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We both DO NOT want him to move in with us. He fights constantly with his mother-in-law. She is 82 and has dementia so that doesn't help the situation as well. We both don't know what to say to him because if we flat out say no he will start world war 3. Any advice on how to say no would be awesome.

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Oh, boy. I would say "No." Like my elderly neighbor always urged me to say "We couldn't possibly do that."

Leave it at that. If he keeps wanting an explanation, you could say you are sorry, but it just isn't possible.

I wouldn't care, if he does get mad. He is giving you an unreasonable request.
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I love Chicago's advise, I am comitting that to memory, I can see how it could work in many levels and situations.

Iam801, stick to your guns. He has no right to expect to move in with his son because he has a caregiving situation with his MIL that is difficult. If he wants to move, that is his perrogative, but also his respoonsibility. If MIL is in her 80s my guess is he is in his 50s. Difficulties with his MIL are HIS marital issue, not your problem.
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"Oh my, that just won't work for us. If you want us to help you find other living accommodations, we can do that, but it won't work to move in with us. Sorry." And stick to it like the other commenters have said. No more explanation required. It's his problem to solve.

Don't set a precedent this early that will haunt you for the rest of your relationship. It's good that you're both in agreement about it.
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If you absolutely must provide an explanation, tell him that as a soon to be married couple you are looking forward to starting your own famiy and that does not include living with dad. If he persists explain how you and fiancee are at-home nudists! That should leave him speechless.
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Leave the explanations out. The less said the better.

It was kind of a stupid slogan regarding drugs, but it fits this situation: "Just say No."
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Where is your fiancée's mother in this scenario?
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