand to what you are feeling, but most of the people that visit this forum aren't going to come close to understanding.

You love your husband, son, and mother --- and want the best for each of them. You have witnessed more negative things as a caregiver in private facilities than you probably care to remember or write about.

I am married too with a family, and I take the lead on caring for my mother -- it's rare that men like me will even provide care for a parent -- especially almost 9 years of care that I am still providing.

I am the breadwinner and fortunate to work from home. My wife understands how I feel about caring for my mother, and she supports my decision to do so, and helps when I am busy on a work project, etc.

As a man of faith, I stand on scriptures such as 1 Timothy 5:3, and my wife is a woman of faith as well, so she is fully supportive. We work together to find balance, make time to vacation, and have our date nights covered with paid help. We make it work.

You stated that you have discussed the care of your mother with your husband, but I would encourage you and your husband to sit down with a marriage counselor and put it all on the table. It is good to have a neutral and unbiased party involved with marital issues.

Ultimately, either direction you go in will be emotionally challenging for you. Don't listen to the majority of people on this site who will attempt to make you feel guilty or wrong as a wife and mother. Do what you can live with for the rest of your life.

I admire the fact that you explained your feelings to your husband on how close you are to your mother, and desires to care for her -- sorry that his position appeared to change over time.

Praying for you to make the best decisions for your entire family.
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I don't understand why your husband would have an issue with this. With your mother around, you are occupied, your son is occupied and your husband is free to do whatever he wants. I think that's a perfect arrangement. Tell him to go play hockey or video games or join the gym, get a hobby, whatever. Your mother will not live forever, this is temporary and he needs to grow up. He needs to think about the resentment he is generating in you by his failure to understand how important this is. His behavior during this difficult time for you will determine the long term quality of your marriage.
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MargaretMcKen Feb 2022
Shuffle, has your memory been ‘abducted by aliens’? Your profile says that your parents lasted 10 months with you, then blamed you for them wanting to move out, then left. You experienced Stockholm Syndrome, as well as alien abduction!

Now you say 5 years+ is ‘temporary’, DH should ‘grow up’, forget about being married, ‘play hockey or video games or join the gym, get a hobby, whatever’. Wow!
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Sledge, you did it for one year and found other accommodations for your parents.

Let's be real about what we should or shouldn't expect from people.

I bet you were angry and done when your folks got a new address.
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sledge Feb 2022
they made the decision to leave, they were not happy, my father in particular, who wanted in his own words "to try it on his own one last time", I did not make the difficult decision :)
They are now in the same building with my sister. I visit frequently and help out as much as possible. Lets be real living with 2 elderly unhappy and disruptive parents is different than taking care of a mother who seems to be not a problem.
I am not angry. I regret I could not make it better for them and make them happy.
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i am over this thread.. LOL She already knows what she wants to do, and she will do it. You cant change anyones mind And that is fine..
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Becky04489 Feb 2022
This thread needs to go. There's nothing left to say. You're right you can't change anyone's mind.
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Sledge, it is not gscott but you, the OP and a few others that appear to be projecting here.

When one gets married and starts a family, the expectation is that they become the priority over extended family. This includes mothers.

She's already said that her hardline is keeping the mom with her until SHE feels like it'll be too much. But it's been five years already with mom and her dementia. Mom already wanders and shadows people.

If Mom starts doing that with the kid, OP will just be glowing about their "special friendship" that won't be healthy in any way.

She's insistent on keeping Mommy even if it means her husband disappears and so does this child for 3/4 nights a week. GREAT mother there.
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sledge Feb 2022
what am I projecting? I'm not assuming anything about her relationship with her husband. I am only stating my opinion, that I think it is immature, not kind and unfair of him to put this on her. Has he no compassion for her, his wife?
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Rick10, I think that one of the challenges, this has been discussed here before, is that depending on the region, country, county, state and even the facility there are different services provided in facilities that have the same designation, ie AL, MC, Board and Care, even SNC.

So, some places AL can't or won't accommodate wandering, other places will. It makes it imperative that people interview the facilities in their area to be sure they are in fact willing and able to meet care needs.
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I can't believe the comments that bash this woman. She is only prioritizing. Her mother is in need, not the husband. He is a big boy. If it was the other way around I'm sure she would take care of her husband. It sounds like she is meeting all her responsibilities as a mother, wife and daughter. It seems that the mother is not disrupting the household but bringing joy to the 3 year old son and her daughter. Why would he not be happy about seeing his family happy?

I'm sure some have noticed I've said I had both my parents with me, It was not a wonderful experience, and yet my husband supported me always and never once made me feel like I was neglecting him or our marriage. He understood that my parents needed help, and that it was my priority at this time and he understood I needed his help. He works and yet he helped me in the household as well. That is what any mature adult husband/man would do that loves his wife. Support her.

One thing I'm not clear on is what exactly is his issue with the mother being there? Has she taken his bed, his office, his couch, his tv??? What does it mean he needs his space?? Is he not happy that the mother and daughter get along and are close, is he jealous?? Does he hate that the mother is getting more attention than him from her?
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Sighopinion Feb 2022
OP mentions the mother is a shadow. My guess the husband rightfully feels like the third wheel. Between caring for a child and an adult child does not leave much room for DH.
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Sounds like you are neglecting your husband expecting him to meet all your needs and you meet none of his. It's all about your mom, you and your son from your what I read. If you're getting family involved and they're saying if he wants her put away he should pay....how about they take her and if they get tired of dealing with it THEY pay, SHE'S their mom too. I've read many of the post on here and probably all hit the nail on the head. You have marriage issues and more than likely it's because you are neglecting your marriage and your expectations can't be met. I'll bet your husband isn't getting any attention from the time he gets home to the time he goes to bed and you're probably using sex as a weapon also. Get help, not just for your mom but your marriage and yourself. The man is providing you with a home, food, car, clothes, and the bills paid. What are you providing for him other than another issue to deal with. Do you greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work? Do you make him a good meal or even flirt with him in a loving way so as for him to know he's your husband and you love him? Doesn't sound like it from your post. All you about your mom, you and your son. What happened to love, honor and cherish until death do you part. That was for your husband not your mother. My mother is in a MC facility also for dementia. No one wants to put their loved ones away but she gets the care she needs there. My in-laws live with me and the father in law has parkinsons at 80 yrs old. But I made it clear after losing $80g on the home we built to buy one where they could move into the finished basement that I was not their care giver and they are not to make demands on me and they help with the mortgage since we lost money on a house we built to help them out. Maybe you should make it clear to your mom's family they need to help out more by taking her or helping to pay for care so you and your husband can have some time together to repair your marriage before you wind up alone like the other lady a few pages down did.
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PeggySue2020 Feb 2022
Abzu, if the wife felt the husband was working too many hours, she would have made it the focal point. She was on board with it, and is still on board with it, because his hours of labor equal more time she doesn't have to work and can spend with mom and her 3-year-old.

I agree with you that it's a disagreement of core values, but if it is, it won't be ameliorated by getting public aides or a public apartment for mom or other measures, such as the private adult day care Mom insists on over the public ones. She doesn't seem the type to be able to reinforce to mom that this is it, you get along with these aides and this apartment (if it even happens)--she seems the type to just take granny back in and being increasingly resentful of her husband since she thinks she has the unilateral right to keep her in their house.
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I find it difficult to understand how much time you have to post long replies to comments made here…especially to those who disagree with you. Where is your child and mother while you spend time HERE? Not to mention your husband? I hope you find peace in whatever decisions you make.
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Labs4me Feb 2022
This OP is just having his/her jollies posting comments to raise peoples emotions.. I have read every single post if this OP and it has yoyo type bizarre comments. Some of the written English diction seems maybe this person is in another country or has limited knowledge of written language. People here are feeding off the OP's fun and games. My opinion, but reread all this person's comments and you see see a pattern that doesn't seem quite right.
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I think you should do whatever best for you .. I absolutely don’t agree MC
horrible … some are great but very $$$. If you want mother with you …
go for it…. Doesn’t sound like great love marriage … and not sure how much you want give up to keep husband. Do what your heart feels… I think that’s best …
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gscottwins Feb 2022
What happened to love honor and cherish until death do you part? It's not a loving marriage because she's already abandoned her husband for her mother. He goes off to pay the bills and comes home to more expectations from him but gets nothing in return. Maybe his heart is feeling he wished he never met her since he isn't appreciated for providing a home, food on the table, clothes, cars, vacations while she whines about not getting her way with her mom there.
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hugs :)

this is just a general comment.

somewhere below, i wrote:
"there's still people on here who insist placing an elder is

giving up on them, throwing them away, or just being mean selfish meanies."

it's not.
sometimes, it's the most loving thing one can do.
and, sometimes the LO thrives in a facility.
even if they don't thrive, sometimes it's the most loving thing to do.

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i want to add to that.

sometimes, it is indeed, "giving up on the elder, throwing them away, or just being mean selfish meanies."

there are all sorts of people in this world.
those kinds of people exist too.

not all people place their LOs in a facility, for good reasons.

not all people keep their LOs home, for good reasons.

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...for example, some people are calculating ("how can i get the most financially out of my LOs")...
...some adult children just don't care ("i don't care what happens to my LO...let's just do X") (even when the LO was very loving towards towards the adult children the whole life) (i'm not talking about abusive LOs)

the point is, there are all sort of people, making decisions (abandon parents totally, let them figure it out themselves? out of sight, out of mind? help a little? help a lot? facility? no facility? in-home care?)

meanies exist.

awful facilities exist.

likewise, loving people exist, just wanting the best for their LOs, for themselves, for the whole family.

good facilities exist. but it certainly depends on where you live. some parts of the world, some towns/cities, only have awful facilities.

also, the more money you have, the more options/solutions you have...
for example, more money = sometimes will give you access to a certain good facility, that a poorer person will never be able to access, can't afford.

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so yes, meanies exist.
loving people exist.

good facilities exist.
awful facilities exist.

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as for OP...what should OP do...
dear stuck,
:)

i simply wish you well, your mother, your whole family. :)

it's not easy.
and you/your mother/your family, has to live with the decisions, none of us. --it's sometimes very easy for someone in an armchair to give advice on someone else's life. they will never deal with any of the consequences.

and only you know all the facts.

also, for some bizarre/ironic reason, it's sometimes easier to give advice to others, than to give advice to ourselves. having said this, i better work on my life! :)

:)
continue your loving path OP, seeking good solutions.
sometimes, empathy and encouragement (whatever path one decides on) is what helps. you'll find the right way.

hug! :)
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The last bit of information that came through from OP is that she is still waiting for her son to go to school. That means that the 5 years with mother have coincided with pregnancy and toddler years. Very small children usually have few memories to take forward, with Grandma being a vague (and hopefully nice) mystery figure, replaced by reality when the child gets more stable memories.

Things will change in many ways when son goes to school, just as things will change when GM’s health deteriorates to the point where she DOES qualify for the support that was turned down before. And of course, there will be radical changes if the marriage breaks down.

OP and her husband really need a planning session for the future, not just for the next few months. It would be a pity if OP is backed into a corner, and can't change when the world changes around her.
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Did something happen to spark this conversation or has he been giving your subtle hints that you haven't acknowledged? Think back to the conversations about mom moving in with your family in 2017. What were your husband's requests at the time? What was your point of view! Have you honored them? Has he honored them? Are you still living as a couple, being intimate, having date nights, going on vacation, having family time with your child, etc.? Or is taking care of mom taking all your time & he's left out? Do you have any family to help physically or financially in the care of your mom by providing respite care for you? Contact your Area of Aging in your community for assistance. It's difficult to place mom, but you have to think about your family also. Is there a facility nearby where you can still visit but be present at home when he's off? Think of the comments written by others, then think of how you can best take care of mom, and your husband. Then have a conversation with him to discuss your thoughts & see how he feels. If you have to place your mom in order to save your marriage, please know that you have made a difference in her life & don't blame your husband as he seems to have been pretty understanding for the last 4-5 years. Be at peace & make the best of the rest of your mom's life. 🙏🙏 for you & your family.
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Seems your husband is telling you in a round about way that he misses having time with you. Talk with him about what he feels he needs from you. If need be, visit a counsellor together to talk about time obligations and living arrangements.
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To my way of reading, the OP has agreed to look at some facilities, make some phone calls to get her mother on the long waiting lists at others and will look into renting a studio apartment for her mother (here in NYC, it is quite usual for folks to have round-the-clock Medicaid -paid aides. There simply aren't enough NH beds here.

I'd call that a sea change from her original post.

Cut out the bashing, guys. Please. We're better than this.
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You might want to arrange for someone to come in - a babysitter/respite care for a few hours so you can spend a few hours with your husband. It helps to keep the relationship going.

You profess to keep the one with your son and mother going, but the big priority should be your husband. He is keeping the family going financially. You don’t want your mother in a facility, but have you looked at outside activities that that senior organizations might have for her that would allow your little family to bond?
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Stuckinthemid, you've already told a room of Internet randos what your decision is. Which is that it's going to be your way until he takes the highway, and if the latter you will deal with it.

IDK, OP. The H has dealt with it for five years already. You offer no timeline for what you'll do other than what YOU want, aligned with what she wants. Your H appears to be the odd man out. So I'm not being sarcastic about it, but just let him know that that's the deal.
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All of a sudden Stuckinthemind has added her father to the mix. Whoever this person is they are purposely feeding into all this phony dialogue. I for one find this OP a troll that gets off on controversary. If you want to use this site for your fun and games then at least make your comments plausible. I am done with this idiot!!
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Stuckinthemid Feb 2022
My father passed away that is why my mom lives with us... it was brought up when someone asked why she was living with us. Cute you calling me a troll though with you pompous post.
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Stuckinthemid: I am truly sorry that you are in this predicament. I hope that you can resolve the issues that you stated with an all around happy family dynamic. Prayers and love sent.
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Stuckinthemid Feb 2022
Agree to disagree. I worked in many prior to our child being born. I have seen a great many decent ones, but those tend to have very long waitlists and without me working I cannot pay for my mothers care like I was prior to our son being born.
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