My dad had a horrible accident my mothers in the nursing home, they revoked me as DPOA, NOW WANT ME BACK. Well at least the keys are going away and no more driving for dad! He didn't hurt anyone else thank God! My mothers been in the nursing home since she left the hospital 3 weeks ago. My dad revoked me as DPOA then put his crazy sister in charge. When my mother found out that's what she signed she was not happy, but they both had not business signing any legal documents. I reported the attorney to the Supreme Court of the Virginia State Bar, they are looking into this. The attorney lied about speaking with my folks doctors. My dad is in bad shape before this and now I hold that attorney responsible for not intervening calling me, or trying to help my dad instead this attorney caused a huge mess. I was told that the attorney and my fathers 2 sister were told if they couldn't act like adults they will be escorted from the building by security. The hospital Risk management will not recognize this shyster attorney to be my fathers attorney, nor would they except my dads crazy sisters as his new DPOA. It's been more insanity, I'm done with my fathers side of the family, they didn't even have the decency to call me about my fathers accident the neighbor called me papers piling up on the porch they called 911. He was found wandering the streets God that broke my heart to hear this. What a mess, I still haven't recovered from my last visit up there, and still don't have work. There's the house the bills are a wreck again due to my fathers paranoia moved his checking account money. The sisters didn't even call me about my dad. I'm going to have to go back to Virginia close up the house sell everything, I have a house of my own who's going to pay my mortgage and bills while I'm doing all of this for them?
Would this be a good time to move them to a care facility near you? Since it doesn't seem that they are going to be able to keep their house anyway, perhaps they will not be as resistant to that idea now.
You need to "charge" your parents for "personal care services" while getting their affairs straightened out. See an Elder Law attorney to do this correctly.