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I was working as an LPN when my husband had a stroke. I left my job to care for him at home.

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In most cases the caregiver gets paid by the person or family they are caring for.
You do not give any information about your husband, his age and the prognosis for his recovery.
If he is a Veteran the VA may have a program that will pay you as a caregiver. (It was fairly recently that they began paying spouses to care for the Veteran)
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Personal opinion if you have been working full time and your husband does not need medical care at the level you as an LPN would provide it might be wiser to return to work and hire a caregiver that would make less that what you make as an LPN. AND you would still be contributing to your future retirement funds (Social Security, Pension or other benefit plan)
(I know gut reaction is you want to provide his care, you know him better than anyone, no one can care for him the way you can....All that is true but you have to care for yourself as well and you can not be a caregiver 24/7/365 you WILL need to hire someone)
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Rarely are spouses paid. I agree with grandma. Maybe better u work and pay an aide. I so wish I had realized what working full-time most of my life would have meant in Social Security payments. Plus, waiting to take it at 66. The cost of living has skyrocketed so much since I did start taking it at 62.
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If your husband is on Medicaid, they often will pay(depends on your state)for a few hours of care each week. Also if your husband was a veteran the VA has a program called Aide and Attendance that pays caregivers a few hours weekly.
But either way it won't be anything close to what you can make as a LPN.
You may want to rethink the situation.

When my late husband had a massive stroke at the age of 48, which left him permanently disabled, I was able to take some time off of work to be with him while he was in the ICU and hospital, and when he went to rehab I just rearranged my work schedule to make sure that I was able to be with him during his therapy sessions.
I never quit my job as I knew that I was now the breadwinner in the family and had to work. And I was fortunate that I was in management so I could easily adjust my schedule when I had to, and worked for at the time a company that allowed me the freedom to do so.
And over time my husband was able to stay on his own while I worked full-time. He of course had many many other stroke related issues along the way, but thankfully I was always able to rearrange my schedule to give him the care he needed at the time.
It wasn't until the last 4 years of his life that I stayed home with him 24/7, and that was after he took a major decline in his health and developed vascular dementia. And no I never even thought about getting paid to care for him, as that was my job as his wife.
My husband died in Sept. 2020 at the age of 72, and I was blessed to have him in my life.

So bottom line you must do what is best for you both in the big scheme of things, as you matter in this equation as well.
Wishing you both well.
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You certainly cannot be paid as an LPN. That's for certain. IF there is a way to get paid as his caregiver that is dependent on a whole lot of things including the state you live in, his insurance and whether or not he is on medicaid. It is doubtful. If your husband requires 24/7 care you are looking at a whole lot of problems. I would seek the help and advice and assistance of an elder law attorney to begin a division of finances and so on in order to protect your own earnings in future. You need a lot of good, strong and PROFESSIONAL advice now. I am so sorry you are facing this down and hope there is some good recovery ahead for hubby.
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