My dad is 94 and on his own, he spent winters with us in our sunnier climate . The last “visit” he came from another country , coincided with covid and so stayed and now lives with my husband and I.
My husband has a mental health condition that limits his ability to work full time, so he was happy at first, but gradually could not cope and has left to go live with his brother in another country.
I am now Carer for 2 men. And I love them both. And I want out.
I am a loving person, respectful and responsible, don’t get me wrong…. But I am losing sight of me, I am changing and I don’t really like what I see happening, I know there is a better way but I just cannot seem to get to that first step……
It's time to tell dad that while you love him, you need/want your husband to return home and so he's going to have to find a nice assisted living facility near by that he can move to and be around people his own age, or go back to his country, so you can get your life and your husband back.
And you don't back down or listen to all the excuses as to why he can't, you just tell him that you're giving him until the end of February to be out. PERIOD.
You can do this! Your mental health depends on it.