I feel kind of alone with this. We brought my mom over before her dementia diagnosis when she was about to he made homeless. 20/20 hind sight is great, but it is now too late to see what a mistake that was. Also, by the time we knew what we were dealing with, Covid shut down travel, so she became permanently stuck in this country. I just wanted to connect with others in this situation since it brings unique challenges that even the professionals don't have answers for. There's no Medicaid relief. We don't have enough for our own retirement, but now we may need to carry her retirement/health expenses so she doesn't become a public burden, as they call it. Just would like to brainstorm and connect with others who have done this.
Is it an option to take her back to her home country and situate her in a NH there, which would likely be less expensive than in the US?
I think we have some others who have posted they had to bring an elderly parent here, but Weary stands out for me. I sympathize for you. Hopefully you r getting Mom a Green card because I think thats when residency starts. You are sole supporter for Mom. She cannot collect Social Security or Medicare because she nor her spouse worked in the US. Medicaid takes 5 years. I am with Geaton about contacting Social Services or an immigration lawyer to see if there is anything you can get for Mom.
This is "wearynow's" first post. You can read her other posts by clicking on her name and then clicking on "following". The problem there though is her posts and relies to other posts are mixed together. Make be able to pick out her posts just from the subject line. As you see, she has been posting since 2018 when Mom was still in India.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/anyone-care-for-their-parent-in-another-country-from-here-437260.htm