How do I warn people about a horrible caregiver that I hired? She will be looking for a job when my parent passes away.

Is this caregiver licensed? If so, and if you can document actual acts that placed your parent at risk, you can file a complaint with the state nursing board. They also certify CNAs, GNAs, and other home care aides. If she is unlicensed you might be able to contact APS about elder abuse including fiscal abuse. Again, you need to be able to prove what you claim is a danger to your parent. Also, these things tend to be recurrent patterns. Check to see if there have been legal actions against this caregiver for similar offenses. If so, that will add power to any complaint and it is more likely that APS will take you seriously.

Unless you have documentation then you have nothing because it could come out as libel and slander. be careful.

There are a lot of things that I am questioning about this situation.

Why did you want to obtain guardianship?

What is your relationship with your mother and sister?

Did the caregiver’s work ethics change after working in private care vs agency care?

What lies are you accusing the caregiver of?

Why didn’t you have representation in court?

Why do you feel this caregiver doesn’t deserve to work with another family after your mom dies?

Are you being left out of a family will?

Just what exactly is your motive for wanting to destroy a person’s opportunity to work in their chosen field?

Please answer these questions and then I will give a response.

Mindyinphx: Say nothing to avoid legal trouble.

I don't think there is anything you can or should say about this caregiver. You have already notified the company she worked for.
Let it go and focus on yourself and your family.

Confer with an attorney for your options.

I agree with Jacquelinezr and JoAnn29. When I had rental property when asked for a reference, I would say yes or no to"would you rent to this person again." The only other info I would share was anything documented in their file. So, you can say you would not hire this person again. That should be enough to ward off any potential employer.

If your sibling is your parents POA or guardian I’m not sure there is anything you can do to pass the word beyond what you have done, notify the agency. Anyone looking for a reference is going to ask the POA or guardian. I’m going to assume you mean you and your sibling went to court trying to get guardianship for your parent and for whatever reason your sibling was awarded that so my recommendation to you is play nice and kiss some a.. so you won’t be totally locked out of your parents life. Let your sibling have all the headaches and responsibility and you just visit and enjoy your parent while you still can, be the sibling Mom or Dad favors because you aren’t there all the time! The rest of us will be jealous!

Why do I have the sneaking suspicion that we're not getting the full story?

You don't say WHY she is a horrible caregiver. You only state what is being said against you. Does she take good care of your parents? If so, leave it alone.

Hire an attorney.
Depends - is she an independent worker? or hired through an agency?
If an independent worker, likely she was not vetted as needed (ask for references, check references, REQUIRE criminal record checks = i.e., fingerprinting).

There may be little to nothing you can do besides mention on forums like Next Door, Facebook, etc. Although likely not worth your time.

You need to focus on the family situation that you are in vs providing reference information (or lack thereof) to others.

Did you / family pay her with checks?
Do you have her SS #?
You might be able to do something with the IRS although that could be very involved, time consuming and they cannot do anything about quality of care; just deal with if she is / did / does pay her taxes.

Gena / Touch Matters

The problem is that if you post anything and identify her without any evidence -- especially when they're all got "evidence" sort of against you -- she could turn around and suit you for slander and defamation and really make your life a nightmare. I'm sorry you're in such a horrible position. What makes it worse is your sibling turning against you and is siding with a stranger. The best you can do if someone asks for a recommendation is say, "No, I wouldn't hire her again." That's just your opinion and the person asking for the recommendation gets the information they need from that without bringing on a potential defamation lawsuit because you are allowed an opinion. Plus, companies don't generally share "She gave you an awful recommendation, therefore, we are not going to hire you."

My husband employed many people, and if he was asked to give a reference after they left or were fired, the most he would say was, “I wouldn’t hire them again.”

Avoid speaking about her at all. All she needs is to file a defamation suit, and whether she wins it or it's thrown out of court or you prevail or whatever, you will have gained nothing and lost much. If you do end up in court over this, be prepared for depositions, for her side issuing subpoenas for depositions of your friends and family, and a whole lot of other misery that will be visited upon you and anyone involved.

Revenge isn't always sweet.

You tell us the following:
"My sibling is trying to push me out of the family so she can take over and she is teaming up with the caregiver to lie about me on court papers so she can get paid under the table and the amount she wanted. Due to no representation I lost my case of adult guardianship against my sibling but the caregiver lied to the social worker, had meetings without telling me, gossips to family members about me, won't acknowledge I am family and is involved with the financial matters. My sibling just loves her and trusts her and she hates me so I have been kicked out of the family because of her mouth. I want to keep her from destroying another family so how do I warn people?"

This is but one more case, IMHO, of "siblings at war" tearing a helpless elder to pieces when that elder is most vulnerable. It's clear that:
1. Your sibling is caring for your parent.
2. Your sibling is in charge of hiring caregivers for your parent.
3. You took your caregiver sibling to court and fought to be guardian in her stead.
4. You lost.

I think under these circumstances my advice to you would be:
1. Apologize to all involved including sister, caregiver and your parent
2. Beg to be allowed to visit your loved parent even if accompanied by sister or caregiver
3. Promise to never cause any trouble whatsoever again.
4. Be VERY CAREFUL of what you say about this hired caregiver lest you be sued for defamation of character, libel or slander. Have a very good umbrella policy for insurance so that if you ARE SUED by this person you will be able to have an attorney for your defense through your insurance.

As you can imagine, when we get questions such as your own we are only getting one side and we cannot be judge and jury on any case we do not know the facts of. I advise you to take care.
Do consider seeking counseling for yourself.

When I worked I had to be very careful what I said when asked about a former worker. There are laws where you can't keep a person from getting another job. I remember one form I was sent concerning hiring a former employer. It asked all the appropriate questions, but the last one was "would u buy a used care from this person". If I had said "no" that would have summed up the whole thing. Person would not have been hired.

By being involved with the financial matters do u mean your the POA? If so, you hold the purse strings unless Mom and Dad are competent. So you determine what this aide gets paid. You can have accounts changed so no one else has access, if parents are incompetent. If parents are incompetent, you could fire the aide.

Surprised this aide, from an agency, was able to go private. She accentually stole a client from the agency. So did ur parents. Usually contracts don't allow that and there is a penalty for it.

I agree with cwillie... unless someone (a private person or an agency) contacts you for a reference (which would mean she included you as a reference for employment) you should not say anything unless you want to get yourself into legal trouble. Even if what you say about her is true, if you do this publicly, you will be at fault. You did the only possible thing, which was to report her to her agency.

Can you clarify... who was she hired to provide care for? Who has the legal guardian? If you hired her, why do you have so little control about her sticking around?

I'm sorry you have been faced with so many difficulties. My advice is that you do not attempt to publicly denounce this person, it is your word against theirs and anything you publish could be considered libellous.