Does anyone know what a "catfish"is? I was watching a show about this. It is about people who make up personas for forums. Mostly it is on dating sites and the catfish uses fake names, profile pictures and start relationships with people under false pretences. Usually the fakers are just lonely people with low self esteem who do not think people will really like the real them so they make themselves prettier, more educated, with better jobs and more lofty hobbies and talents. But it got me thinking. Do we have any catfish here? And if we do should we care?
What if , hypothetically, I found out we did. Hypothetically what if I was bored with a bad cold and googled some posters on here and found out that we have our very own catfish? HYPOTHETICALLY. Would you want to know? Would it matter? What of I did , hypothetically, out the catfish and the poor people were so distraught that it caused them much emotional pain? Maybe these people are just really lonely. Who cares if they really are not caregivers. Right? But what if these same catfish sometimes wrote hurtful things on here. Would that change the situation any? Or is it still not anyone's place to out them. HYPOTHETICALLY. I mean we all embellish some, right? Maybe I am not such a good person with my Mom as I write. Should I be outted?
This was a by interesting show and there is also a documentary of anyone is interested. It is called-Catfish.
I would really like to know what one would do if they, hypothetically, discovered a catfish. Please.
I didn't mean phone but FUN.
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Bookluvr- it sounds like you are leaving a bunch of broken hearts around your town!! You tease, you! J/k ;0) it has been a loooong time since anyone has made a pass at me. :oP
Eguillot-I have a good husband as well! And he also works in the entertainment biz--well, he makes commercials. ---not so glamorous , really. After almost 18 years of marriage I still get love notes in the morning and my daughter gets a little note as well. We are his girls.
Yes, some people may exaggerate things here and there, we're online, it's not unheard of, but if you hear someone CONSISTENTLY blowing their own horn, AND telling everyone else EXACTLY how it should be done, WHILE they are tearing people apart, AND never admitting to any mistakes or faults of their own. Well there you go.
Why would anyone "catfish" here? It depends on what values they hold dear. Perhaps they value family, or the role of caregiving, or both. Maybe they value teaching or other positions of authority and see themselves as such. If they have access to none of this in their real lives, they may be playing it out here.
Hi all. Been busy. Had my my Mom down last week. She is regressing rapidly. ( sigh )
Sorry to hear about your. How far along is she? HUGS!!!
Glad you are not fishing! Haha. Dangerous waters, me thinks.
Was told her brain stem stroke would make her regress faster than normal and it sure is. She can now barely talk and cannot really feed herself- even with her fingers. She used to be able to walk some but now-- barely. She also is having a lot of visions problems. It is so sad. I am really down right now and feeling b1tchy. So sorry if I am short tempered all. Dealing with my Mom with her needs and my girl's special needs has made me feel so helpless. I just cannot seem to help either of them!
I do miss so many of you. Blessings to you all!!! I keep many of you and your loved ones ( here and in the after life) in my prayers. Hope you all are hanging in there!!!
I will be back soon and post with you all when I am not such a crab a22
Also sometimes I explain that the doctors say his memory loss etc comes from diabetes and heart failure and PTSD etc instead of from dementia, so sometimes all his conditions get better at the same time and he's like normal for a month or so (except for arthritis etc). Sometimes I explain all that and sometimes not.
Sophie is so sweet and I just hate having to take away her treats for behavior at school but she is spitting, hitting and ,new one - licking the school walls!!! Ugh! Something is going on at school and I just do not know what. I do know having my Mom here is hard on her. She loves having her here but it also stresses her out. They are very close. And I have to talk to her about my Mom dying, in small bites. It is going to be very hard for her when my Mom passes and it may not be too long ( gulp). I am trying to get her ready in small calm conversations where we talk about how we will miss her but she will be in Heaven. Sheesh - it is no wonder she started licking walls last week. Tough talk for a young lady with her needs and communication disability and MR.
It just seems like I am trying and trying to make everyone....better...happier. Trying to help out my weary Dad, trying to calm down my girl, trying to meets all my Mom's needs and bring her some sort of peace with her situation( she asks why , why did this happen to her and says she no longer believes in God--that is hard on me). Sometimes I just want someone to try and make me happy. Not my husband -- he does that ( he is great ) but he is in the same situation as me. He needs the same thing. I don't know. I think I am most frustrated that I cannot change things. I am rambling. Sorry.
You are smart preparing Sophie for the inevitable, and that could also be part of the reason for her new behavior. She might be starting to grieve. Hopefully that will make it easier down the road, for both of you. I hope so. :)
the original question was are there any liars on here. i lie like a rug on valium when i have to, oo,oo... when i have to !!
ive been listening to the female metal rocker ' doro' again. what an entertainer. check out her tune entitled ' breaking the law' . hellish good music im sayin..
My father used to say "When you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." As a young boy, I believed people would always do the right thing; and that the truth would set you free. Translation: I was a blind, idealistic idiot. When I moved to the US, I got "catfished" many times. Most of the time by my birth mother; a cokehead half-sister; an aunt on dope since the age of 13; a gay half-brother who "didn't have any place to go" and ran out with all the Xmas presents while I slept; an uncle who took me on a tour of Times Square, got some $ from some fat guy at a porn bookstore, and told me to get on his van for some kitchen repairs at the man's apartment. I ended up on an abandoned building in the South Bronx, he ripped my clothes off and beat me for not putting out. One punch after another, he kept screaming "I pay, you owe."
A little too gritty for your taste? Well, another thing that I learned here in hypocritical, puritanical America is that people demand honesty from you but when you give it to them they don't know what to do with it. ... This forum's moderators might not be comfortable with this post and sanitize it a little bit. Some members might say "It's not what you say Eddie, it's how you say it;" or "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." ... Freedom of speech -- even when you're not crude, crass, and obscene, can be very expensive. Because truth is so strange, some people sugarcoat things, adopt a teflon-like political language & attitude to camouflage their real selves, lie & fabricate to color their drab lives or to signal they actually exist. Many times, in my experience, self-serving predators make up some kind of front to use me, abuse me, or hurt me in some way. To "catfish" me like the 38-27-42 bombshell from a website who 4 months ago turned out to be a 350+ lb., boozing, Bohemian woman on the 6th floor of a dumpy, Lower East Side tenement. ... In retrospect, she didn't play me. I played myself.
What I'm trying to say Mish is that EVERYONE has a hustle. Call it "catfish," attention-seeking boohoohoo stories, legends-in-their-own-minds playing the victim, condescending know-it-alls, and Ernest Hemingways of BS who've never "caregived" the scrawny chickens in their own backyards.
So keep your eyes and ears open; and find your niche between predators and prey so you don't get "catfished." ... Also, remember that the more you talk about others the more you say about yourself.