How do I warn people about a horrible caregiver that I hired? She will be looking for a job when my parent passes away.

You tell us the following:
"My sibling is trying to push me out of the family so she can take over and she is teaming up with the caregiver to lie about me on court papers so she can get paid under the table and the amount she wanted. Due to no representation I lost my case of adult guardianship against my sibling but the caregiver lied to the social worker, had meetings without telling me, gossips to family members about me, won't acknowledge I am family and is involved with the financial matters. My sibling just loves her and trusts her and she hates me so I have been kicked out of the family because of her mouth. I want to keep her from destroying another family so how do I warn people?"

This is but one more case, IMHO, of "siblings at war" tearing a helpless elder to pieces when that elder is most vulnerable. It's clear that:
1. Your sibling is caring for your parent.
2. Your sibling is in charge of hiring caregivers for your parent.
3. You took your caregiver sibling to court and fought to be guardian in her stead.
4. You lost.

I think under these circumstances my advice to you would be:
1. Apologize to all involved including sister, caregiver and your parent
2. Beg to be allowed to visit your loved parent even if accompanied by sister or caregiver
3. Promise to never cause any trouble whatsoever again.
4. Be VERY CAREFUL of what you say about this hired caregiver lest you be sued for defamation of character, libel or slander. Have a very good umbrella policy for insurance so that if you ARE SUED by this person you will be able to have an attorney for your defense through your insurance.

As you can imagine, when we get questions such as your own we are only getting one side and we cannot be judge and jury on any case we do not know the facts of. I advise you to take care.
Do consider seeking counseling for yourself.

I'm sorry you have been faced with so many difficulties. My advice is that you do not attempt to publicly denounce this person, it is your word against theirs and anything you publish could be considered libellous.

Avoid speaking about her at all. All she needs is to file a defamation suit, and whether she wins it or it's thrown out of court or you prevail or whatever, you will have gained nothing and lost much. If you do end up in court over this, be prepared for depositions, for her side issuing subpoenas for depositions of your friends and family, and a whole lot of other misery that will be visited upon you and anyone involved.

Revenge isn't always sweet.

My husband employed many people, and if he was asked to give a reference after they left or were fired, the most he would say was, “I wouldn’t hire them again.”

The problem is that if you post anything and identify her without any evidence -- especially when they're all got "evidence" sort of against you -- she could turn around and suit you for slander and defamation and really make your life a nightmare. I'm sorry you're in such a horrible position. What makes it worse is your sibling turning against you and is siding with a stranger. The best you can do if someone asks for a recommendation is say, "No, I wouldn't hire her again." That's just your opinion and the person asking for the recommendation gets the information they need from that without bringing on a potential defamation lawsuit because you are allowed an opinion. Plus, companies don't generally share "She gave you an awful recommendation, therefore, we are not going to hire you."

Why do I have the sneaking suspicion that we're not getting the full story?

You don't say WHY she is a horrible caregiver. You only state what is being said against you. Does she take good care of your parents? If so, leave it alone.

I agree with cwillie... unless someone (a private person or an agency) contacts you for a reference (which would mean she included you as a reference for employment) you should not say anything unless you want to get yourself into legal trouble. Even if what you say about her is true, if you do this publicly, you will be at fault. You did the only possible thing, which was to report her to her agency.

Can you clarify... who was she hired to provide care for? Who has the legal guardian? If you hired her, why do you have so little control about her sticking around?

When I worked I had to be very careful what I said when asked about a former worker. There are laws where you can't keep a person from getting another job. I remember one form I was sent concerning hiring a former employer. It asked all the appropriate questions, but the last one was "would u buy a used care from this person". If I had said "no" that would have summed up the whole thing. Person would not have been hired.

By being involved with the financial matters do u mean your the POA? If so, you hold the purse strings unless Mom and Dad are competent. So you determine what this aide gets paid. You can have accounts changed so no one else has access, if parents are incompetent. If parents are incompetent, you could fire the aide.

Surprised this aide, from an agency, was able to go private. She accentually stole a client from the agency. So did ur parents. Usually contracts don't allow that and there is a penalty for it.

There are a lot of things that I am questioning about this situation.

Why did you want to obtain guardianship?

What is your relationship with your mother and sister?

Did the caregiver’s work ethics change after working in private care vs agency care?

What lies are you accusing the caregiver of?

Why didn’t you have representation in court?

Why do you feel this caregiver doesn’t deserve to work with another family after your mom dies?

Are you being left out of a family will?

Just what exactly is your motive for wanting to destroy a person’s opportunity to work in their chosen field?

Please answer these questions and then I will give a response.