Do you realize how helpful this forum is?

Thank you so much!!!

You as well🙂

Thank you for speaking what a lot of us are thinking .

Well great Suz! 😊 This forum was my lifeline when my mother lived in Memory Care Assisted Living, and AL beforehand, and fell 95x! I was losing my mind and the forum helped me tremendously. It's nice to have support, that's for sure!

Ditto, Suz!!

I know, right?? Wish I had known about it back in 2016/17 when my inlaws were imploding at the same time. I still have 3 elders to manage, and I learn something new here almost every day. So glad it has helped you!

I agree. This forum has been a blessing! I hate to use the phrase "misery loves company", but in this case it's true. People provide such helpful answers and beneficial moral support.

For sure! I was feeling pretty desperate when I came here years ago.
I can only say I wish you WOULD answer folks, because your time giving care has made your opinion matter, made it of value. You will feel great knowing you are helping others. Glad you are there, whether you choose to or not, S. But hope I will see you out giving answers to others who are new to it and feeling scared.

Found you guys in 2012 when I was feeling pretty desperate. It was a lifesaver for me!

Yes, I certainly do. To both caregivers and careneeders.

I'm no longer a caregiver (husband died last year) but I still read and comment from time to time. I think it's a very helpful group of people. And useful not just for caregiving but for insights as we ourselves are aging.

It's always nice to know that what we say can make a difference in someone else's life, especially when it comes to the hardest job there is....caregiving.
We can all learn from each other, and for those of us that have been there done that and continue to share our wisdom and insight, I know is helpful to others still in the throes of it all.
Thank you for your kind words.

I too have immensely enjoyed learning many facts and nuances about caregiving. I felt I could ask the forum anything and everything without judgement. It is a good feeling after 3 years to be able to support someone else with good information.
We all desperately needed this forum.
I hope it can continue for those just getting starting with caregiving.

You are so right! Thank you for expressing that!

This is only forum that accurately addresses elderly parents abusing their adult children… and the elderly abusing those around them in general.

It’s wild how little information is out there on this specific issue. Lots of stuff on google about how the elderly can be abused or taken advantage of & how to look out for greedy manipulative children, etc. But nothing about how & why the elderly abuse others.

This forum helped me to cut through the gaslighting & recognize the weaponized incompetence & grooming my family has subjected me to.

Caregiving is a horrifically isolating experience. We are scapegoated, accused & stigmatized by the outside world. This is one of the very few places where our desperation is met with validation & understanding.

I am very grateful to have access to place that lets me know I’m not alone in this nightmare, and reminds me that someday it will in fact be over… and that it’s really ok that I’m looking forward to my someday.

I’d just like to post another aspect of the benefits of this site. I have a very difficult back problem (severe scoliosis, degenerating with age). I live on an isolated farm in South Australia, I can’t do much physical work now, and I am bored to tears. I’ve been involved in caring all my life, and I find trying to be helpful on the site is probably the most interesting part of my day.

Thanks for tolerating me, fellow posters! My friends! The people who ask questions (or just read) are not the only ones who benefit.

This forum has helped me in the year that I’ve been doing this. The most important thing I learned is the phrase “unsafe discharge!” I know this was instrumental in delaying mother’s discharge when she had delerium. I read here every day, always hoping to learn something.