My mom has been approved for Medicaid and is back home with me. Medicaid pays for adult day care 2 days out of the week and a few hours of caregiving/homemaking. My question is how do I get even a long weekend or a week away by myself with our major shoestring budget?
I called up that care for mom service and they told me a minimum of $150 a day is the best they can find in my area (Tampa). Any other suggestions for my situation? No one else in the family is in a position to take care of her.
The Medicaid rep for my mom is more interested in proving my mom needs less care, less caregiving hours, etc than anything else so I don't feel like I can get anywhere with her.
The only thing I can think of is if she's on hospice. That allows for 5 days of respite care every "period". That "period" seems to differ from as little as 30 days to 6 months depending on reports from different areas. In my area, it's 5 days every 30 days.
I also see that you are doing all that you can and realize that you need respite so you can maintain your own rest and health, both physically and emotionally. So good that you recognize this.
You went through the procedure of getting your mom approved for Medicaid which was a very smart move.
Why not go one step further and place her in a Medicaid approved nursing home? This will ensure that she receives proper care, plus you will no longer need respite care in the future and therefore risk burning out caring for her. What do you think about a nursing home for her?
You can make plans to tour a few of them. Select one that is most accommodating for her needs and you will achieve peace of mind knowing that care is already established before it becomes absolutely necessary for her.
I am only pointing this out now because it is easier to make the arrangements now rather than later at a more stressful time.
Best wishes to you and your mom. Hugs!
Have you called Council on Aging in your area? They will do a needs assessment and if your parent qualifies they will receive help with bathing, preparations for light meals and tidying up their room. In my area there are shuttles back and forth to doctor appointments as well. There is a wait list. It’s usually only a few hours per month in four hour shifts.
As far as a vacation I don’t know where you can receive help for that. Sorry. Maybe others can chime in and help.
Best wishes to you.